He was my world, I love him so much and I am devastated. I dont feel like doing anything, Every min of the day I want to call him. But everyone says not too. Its so hard! We planned to get married he called me his wife all the time. I miss everything we had terribly. We both always said we needed one another. How does he need me when He s the one that took the break and said no contact at all for now?? And he changed his password.. do I think of this as just a break for him to find himself.. or that he really never needed me or intended on marrying me? I m so confused and hurt. please help.
2007-01-23 13:29:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well hun as the man of this marriage im in this and id like to say that from my experice about woman he was either was one playing mind games with u to begin with or 2 maybe he really needs a break and the thought of marriage might have scared him alittle and he needed time to think and as far as changing his password maybe he changed maybe he got hacked
2007-01-23 13:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by Angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute! How do you know he changed his password unless you snooped in his e-mail. I can see where he needed a break. You are too clingy and possessive and you don't even trust him with his own e-mail!
I'd think of it as a break to breathe without you invading his space.
You could use this opportunity to get therapy and get over your possessive issues!
Sorry to break the news to you, but unless he's at least in his mid-20s, everything he "promises" you probably won't work out. He needs to have fun, and be free, and he can't do that in a relationship with you.
The only chance of you guys getting back together is if you give him some space and trust him!
You should use this opportunity and break to find yourself as well. Keep yourself busy, and the best thing that will help you get over him is time.
2007-01-23 21:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if he wants a break and you don't leavehim alone, then any chance you two had of getting together will dissapate. But if you really need your heart to settle, call him. Just once more and say "Okay you need a break. And I understand that. Im willing to wait. But Im only willing to wait for you to come back. I don't want to wait if you've already made your mind up and we're not going to get back together. If your confused I'll wait just let me know what your doing when you find out". Alter that to your own words and agrrements. Im telling ya, unless he's dependant on you (which is a bad thing) then he will get tierd of you bothering him if he needs time alone and no matter how much someone loves you, sometimes if you don't give them privacy they'll leave you. And it hurts more in the end.
2007-01-23 21:35:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mirror 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thers is an old saying that goes,"Everything will come out in the wash" meaning that in time you will know what is going on with him be it for the good or for the bad. As far as his password goes, leave it be because everyone is entitled to their privacy. No one knows my password and they won't either unless I decide that they need to know it or if I am away form home and I call and need something of importance.
2007-01-23 21:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by n0s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd probably best think of it as the end of the relationship because it's not going to be the same if he does return. He undoubtedly meant the things he said when he said them but has apparently changed his mind. You have a right to feel sad and lonely and upset and all the things you are going through and will go through. Try to start doing things for you. Things will get better but it will take time.
2007-01-23 21:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first of all, his password is none of your concern. maybe he thought you were being too clingy. my girlfriend said that about me (when we broke up), i gave her periodical calls, and i wasnt shady with her at all. Clingyness is a baaaaaaaaaaad thing whether you want to belive it or not.
you held on to him soooooo tightly and now that hes not there, so youre having a harder time leaving him.
Trust me i know how badly it hurts. if you want him back, dont let him tell you you cant call or talk to him, but dont be annoying and call him all the time, every day. give him calls every few days or so. and start hanging out with him, and when you think youre getting close, start playing "hard to get", and before you know it he;ll be back
good luck
2007-01-23 21:39:29 · answer #6 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His email is private, and you shouldnt be going through it. If my fiancee were to go through my phone or email, even though i have nothing to hide, i would seriously consider breaking it off, because there is an obvious trust issue. The best thing you could do is stay out of his personal business. You may feel that you need and love him, but he needs some time to himself occasionally. It sound to me that you are smothering him.
2007-01-23 21:36:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down and dot get your hopes up. I mean If I told my bf that I wanted a break I would change my pw too. Hes prob. talking things over with his friends and he doesnt want you to hear. Now keep ur self calm cuz this could end very bad or just the opposite.
2007-01-23 21:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by Human 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need his email password? Perhaps if you weren't snooping around he wouldn't want a break.
2007-01-23 21:34:32 · answer #9 · answered by ubiquitous_mr_lovegrove 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard. But you need to give him time to figure out whatever it is he needs to figure out. Try to keep yourself busy to take your mind off of him for a while. I know it's easier said than done. but you CAN do it.
2007-01-23 21:33:13 · answer #10 · answered by engineer46526 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋