What would you do?

Question

What would you do if you mother wanted you to take your brother into your home to live? What would you do and what would you say?

Well the position she is in is bad she is very unstable which is causing him to become depressed and his grades are falling he also lives far away from me and she tells me that he misses me and cries alot.What would you do if you mother wanted you to take your brother into your home to live? What would you do and what would you say?

Its not that she is a bad mother she has been through alot in life and he has moved from school to school because she is not financially stable.

Answer 1

I actually am in that position. My mom wants me to take my younger brother in because he's gotten out of hand. I don't know what position you're in, but I explained that I have to think about what's best for my daughter and that's not going to be trying to transform a teenager. If you don't have a child try to explain that you don't have any ideas that she hasn't already tried or that you're at a place in your life that you don't have time to take care of the both of you. Consider why your mom needs the help, maybe it would be best for him to live with you after all. If that happens I would let him know what your rules are before hand so there's no misunderstandings.

Answer 2

That would all depend on the real reason for mother asking you to do this. If mother just wants him out of the house cause he's a trouble maker then seek out a social worker to see what needs to be done for brother and if mother can't do a thing with brother then you better just say no!
Whatever the reason for your mother wanting your to take your brother into your home and you to take care of him is completely up to you but if you are married and have a family of your own then please think twice about saying yes because this could really put stress on your marriage and no one deserves that no matter what anyone else says either.
I can't think of any good reason for your mother to want you to take your brother into your home and you're the only one who knows why she's asking you this so please think it over very carefully because it will make a change in your life for years to come, believe me it will.
Best of luck to you and take your time thinking about what you're going to do.

Answer 3

Lots of issues here> First is, "why". Is your mother having trouble controlling him? If so, insist on him going to therapy...with his mother. If there are economic reasons and he's a good kid, take him in and lay out the ground rules. And enforce them. If it's your mother's health, help her and, lay out the ground rules. You are being asked to be a parent to your brother...this isn't reasonable...unless there's really no other alternative. Bro is mom's job, not yours...but if it has to be done, then do it while insisting on brother's cooperation. Tough choice here. Good luck.

Answer 4

If I thought I could handle it and my hus agreed, I'd say yes and do it. Nothing to say, except how can be get this arranged so that I'm his legal guardian in case of emergencies.

Answer 5

If he needs help - yes, I would. If I'm not wealthy, I would say that I'm willing to do whatever I can to assist him until he can stand on his own feet. He must be willing to help himself as well, not just totally depend on me.

Answer 6

I guess that depends on the relationship you have with your brother. Do you get along? Is he reliable?
It has to be your decision.

Answer 7

i would say yes hes your brother and it sounds like he needs you.

Answer 8

Tell her that is her responsiblity, not yours.

Answer 9

TELL HER TO TAKE HIM