My boyfriend of over a year has continually lied to me from the beginning of our relationship and says he does it to keep the peace. Not for me, it really upsets me and yes I should of dumped him with the first lie. He still to this day lies to me on and off and all he says is " I haven't lied for a long time" and for me to stop going on with crap. I know lying isn't something people should do so am I right to believe he won't stop and please tell me what I should do.
2007-01-23 14:07:30 · 23 answers · asked by golden tigress 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
drop him if he cared he wouldnt life at all excuse my language but drop his sorry ***
2007-01-23 14:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by chrischick2438 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read your letter again and again--till you see what the problems is....you insist on staying with someone who is deceitful and will not stop. That's the problem. The lies are from an early childhood issue---maybe he had unbearable parents or saw lies as being a normal way of life in his family. Lies are not normal and certainly it is just like asking if he knows right from wrong. It is wrong--to lie and for you to tolerate it. If you leave, he will hopefully learn a lesson---now make your choice and decide that you would rather be happy and with a trusting, respectful MAN. Lies are immauture and will only cause you saddness and disappointment...no need for all that. You are already miserable---why make it worse. Good luck to you
2007-01-23 22:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he can get away with it knowing that you know at that he will continue. You are not really doing anything about it so why should he stop. Lying is not cool, you would rather want your feelings hurt by the truth then a lie...right?
2007-01-23 22:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by verysexy29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with the guy. He isn't worth it. I can't stand it when someone lies to me all the time. When the person tells the truth then you never know if they are telling the truth or lying.
2007-01-23 22:17:52 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny... he is going to keep lying to you. People like that follow a pattern. They just tell you lies and dont really think anything of it. a lot of them dont even realize they are lying to you at the moment they are telling you something. relationships like that just bring a lot of fighting pain and heartache. I say you should get out now and find yourself a real man that will treat you the way you are supposed to be treated!
2007-01-23 22:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when someone starts to lie they do it because it easier than telling the truth. But if they continue to lie it means that they just do it out of habbit even when the truth is easier to tell. So you are right in thinking that he will not stop lieing, but insted of just dumping him you should talk to him about it (if you havnt already) and try to work things out but if that fails just drop him
2007-01-23 22:14:24 · answer #6 · answered by gotansas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's lied to you for that long, chances are he won't stop. Nobody deserves that. Is your relationship with his based on lies?
You have to set some boundaries for yourself. Sit down with him and tell him what you expect out of the relationship and if he can't give you what you need, there are plenty of other men who can. Good Luck!
2007-01-23 22:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by viva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I would think that you wouldn't be able to believe him or trust him all of the time. Is that the kind of relationship you want? I don't even know you and I think you deserve better than that. People don't change unless THEY want to change and it doesn't sound like he wants to. There is someone better out there for you and you won't find him as long as you are with the LIAR.
2007-01-23 22:13:47 · answer #8 · answered by BeenWatchin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like any habit lying becomes part of your personality. It is obvious that this guy thinks its ok, so he is not going to change you only can change if you REALLY want to and he dosnt. I would say dump the jerk if he wanted to keep you he would have made the effort.
2007-01-23 22:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by Fire's Shaddow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, I think yous should dump that unfaithful little jerk. If he's doing that to you, why put up with the emotional pain for years? Because, if you don't do something now, he will hurt you even more in the future. Trust me sista, you can find a better man, the man your dating now ain't good enough for you.
2007-01-23 22:14:54 · answer #10 · answered by kunversita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Does he lie to you because you nag him to death? Example: You call and ask him to go somewhere with you. He really doesn't want to go. If he says no, not this time do you accept his answer? Or do you whine and beg because you want to be with him? Do you keep asking him why he doesn't want to go and saying "come on?" That's enough to drive any guy to lying.
Think about when he lies and what he lies about. Then make your decision.
2007-01-23 22:13:34 · answer #11 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋