OK tomorrow my boyfriend and I get the chance to go on a class trip but the problem is he has a soccer game tomorrow and will probably end up going. We never go on class trips so I really wanted him to go and because lately we've both been busy and haven't had to much time to bond so this trip was the perfect opportunity to spend some quality time together but it doesn't seem like its gonna happen. I've missed some of my tennis games when he's asked me to stay with him but it doesn't seem as though he miss his. Am I being selfish for asking him to go knowing he has his first game of the season tomorrow??? I mean after all he will have many more right!?!?!?... Please help!!?!?!?!
2007-01-23 14:25:48 · 9 answers · asked by Ivanna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And when I asked him if, if he had asked his coach to go he said no.
When I asked why he just responded with an "i dont know it doesn't matter anyway".
I mean we never ever have class trips and this will be the first in forever but I feel as though i'm being really selfish, am I???
2007-01-23 14:26:31 · update #1
You are not been selfish, you should get this chances to go with him, let him know it is important to you, if he really cares he will go, he will have lots more game's. especially season openers, they happen every year. YOu should talk to him straight forward, let him know it is important, let hi know you want him there, let him know that you do the same for him. You missed your games, i am sure it would not hurt him missing one. Remember a relationship is a two way highway not one way, do not do everything for him have him do somethings for you. Get him know before it is too late and you are always putting your dreams and wishes aside for him.
2007-01-23 14:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by hugnat2224 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it is his first game of the season and those games are pretty important. but you are not being selfish by asking him to go but you should not get mad at him if he want to play instead--y don't you go to the trip and later when he asks you to miss a tennis game tell him you cant unless you rather hang out with him.
2007-01-23 22:35:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you've given up some games, so I should expect he'd do it for you, unless he's selfish....
It's the first game of the season for him, and I can kind of understand why he would want to go. Give him some slack on this one, and then kindly ask him of he would do it later, but don't put pressure on him.
It's not selfish, since I expect similar things from my boyfriend, but i don't voice all of them.
2007-01-23 22:31:20 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not really but in some cases it happens when the other person tried all they could to be with the other person and doesnt want to think about it because its too sad to think about it u should talk on the phone and go to his games i mean u cant just miss your games u need to have a heart to heart talk with him seriously distractions put aside and talk or else its gonna drive you two apart and cause havoc in the relationship
2007-01-23 22:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by Tamara Loves Kenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your boyfriend is not putting you first, and you have been a fool to put him first. Don't miss any more tennis games for him.
2007-01-23 22:28:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is being selfish and you are being compliant. Stand up for yourself. If this means that much to you then he needs to know. Understand that men are a bit dense. They all fail mindreading 101 and so you have to tell him how important it is to you..If yu have given up tings, dont do it any more. you know know what his prioroties are and that should tell you volumes..
2007-01-23 22:32:15 · answer #6 · answered by psstoffagain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ya- you are- sorry
you and yourboyfriend have all the time in the world to be together. so what if you two are a little busy but that make the relationship a little better-
just don't dwell on it
2007-01-23 22:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by manblind1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes doing whats important to him, don't make the classic girly mistake of not doing whats important to you so you can please a guy. You both will have many more games, and many more boy/girl friends.
2007-01-23 22:31:12 · answer #8 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Again, no. He's not even trying. Its not you, its him.
2007-01-23 22:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋