Are these signs of bi-polar?

Question

My ex boyfriend-
-when i was with him wanted to commit suicide, it was an ongoing issue. (he told me) and he also told another girl before me. there were times he would not answer his phone and shut the world out. There were times he confided in me he would hit himself or punch himself because he hated himself.
-had gotten a one night stand pregnant before we met- didnt want anything to do witht them, cause d depression, didnt want a child, especially with this girl
-then I helped him come to terms, he leaves me to be with the mother of the child, they are not together anymore
-throughout this he was very cold to me, personality changed, he was very hurtful, would not answer me, made me feel it was my fault by what he said to me
-then after some realization..told me it was all uncalled for, his behavior, he hated fighting with me, but then turns on me again, doesnt talk to me,ignores me
what the hell is wrong with him?Is he bi-polar?
He comes from a great family,i dont get it

Answer 1

Could be. There are some other symptoms of bipolar that you would have noticed, like sleeping all day (I mean, like 14 hours or more) or hardly ever sleeping (like feels great after 4 hours sleep). You might have noticed sometimes he would talk really, really fast and have ideas on how he was going to get this great career as a megamillion CEO, or other times, he would really drag and go on how nobody loves him. I know when my behavior was bizaare, ANYONE could have seen there was something wrong with me if they talked to me for any time at all. He wouldn't pick and choose who he gets in arguments with - if he was fighting with you, he'd be having trouble with nearly anyone. Not everyone gets pure mania and pure depression like bipolar is classically described, you can get dysphoric mania, be hyper and feel awful, or agitated depressions, where you're going around and around in circles of thinking & anxiety while you feel awful. But I really dont' think a bipolar person in the midst of terrible symptoms can be behaving normally with some people while not with others.

If there weren't other symptoms besides self-hatred and flipflopping on whether he wants you or not, then it probalby isn't bipolar.

And despite what some people are saying on here, a bipolar person CAN be a good partner, it totally depends on whether they take medication, get counseling, how severe their condition is (and how treatable), how emotionally intelligent they are, what their base personality is, how well you two could work as a team, etc. etc. If a bipolar person really treats their illness like a medical condition, then it is not much different than any other serious illness like diabetes.

Answer 2

Some BI-POLAR signs are extreme mood changes, from way up to way to for no reason. Likes to shut self off from the world. I am not sure this ex boyfriend is or not BI-POLAR, but he does have some real issues that he needs professional help with. He is very confused and needs help in getting his life prioritized by a professional. There is nothing you can do to help him, unless he would listen to you about getting help. Mental illness doesn't care how good a family you come from. He may even have A.D.D.
You do not deserve to be treated the ways he has, and I am sure on a good day he wouldn't. They are just too few to make up for the off days we all experience.

Answer 3

The signs of bipolar are usually quite severe which involve long periods of extremes of mood from extremely happy/irritable to very low and depressed. However peoples expirences vary in severity and not everybody with bipolar has the same symtoms. Those that you have described such as feeling hyper/happy and irritable, stressed not feeling like sleeping etc they can be symptoms or signs of Bipolar Disorder. The only way to find out for sure is to visit your Dr who may refer you to a Psychiatrist who can assess you and see if the symptoms you've been expirencing correspond to those of Bipolar. I also noticed that you mentioned about not being able to concentrate again this could also be a sign but plz dont worry your socks off it could be just be stress etc. Good luckx

Answer 4

From what you describe, I would say this does not sound like behaviour that is characteristic of bipolar disorder. Some of the symptoms of depression are evident, but you do not mention the manic or 'hyper' traits, e.g. making grandiose and fantastic plans that are not carried through, excessive talkativeness that doesn't lead anywhere,spending money wildly, buying three refrigerators for example,excessive and pointless undirected energy, reduced need for sleep, and so on. This behaviour then changes and becomes less 'hyper' and there is a short period of 'normal' behaviour which then becomes depressive. The cycle then repeats itself.

Answer 5

Bipolar? Possibly. People who are bipolar go through stages of mania followed by depression. Usually they are either up or down, and if they are in between, it is short lived. Everyone has occasional mood swings, but prolonged changes in moods that last longer than a few days are of concern. If he hurts himself, or is considering suicide, he needs some help. Perhaps speaking to a professional would be advisable. I also want to mention, that from your story, it sounds to me like he may be confused as to what he wants. Does he want to stay with you or go with this other girl? Seems as though he is a bit manipulative to you. He doesn't want you completely out of his life and seems unwilling to let you go. He is sweet at times, to keep you on the hook, and if that doesn't work, he always has his threats of hurting himself hanging over your head. This is a terrible situation to be in. It must be so difficult not to go crazy yourself! I understand that you love him, and care for him. But, perhaps it is just best to let him go. Tell him that he needs to get some help, and encourage him that getting help is a strong and brave thing to do. Its not a weak sissy thing. Please for your own sanity, get out of the situation. It may hurt for a while, but give yourself time to meet someone who will give a little in the relationship, not just suck you dry of all of your resources and energy. I wish you the best!

Answer 6

Does't matter, does it? You really need to stay the hell away from him...unless of course you like being miserable. He probably is bi-polar. I have a sister that is. They will always be that way. They can take medication, but it doesn't seem to last. She's always on some kind of medication. She doesn't take resposiblility for her actions. (Sounds like your guy) Please, know that you can't save the world. There is someone out there for you that is normal. Don't settle for less. Good luck.

Answer 7

Bi -polar people come from all different walks of life, it doesn't matter what kind of family.
Yes it sounds like he has issues that would warrant a psychological evaluation.
Could be Bi polar, could be Borderline personality disorder, many possibilities.

Answer 8

It sounds like depression to me, not bipolar disorder. You should encourage him to seek help from a psychiatrist, especially because he is suicidal. A person's family background doesn't necessarily have anything to do with it.

Answer 9

Yes he is absolutely bi polar there is no help at all for him
He may end up hurting some one
stay away from him.
don't answer his calls
He is dangerous
find a new boy friend

Answer 10

It could be not guarrenteed to be. Has he got any help? or have you asked a therapist about this? Like i no how it is to be bipolar ,but then some ppl r just two faced. So ya i'd pretty much ask a therapist.