Save the date magnets?

Question

I am personally addressing them, but wanted to know if I should write Mr. John Smith and Guest or just Mr. John Smith. I am inviting guests if someone doesnt have a significant other, as I think its rude not too. Also, should I just use normal hand writing or calligraphy? Im not a master at calligraphy, far from it, but I am trying. Thanks for everyones help in advance.

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The wedding will be semi-formal

Answer 1

I would just address them to "Mr. John Smith" no guest, you can add that when you send the invitations...also this gives you some wiggle room if you see that you are inviting too many people or are overbudget...if you send the save the date w/"guest" you are tied in to inviting the person with a guest. You might anticipate inviting everyone w/guest, but as it gets closer, might decide to only invite those who have serious girl/boyfriends.

Normal handwriting is ok for save the dates, or you could print labels out. They are less formal and more fun than invitations!

Great idea to send magnets!!

Answer 2

You should definitely put Mr. John Smith and Guest...that way he knows that he can bring someone.

As for the writing...it isn't important that the save-the-dates are in calligraphy. I would recommend, though, that you get the invites professionally done. That is the last thing you need to be worrying about and everything will look more uniform if a pro does the job.

Answer 3

The save the dates do not have to be formal and handwriting or labels would be fine. Keep the formality of addressing the envelopes for the actual invitation. Then use Mr. Mrs. Ms. etc. Also, do not indicate guest on the save the date. On the actual invitation, if you are using and outer and inner envelope, put just Mr. John Smithon the outer on envelope. On the inner envelope put Mr. John Smith and Guest. Definitely use nice handwriting or calligraphy for the invites. Have fun planning!

Answer 4

1. Normal handwriting is fine, calligraphy is nice but not necessary. Computer printing is a no-no.

2. Although you'll see this contradicted in some sources (including at least one cited below), tradition says that wedding invitations should never be addressed to unnamed guests. If you know that one of your guests has a significant other whose name you do not know and whom you want to invite for the sake of your friend, the proper thing to do is call and ask the name (you can just say you want to get the spelling right).

But weddings are not couples parties to which the unattached need to bring dates or be odd person out. Weddings are celebrations with people you care enough about -- and who care enough about you -- to be invited by name.

If you wish to encourage all your single friends to bring guests, that's your right. But it is NOT rude to invite a single person to your wedding without including a guest, and no unattached person should ever ask to bring a generic "guest" to a wedding (or worse, do it without asking).

As a single person, I have gone happily alone to many weddings, and I've found that much easier than explaining that there was no one I wanted to bring or drafting a date for an event he had no interest in. (It also adds to what is probably already a ruinously large guest list!)

Answer 5

For 'save the date' things, just address it to Mr John Smith. When you send the invitations, that's when you need to worry about the "and guest" part. :)


As for handwriting, I would say it depends on how formal your wedding is going to be. If these are just cute little magnets, not real formal, then normal handwriting should be fine. If they are classier, and indicative of a more formal wedding, you should try calligraphy or at least fancy cursive. Check your local bookstore for books on how to calligraphy properly if you need some tips.

Answer 6

I'd never heard of a "save the date" note until my cousin sent out magnets last summer. Try just saying "John Smith and friend" WITHOUT the "Mr". It's supposed to be an informal notice, so the language you use should be informal as well. Plain handwriting should be fine.

Answer 7

I think the "and Guest" is a great idea. I like the magnet idea too. I never thought of that. Guest is just fine. It will let them know that it is ok if they bring someone. I have all my invites written to "and Guest". Just make sure you make your final count with the guests too. Congratulations!

Answer 8

I agree that inviting a guest for single people is proper. Handwriting is fine, just take your time so it looks neat. I do have a suggedtion for the magnet if you havent ordered them as of yet. Go to Vistaprint.com, they are very reasonable, and have great templets to choose from.

Answer 9

Do not put "and guest"

On the invitation, you address it only to people whose names you know. Then, on the RSVP card, you ask for the number of guests that you invitee will be bringing and sometimes, people ask for their names.