When I was in high school I had a b/f for 2 yrs...We broke up and remained friends after he joined the military...Then I met a second guy and we dated for 2 yrs...During the time we were together there were many times I missed the b/f prior to him even though I cared for him. Well, now the second b/f and I have also broke up and I met an absolutely wonderful guy. It is like we are meant for each other, but now I sometimes find myself thinking about the other two (whom I have remained friends with). When ever I see my last b/f I start crying uncontrolably. The funny thing is I am not a crier by any means nor do I have a desire to be with him! What on earth is wrong with me????I am afraid that if things don't work out with the new guy he will just be another emotional attachment on my list!!
2007-01-23 14:36:49 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have the habit of looking to the past and you do not like change. Even thou you broke up with the ones from the past for some reason or another when you see them you just see the good times and not all the bad that lead to the break.
2007-01-23 14:41:29 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nothing wrong with you. It's usually natural to want a previous partner and to get over them with a new one. Basically, when you got with your new person, you forgot all of the bad stuff and why you broke up in the first place. Try just thinking about all the bad things. Honestly though, if you remain friends it's going to be hard to forget the good stuff and think of the bad because you deal with the person on a good basis. Maybe you should try just forgetting that you were involved in the first place. Just think of them as friends and think they were always friends and just be happy that you have good friends like that. No matter what you do, you can't hide or surpress your real feelings for good, so you just try to concentrate on the present, instead of being stuck in the past. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-01-23 14:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by The One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We tend to reflect on our past relationships a lot. You look back and remember the good times and it brings up emotions. You just need to learn to live in the present.
2007-01-23 14:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. I do not know your age but from my own experiece if you don't figure it out soon you could be 40 yrs. old and still battling this. It could be some kind of abandonment issue from childhood. I would suggest going to counseling. Good luck.
2007-01-23 14:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by missyanne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are perfectly all right as this is a normal human feeling. Everyone tend to have their past happiness and sadness. You have every right to have this memories even you get this wonderful guy. Go for it, life still have to go on. (my motto is no regret after you have tried or you will regret forever).
2007-01-24 10:53:44 · answer #5 · answered by fong p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋