WHY IS IT THAT WHEN A GOOD GUY COMES INTO MY LIFE THERE'S ALWAYS SOMETHING WRONG WITH HIM? HE'S EITHER SHORT AS HELL, TOO QUITE, OR HE'S NOT THAT ATTRACTIVE. WHY IS IT THAT THE BAD GUYS ARE THE ONE'S WITH THE MONEY, THE STYLE, THE LOOKS AND ATITUDE THAT US GIRLS CRAVE FOR, BUT THERE ALSO THE GUYS THAT ALWAYS END UP BREAKING OUR HEARTS. RECENTLY I'VE BEEN TALKIN' TO THIS GUY WHO TREATS ME SO GOOD YA'LL(I MEAN THAT) BUT I'M NOT USE TO IT, BECUSE I NEVER MET A GUY LIKE THIS. SO WHAT'S WRONG?? HE'S NOT THAT CUTE...I'LL GIVE HIM A 6. ONLY BECAUSE HE'S SOOO NICE. HE HAS A SWEET PERSONALITY, BUT WE REALLY DON'T HAVE NOTHING IN COMMON. SHOULD I GIVE THIS GUY A CHANCE OR IS HE TOO GOOD FOR ME?? I'M SCARED IF I STOP TALKIN' TO HM I'MA MISS MY CHANCE TO BE HAPPY AND I REALLY JUST WANNA BE HAPPY....WHY CAN'T I BE HAPPY??
2007-01-23 13:58:29 · 20 answers · asked by brownsuga 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you sound really pretentious and egotistical. It could be that eventually NO ONE will want you and you will end up alone. I wonder if the ugly ones you speak of won million's of dollars if they would seem more attractive to you.
SHALLOW OREALO!
Good Luck!
'-)
2007-01-23 14:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
That's not true for all cases. Guys do cheat with prettier and younger girls Basically, what you are seeing is a man's reassurance that he's good for someone else. It's his pride to be able to attract someone else. It's mostly a game of knowing that he's hot property, it actually holds true for girls as well. Second it's not about physical attraction, sometimes it's also about the spark that they want. Not all guys do but some find it missing. It's like a predator chasing after a prey they want that challenge. You should know that there's fun in the attraction process, like trying to chase after them and they want that in your scenario. It's not the end that counts but the process. Hope this gives you some insight about this. There are some other explanations to this but I am not going to mention them.
2016-05-24 02:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sugar, looks are not everything. I do agree that you have to have an attraction, but attraction can come in many different forms. I have dated a body builder, one man that was quite heavy, an extremely good looking man, and one that is so so in the looks department, but all had wonderful personalities and they made me laugh, which to me is the most attractive thing a person can possess.
When you say that you don't have much in common, remember compromise can be a wonderful thing, try some of the things he likes, you may be surprised what new interests you may find. Ask him to join you in some of the things you like to do. I have always found that compromise has wonderful rewards. He sounds like he is good guy but you are keeping him at arms length.
One last comment.... Don't ever be afraid to let yourself be happy. Heartache will come and different intervals of your life, but the biggest one can be not allowing yourself to be the happiest you can be.
Good luck.
2007-01-23 14:10:42 · answer #3 · answered by deanie1962 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Continue seeing him and see what happens. Remember that lots of guys seem nice and treat you really good at the beginning. It doesn't always last. Get to know him better before deciding if he's right for you. As for the looks, who cares? There are far more important things.
2007-01-23 14:08:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys have to compensate for their lack of confidence by being polite respectful and all around better people. The jerks you are talking about are often cocky because of their looks and are thus become the "guys that break your heart". Give the nice guy a chance, you'd be suprised what he might have to offer.
2007-01-23 14:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by Jhaycen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is with you! In your second line! You said "he's short as hell, too quite (sic) or not that attractive". You know what this makes you? A shallow *****. Yes, that's what. Until you change your prissy spoilt slutty bitchy attitude, you will never find a guy. Learn to love a guy for his personality and stop whining like a seven year old girl.
2007-01-23 14:02:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
First, girls are attracted to "bad" guys because this way, the girl can also feel "bad" even though they are not. A "bad" guy often comes across as being more confident (he is, but usually he is overconfident and thus disrespectful to many people).
Also, shy guys, for example, once they get into a relationship, strive to keep one going much harder than "bad" guys, and for obvious reasons (because shy guys don't attract as many girls so when they do attract one, they don't want to lose her). A "bad" guy will attract alot of girls and also dump alot because it is so easy for him to attract them.
Ultimately, I almost gaurantee you that you will get married to a guy that was not "bad" in HS. Once people mature, they gain more confidence, and feel less need for their partner to have that sort of attitude that would make them feel more "protected" at an earlier age.
2007-01-23 14:06:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to stop being so picky. If we all waited for a Brad Pitt we would all be single. Go with what your heart feels. when you talk to him, does your heart jump. No one is perfect, besides, who wants one of those super hot guys with lots of money? I couldnt deal with it. It would be fun at first but dont you think it would always be about him? Find someone who cares about you and you could care back. Im not talking some freak, just someone who has some potential. You would be surprised how beautiful someone becomes after you fall in love with them!
2007-01-23 14:03:34 · answer #8 · answered by :) 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
gurl give him a chance who cares about all that other stuff as long as he makes you happy and u 2 enjoy each other's company u have it made. he sounds like a really good guy so hang on to him until you really think u 2 should not be together. at least he as a nice personality i know guys at my school who don't even have that!
2007-01-23 14:13:03 · answer #9 · answered by Brittany H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kinda sounds like you are a little shallow. Give him a chance, you never know where you will find true love. Opposites attract. Don't worry about what your friend think about you dating this guy. You should on be concerned with you own feelings.
2007-01-23 14:05:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should take the the chance and date him cuz u will probably never get a chance to be with some one like him, even if it doesn't work out u will learn form ur mistakes!
2007-01-23 14:03:16 · answer #11 · answered by Jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋