I want my boyfriend to realize he made the biggest mistake of his life, i loved him. I know he will NEVER find another girl like me, we were together for a little over a year, he meant the world to me. He got me a promise ring from Hawaii, ans a very nice promise ring from Tiffany&Co. I know he cares, but he says he just doesn't want a relationship right now. I know he will regret it, I just want him to hurry up and come back. Im lost without him, he was my world, Please help me..
2007-01-23 14:27:05 · 23 answers · asked by kris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sweetie, in time you will get over it just like many of us do....then you will find someone better for you and you will realize that he did you a favor.....and it will be his lose and your gain!
2007-01-23 14:35:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no no no no no. You can't make somebody regret leaving. What are you going to do, stick a knife in his car tires? H=The other thing is that you are being egocentric. It is you who regret he left not the other way around. It hurts when a relationship doesn't work out. It is just tough luck. It wasn't meant to be. Maybe in the future or even a few days he might look back on his desition and say damn, I made a mistake. I had a good thing and let go of it. Then again, he might not. Maybe he was unhappy. Maybe he is relief to leave. Who knows what goes through someones mind.
Another thing to think about is how bad do you want something and how much are you willing to pay for that something. Lets say that he doesn't like you but he stays to make you happy. Ok, so you get what you wanted. However, this is not love. It is half of something. Maybe less. Will you want to live a life where you give your all to some one but never be love back? Never receiving the affection you really want or need or deserve. Yes, it hurts but if he doesn't love you then let him go. You cannot force love. Over time you will get over it and there will be other men (or women). They say that if you have a dove in a cage you should set it free. If it leaves and never comes back it was not mean to be. If it does come back then you know you where meant for each other. Either that or the dove knows you will give it food.
2007-01-23 14:37:55 · answer #2 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm so sorry, sweetie. There's nothing harder than thinking someone loves you as much as you love them to have a ton of bricks dropped on you. It's crushing and I absolutely understand the hurry to get your life back to where it was.
I was in a situation like this once where my boyfriend said he didn't know how he felt about anything anymore and that included me. I was crushed and I didn't know what to do.
Our first reaction when we see someone we love slipping is to hold as tightly as we possibly can to keep them. Unfortunatly, this is the exact opposite thing most men need. Sometimes life gets overwhelming. In many cases like this, the guy is a little confused and just wants to figure things out. The big mistake is smothering them, but another big one is letting go completely.
Make him realize he's made a big mistake by being there for him. Once he realizes what it would be like with out you, he'll have to make a decission. He may just not be the one, but hold on for one more day. He just might. Same experience, and I gave him room and told I was there for him and we're together for 2.5 years now.
Make sure you let him know that you love him, but don't beg for him. Offer your support and unconditional love and pray for things to work out. He may need some time. Don't give up. Best of luck!
2007-01-23 14:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all make mistakes in our lives and most of the time we don't even know it.
This is because our minds are so unclear of what we want, this is because or mind and our hearts are saying different things, this is when the fog of confusion clouds our sight.
Yes, a sudden change makes us feel lost, as we are so used to what we have, but when it is gone, it seems our whole world has lost it's momentum to turn...
This is the time to stand strong and firm, this is the time to take a step back and this is the time to really discover who you are.
Take this little time off, get your mind on other things, it will eventually slow it's pace down... than have a chat with him, because by then, you both should have a steady and confusion free mind to talk.
2007-01-23 14:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by calv83luc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how you make him realize he made a mistake? you dont make him realize he will do that on his own. It almost appears that you are trying to force him back which will only push him away further.. He obviously had/has feelings for you or he wouldnt have got you the ring. Let him go and in time he may or may not realize that you two are meant to be together, dont push him, people dont like to be pushed.
2007-01-23 14:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by angelbaby777au 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm... smother much? No, he will not come back to you because, to him, it was not a mistake and he regrets nothing. You are 18, you have a whole wide world of experiences ahead of you. Learn to live and love yourself! Can you stand in front of a full length mirror, naked, and say to yourself honestly: "I am beautiful"? Can you spend time with no one but yourself for company? If you can't then what makes you think that he in any way regrets leaving you? When you learn to do those 2 things, men will fall at your feet and you will have the luxury to find Mr. Right.
2016-03-14 23:08:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything happens for a reason. Meaning that, God may have taken him out of your life so that the one that HE wants to be with you can come into your life. If he doesn't want a relationship right now, you can't force him. Why don't you try dating other people and see what happens. You may find out that he wasn't the one for you in the first place.
2007-01-23 14:36:58 · answer #7 · answered by ladywardog0501 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your situation. However he may have made the best decision in his life not the worst. He may never find a girl like you, he may find one that is more fulfilling of his needs. BUT YOU MAY TOO... Give this time, for both of you. If he doesn't come back, your hurt will heal and you will love deeply again.
2007-01-23 14:36:09 · answer #8 · answered by tim s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he meant more to you than you did to him ... sometimes thats just the way things go ... leave him be for a while ... if he comes back it means he loves you (or can't find anyone else who will take him) ... if he doesn't come back he wasn't the right one for you to begin with
Life goes on ... it sometimes hurts and isn't always fair ... but that's how it is
If you love something set it free ... if it comes back it's yours .... if it doesn't come back .... hunt the f ucker down and kill it
2007-01-23 14:31:42 · answer #9 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not try to push him into a relationship that he doesn't want to be in. It will make things worse for you and him in the future. If you want any kind of a chance at all of possibly gettting him back, for now you must let him go. Let him find out for himself. If you love someone, set them free. If they come back to you, then it was meant to be !!!
2007-01-23 14:32:13 · answer #10 · answered by pressman22001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so heartbreaking hearing your misfortune--don't let yourself get hurt anymore by him OK?
You just be the best person you can be--do what you think is the right thing to do and if you do that you won't have any regrets later on.
2007-01-23 14:39:44 · answer #11 · answered by Mr_B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋