How can I cope with not having a boyfriend?

Question

Valentine's Day is coming up and I have to go through the same thing every year. I don't want to be alone again and I don't want to be miserable just because everyone else is happier than me. I look around on a day to day basis and see the same thing around me. Every lucky girl at school has friends or a boyfriend. Even my mom has love in her life again. I see everything that I wish that I could have. Friends or a good boyfriend.

Answer 1

Valentine's Day can be depressing if you don't have a valentine to share it with - it can also be lots of fun, if you focus on the positives rather than dwelling on the negatives.
Instructions
•STEP 1: Do something nice for yourself like taking a long, hot bath by candlelight, or pull out your credit card and a catalog and have fun.
•STEP 2: Rent or go to an action movie, preferably one in which at least one of the prospective love interests gets killed off near the beginning. (James Bond films are great for this.)
•STEP 3: Avoid romantic "date" movies completely, unless you like feeling melancholy.
•STEP 4: Buy yourself a bouquet of your favorite flowers or a box of your favorite chocolates - at least you get to choose exactly what you want this way!
•STEP 5: Do something you've never done before. Go hang gliding or horseback riding, sign up for dance classes or singing lessons, or anything else that strikes your fancy.
•STEP 6: Go somewhere that isn't likely to be pushing the Valentine's Day theme. Sporting or theatrical events are good possibilities.
•STEP 7: Have some fun with your other single friends. Rent movies and get takeout food, go to a nightclub, or have dinner together at a nice restaurant. Call it an "Un-Valentine" party if you like.
•STEP 8: Get a head start on planning your St. Patrick's Day party or spring vacation.
•STEP 9: Call or write to someone you've lost touch with - could be just a friend, or someone you once had a crush on.
•STEP 10: Help brighten the day for someone else who may be spending it alone: Take some flowers to a local nursing home.
Tips & Warnings
•A solo Valentine's Day can be a good time to sit down and write a detailed list of goals and dreams for your own bright future. Remember: Only you can make your life what you want it to be, with or without a significant other.
•If you decide to take yourself out for dinner on Valentine's Day, bring a book or journal to keep yourself occupied; this will make it obvious to restaurant staff and patrons that you planned to eat alone, and haven't been stood up by a date.
•Stay in touch with the world! Resist the temptation to turn off the ringer on your telephone and crawl into bed early.
•Try not to snap if people ask you what your plans are for Valentine's Day - they probably mean well, and don't intend to hurt your feelings.

Answer 2

Hey it is going to be OK. I know how you feel, I was there for many a year with no boyfriend. Beleive me no matter your weight you age you size your looks there is someone special out there for you, and he is looking for you this very moment.

As for as friends that one is a hard one as well. It must be a lonely feeling you are having right now. If you are the type that is abused at school, I am sorry. The best thing you can do is have confidence in yourself even though others do not. If you are not being picked on, then you do have friends, you just need to make yourself more assertive, let people know who you are, and friendships will happen. It would also do you some good to go to a counselor. This is assuming you are in school. If you are not, go see a counselor anyway, they are not bad people and they will get you back on a different train of thought.

I am sorry you are feeling the way you do. I do understand and I know it hurts. It is hard to feel something that seems so empty, but the best way to start is to start beleiving in who you are as a person.

Answer 3

Hi!

You know, sometimes the harder you look for someone to have in your life, the harder it is to find one. Also, when you get to the point where you want someone in your life just because it might be Valentines Day, or some other holiday, or because someone else has someone in their life, you may have the tendency to settle for just about anyone who comes along. When you settle for just anyone, you're settling for less than the very best for you. And that's not a good thing. A relationship is something special, and you need the right person in your life, or it'll be a disaster. And I'm sure you don't want any hurt in your life, right?

When you're in those times when you're alone, that's the time to get out into the public a little. Do some volunteer work, help others who are in need. Put yourself out there, doing something constructive, and you'll be seen by others. You'll not only be doing a good thing, but you'll not be so focused on being lonely, and you just might meet someone out there who is right for you, and they might be lonely too! Give it a try!

Peace!

Answer 4

It really isn't true that everyone else is happy or that everyone else has a boyfriend or girlfriend. It seems that way sometimes. When I don't have someone, it seems like everyone else does. But when I do have someone, it seems like there are a lot of happy single people out there! It seems like we tend to want whatever it is that we don't have. The biggest mistake is to have a boyfriend or girlfriend just to have one. That's very miserable. It's better to wait for the right one. Cope by realizing that you will have someone. It's impossible to say exactly when, but probably it will happen sooner if you act cheerful and fun.

Answer 5

Its not a big deal..
Don't be jealous of your friends and be your self..
Try to not to think all this again and again..
And its not like that, that you need a Boy friend only..
The Valentine Day is not bonded with any rule that you need to..
So many peoples out there even don't know about this day..
So try to invest your quality time in something else then this..
and also try to celebrate this day for your self..
Cause no one can luv you more than yourself..
Take Care..
SMR..

Answer 6

you must have friends. there are people that care about you the way you are. i foudn myself searching and searching for the right guy to come along and i tell you it doesn't work. not every valentine's day will be this way. stop looking, he'll come to you. you're a wonderful person and someone will recognize that. and not every girl that has a boyfriend is lucky...trust me. i don't have a guy either...it's alright. just wait it out, it ALWAYS ends up better that way

Answer 7

it's the same with me/ but maybe you should ask ur mom to spend valentines with u...it's always fun to hav a girls day out (or in) with ur mom/ also (if u hav the money & time) sending flowers to urself is always a good pick me up (put a little note on it saying something like "Just To Say I Love You") loving urself when u hav no one else to love u is always helpful :] ... Happy Valentine's!

Answer 8

get over it
i think you are in love with being in love
its hard but maybe there are no guys worth liking
i dated all these guys- TOTALLY NOT WORTH it
i have more time for friends and school and im single im living and well im lovin it. you are looking at this the wrong way. in relationships i envy the single girls. you can flirt freely, hang out and hug guys with out being accused of cheating, and at school it doesnt matter if ur having a bad hair day

Answer 9

Try not to focus on what a gigantic looser you are, that will only make it worse. Instead try to make yourself feel better by indulging in fattening foods like Bon Bons, and start adopting pets, I'm thinking cats for you. The more the better. They will make excellent friends since no one else wants to be around you. Oh and cry yourself to sleep.

Answer 10

i know it sucks but i mean whould you rather bei going out with some one when you dont love each other for the sounds of it you got 2 choices ones if you like anyone get up and ask them out
2 you could just deal with it its just one day of the year