I am a guy and there's a girl I really like. If I'm reading her signals correctly, she likes me, too. Alas, I can't be dating right now because I'm going through a personal crisis. Should I ask a friend of hers if I'm reading her signals right or if she's seeing someone? Should I go straight to her and maybe ask if I've been sending out mixed signals so that she knows why I'm not making a move?
She might not be interested anyway, but if she is, I don't want her to walk away thinking I didn't like her or wasn't attracted (either one feels really awful) because I really do and I really am. That would be why I might be sending out mixed signals to the poor girl. Sometimes it's hard not to let one slip here and there, not that there's any excuse. I don't want to break her heart. I hope it's not too late for that. If it is, then I'm a total sh** for not being more careful in the first place!
Girls, please speak up for the good of a "sister" (meaning her)?
2007-01-23 13:41:52 · 11 answers · asked by infoseeker1972 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In response to one poster, I don't believe in hard to get. This girl and I are adults. We're not in fifth grade anymore. :D I just think it makes a lot more sense to talk to someone, say hi, get to know them. Nobody has to rush anything. Besides, playing hard to get can hurt someone and that's what I'm trying to avoid. ;)
I'm leaning towards talking to her directly (but probably not revealing the details of the crisis).
Thanks for your answers so far!
2007-01-23 17:18:08 · update #1
Nothing works 100% than talking to her yourself. Tell her your situation. DONT tell her your WHOLE crisis, all you need to tell her is that you do have feelings for her but you are going through something right now. Before you do all that though, you should ask her if she likes you. If your too shy to do that, slip her a note. You are so sweet for caring about how she feels right now, I hope it all works out
2007-01-23 13:47:39 · answer #1 · answered by Déjà Vu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep flirting with her to keep her eyes on you. When the time is right tell her that you want to see her but you cant at the time becasue your personal life has taken over all of your social life. Then ask her for a "rain check" on a date some where with her. Dont be affriad. She could be going through the same thing. You might be surprised she might make a move on you! If you trust her friend then you can ask her just dont make your self sound like your obsessed with the girl you like.
2007-01-23 13:48:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a mutual friend mention you "casually" in a conversation that "it's such a shame (insert your name here haha) is having some trouble right now and isn't dating right now until he can get his life together." then if that person is pretty sure she does like you...they could perhaps mention that " I know if he was dating right now you would be first on his list." then segue into something else. That way she knows that yes...you like her...but no you cant date her or ANYONE right now. That saves her the embarrassment ..and you the awkwardness of a direct confrontation. Good luck with the girl and in working out your personal problem!
2007-01-23 13:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by silentscreamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just go up and talk to her to let her know that you are interested, but make sure you let her know that while you are interested in her that you have some personal issues going on right now, but sometime in the future you would like to ask her out. You two could become great friends while you are going through your current situation.
2007-01-23 13:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think u shoul find out what her friends know ! Does she really like u? And plz don't play hard to get! most girls don't like that cuz they think u don't lke them. u have to play cool and try not to make a mistake . But first find out if she has a boyfriend. If she does and u don't know about it u will endup in a really awkeward position. Your next step is to ask her out on a movie or something. if u r too shy then find ur friend that knows her and tell him or her if he ?she could take her and another friend to the movies. You could sit seperately and tell her what u want to tell her. f u realize that she wasn't made 4 u then u should find someone better to date!
2007-01-23 13:50:16 · answer #5 · answered by Jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is be honest with her, tell her how you feel and that at this time you can not date, but when your crisis is over you hope she is still available, as you will need someone like her to talk to.There is no point in asking her at this time if she is dating anyone as you can not.
2007-01-23 13:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by Alma A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 breath 2 its all good, if you play it cool and tell her some thing that makes her know that you really like her she'll get the hint! then if she says something back to let you know that she likes you to then latter ask her out. your probably wondering what to say. hmmm...are you single, or something. no....ahh....who she likes that will tell you some thing. and if that doesn't give you something say your hott. I don't know
2007-01-23 13:51:37 · answer #7 · answered by alien 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd probably deal with my problems first then when you have less to worry about, ask her.
just my opinion...
Hope everything turns out okay!
2007-01-23 13:47:08 · answer #8 · answered by bravestdawg101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like her but too, and everything else about her
keep your thoughts off her or I might bust your head
2007-01-23 13:45:53 · answer #9 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I saw this question I thought it said " I like her butt "
lol!
2007-01-23 13:44:55 · answer #10 · answered by Sandy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋