How does it feel when someone close to you dies all of a sudden without any previous symptoms or ailment??

Answer 1

Yea..my grandmom died three years ago.. and i recently wrote a essay-type thing on it.. a random blood clot killed her within 12 hours.. =/

You Are Still Here
Your non-existent presence still lingers within our hearts. It’s more than three years later now, since my eyes could set sight on you. My adamant heart was cut and shattered into a puzzle with missing pieces.
It was on the night of July 23, 2003. The highlighted in red clock read 11:02 PM. The moon’s rays shun through my window, being the only light inside my room, darkness filling the rest. I hear rustles and whispers coming from the next room, and then a knock on my door. It’s my mother, in a strange, worried voice. She spoke, as tears rolled down her face, the words, “I have to take mom-mom to the hospital.” I respond, “What happened, what’s wrong?” She walked away, leaving me with only a few unforgettable words, “Everything will be okay.” I attempt to go back to sleep, in a room that has a shadowy and gloomy feel behind it. It seemed like the world never had a light source. I knew something was wrong, and I felt something inside hurting, but I fell asleep. Though it may be a mid-July night, my checker-patterned bed with a matching pillowcase, never felt so cold. In my thoughts that night, I could hear sirens and doctors, not knowing what will be told to me next morning. Room silencing, heart-destroying news awaits me. I wake up on the morning of July 24, 2003. Now my clock shows 8:32 AM. Suddenly the night before crashes into mind. I race down the stairs, like I was competing for an Olympic gold medal, and see my brother sitting facing the stairs where I had just come down, my dad facing my mother, and my mom facing my brother. I was naïve, and asked right away, how’s grand mom, my mom responded, “She died late last night.” Tears roll down my face as a flat line screen flashes through my head, for nothing can mitigate this situation—nothing.

Answer 2

Death is a very difficult thing to handle when someone close to you dies. After you deal with death the first time after that you gain a little experience and it may not be AS difficult. Still it's really tough, though. People usually go through about the same order of things--first shock. My mother-in-law was the first death that I experienced. I was there when she suddenly died. I called a ambulance--but she was almost brain dead when she got to the hospital. She had been out shopping that morning with my young son. Everybody reacts different. I was in such intense shock that I could hardly function. My brain wouldn't function right. I couldn't make decisions. It took me a long time to just get thru the shock. When my Dad died I got really angry with him for dying because I still needed him. When my mother-in-law died, I went on anti-depressants and I was still on them when Dad died. The first year is the hardest. Then when a year has gone by I relived the situation in my brain again. Things gradually get better.

Answer 3

My sister went to the doctor because she hadn't been feeling well and they put her in the hospital to run some tests. While she was there her abdomen became distended. They decided to take her for a CAT scan to determine why her abdomen was swelling. I walked down with her to radiology and they took her in the room for the scan and I went to the waiting room just across the hall. She was only in there a couple of minutes and they called out over the loud speaker that there was a code in radiology. Within seconds nurses and doctors were running past the waiting room to the room that they had taken my sister into. I just remember my mom asking "Is all of this for Carol" and I assured her it wasn't... after all she was only 28 years old, so the thought of her dieing was the furthest thing from my mind. Within about 5 minutes the doctor came into the waiting room to tell my mother and I that my sister was dead. Her husband hadn't made it to the hospital yet to see her and arrived about half an hour after this all happened so we had to tell him that his wife and mother of their 5 children was dead. I have questioned many times as to wether it would have been any easier if it hadn't been such a shock but noone wants to see someone suffer a lingering death either. For me the hardest thing to deal with was coming to terms with the fact that I couldn't just pick up the phone and call her like I had every day. Death sucks no matter how it comes! By the way, the autopsy later revealed that she had acute leukemia and had suffered a massive pulmonary embolism.

Answer 4

I had that happen. Feels completely unfair, mostly for that person. Feels like that person is still around somewhere and feels like more, or less, physically-speaking, things really aren't that much different in every-day life (go to work, or school, eat, talk with friends, etc.), yet the fact that this person's existence is no longer makes everything else in life seem like it was dependent on that one person for it to have any value.

Also, for me, it felt like, "Okay, you have passed, it was unexpected, yes, but I can accept it... But what makes it so difficult is I feel like YOU suffered the most and I feel so awful not specifically because you have passed, but because you were a living person and your life was just taken from you and I am so upset because I feel so much pain for the beauty in your life that is no longer because you are no longer."

So, the feeling that persists is that if this person could come back for a minute and just tell me that, "Hey, I died, but I accept it," I would accept it too. I just feel this sorrow not because of my own loss that came with the passing of this person, but because that living, conscious person was living one moment, and the next, that's it.

Which is such a paradox. Why do we feel this way? Why do we feel sorrow for the emotional damage that the death did to the actual person that passed, when this person can no longer feel any pain.

Answer 5

Three months ago my 29 year old son was murdered. I was in shock at first and when I first was told I asked, "What do I do?" Some days I still ask myself that. My world has been totally turned upside down. Some days I just lay in bed. I have no reason to get up, even though I have two wonderful grand kids from him and his ex-wife and another son, I want to be with mt 29 year old. Some days all I can do is cry. My heart has been broken like never before and my soul feels broken. I believe in God as he did. I know he went to heaven. I still want him back to kiss and to hug. I miss him so much it hurts. Some days I want to die to escape to pain I feel. Then I have a day with my grand kids and I have sunshine in my life for a while.

Answer 6

Also many died unexpectedly, such as in fatal accidents or heart attacks. That is why we need to be prepared for eternity. Every visible things are temporary.

In the Beginning God created heavens and earth.
God gives us air to breathe and sunshine to enjoy.
God gives us water to drink and food to eat.
God gives us a wonderful body and sound mind, to live.
God loves us, and we are precious to Him.
Son of God died on the Cross to save us from condemnation.
Jesus’ love is boundless and everlasting.
We have the hope of Heaven through Jesus.
Life therefore has fantastic and glorious future!
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Answer 7

My dad died all of a sudden a few years ago, and I went into shock... just tried to help mom get through it. Then, a few weeks later a very good friend of mine also died all of a sudden, and I went into a depression so deep it took several months for me to function again. For both there was wondering about if there was anything any one of us could have done to stop each of the deaths...

Answer 8

It's a bloody roller-coaster full of emotions. Shock,numbness, grief, anger! My mom died suddenly over 25 yrs. ago, it was devastating. I didn't get a chance to tell her I loved her before she passed. You are never prepared for the feelings that flood you when something like thathappens.

Answer 9

People are of three kinds when it comes to death: 1- They do not give the idea any thought and will quickly dismiss it. Those are people astray. 2- The repenters : They are not afraid of death but they want to have more time to fix their past sins and mistakes. 3- People of understanding: They cannot wait for death as they know this life is not worth it and they cant wait to meet their creator.

Answer 10

It shocked me. It hurt deeper than i knew before. I couldnt breate or cry i just mooped and it felt like a heart attack. i wanted to cry but felt frozen. to be simply it can be one of the worst pains in ur life.