I am 7 1/2 months pregnant and we have a three year old son i know how hard being in the military is on relationships and i dont know what to do.
2007-01-23 12:59:00 · 14 answers · asked by n&z-mama 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
he is having a hard time getting jobs and thinks this is basically an only choice. also we are VERY young.
2007-01-23 14:45:56 · update #1
You are either with him or against him. no 2 ways about it.
2007-01-23 13:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by Yo it's Me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a million. Why does he opt to connect the militia? it is important. His motives are severe. turning out to be a member of the militia could be an excuse or a alternative for some thing lacking from his general existence. if so, thats no longer a solid reason to connect. 2. What YOUR existence would be like could count on the place he trains and the place he's deployed. particular components have awful situations for spouses, others have greater powerful situations. 3. every person is distinctive. some infantrymen stay committed, others do no longer. some spouses do, some do no longer. It particularly relies upon on how that individual bargains with rigidity, loneliness, and so on. the undeniable fact that your boyfriend holds his thoughts in isn't a large commencing component. this ability he does not have an emotional outlet aside from what he unearths someplace else. think of roughly what meaning. people who carry emotion interior do it as ability of attempting to maintain administration. this ability a loss of administration. The very concern you reported is "no excuse".
2016-11-01 03:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by being honest, both to your self and to him. Are you not wanting him to join for your safety, or his. What are the reasons you would support his decision? Have you look into the benefits of the military life? I would strongly advise marriage before the leap. Both for coverage of benefits if he does get hurt, and because the military system is set up for couples and singles not boyfriends or girlfriends. The health and life benefits are only available to spouses. Your children will lead an exciting and full life, and you can be very happy with a honorable, well trained , polite, man. A quote I have heard 'Judge no man who chooses to serve his country for to deny him the right to serve his country is to deny him his very dignity'. Good luck sounds like his is on the raod to being a great man!
2007-01-23 14:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by AntMan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust him, then let him join. I have a close friend in the
Army, and his son is too. He will be coming home soon from
Iraq. We IM and E-mail each other. I get up 5:00 am so we
can talk its 3:00 pm over there. I trust him to stay safe, and
be careful and come home. Yes i worry about him.
like right now I did not get a e-mail from him yet
and he always has by now. I trust he will.
just as soon as he can. not to many guys want join now god bless for wanting too. you should be proud of him
2007-01-23 13:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him thanks!
My husband is in and we haven't had 1 military/marriage related problem. 10 yrs - both married and in the military.
The only thing I miss about civilian life is choosing where we want to live.
It's really not a bad life. Civilian world- 1 kid...I *had* to work (different husband). No way around it. Military life, 3 more kids, and I'm able to stay home with them. We're not rich by any means, and they do not pay more for more kids....but it's worth it.
2007-01-23 13:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't understand why being in the millitary would make things hard on relationships, if you and your boyfriend have a genuine relationship than nothing will come between that. besides there are real benifits for families (health dental 100% free, tax free shopping on base). but probobly the best thing to do is for both of you to sit down and discuss the issue together and both of you say what you feel on the subject and work somthing out
2007-01-24 09:39:47 · answer #6 · answered by puffdaddy_1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, how old is he? Does he have a job now that pays well? Why does he wanna join? If he wants to join to provide a better life for all of you that is cool. But I would probably bring up to him his responsibilities to you and the kids, and what him getting deployed does to that. My answer is only based on info in your question, I reserve the right to change it after more info. Also, you get no benefits if you are his girlfriend, you have to be married to him for benefits to affect you.
2007-01-23 13:05:59 · answer #7 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, you will support his decision, and be proud of his selfless choice to defend our freedoms. You will learn to adjust to the living apart and it will only make you love each other and appreciate each other all the more. If you really love him, you can do it.
2007-01-23 13:19:00 · answer #8 · answered by heavnbound 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has no business leaving you to join the service, with you pregnant and a 3 year old. Honor is sh*t.
2007-01-23 13:08:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow that's really sad! If i was in your spot I would say to him
" listen dear i know this means a lot to you but maybe you should do this later when Our child is born and when our child gets older because i dont know what I would do without you.
2007-01-23 13:09:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋