26 and 17??

Question

I am 17 i work with a guy who is 26.

we have been alone together on more than one occasion but we have never kissed. there were a few moments where he started to learn in slightly but he pulled away.

we flirt and talk all the time and get along great.
i have been calling him a lot recently and we have hung out almost everyday in the past two weeks.

well we hung out last night and there seemed to be quite a bit of attraction. we were together almost the whole night. but i didn't call him once today and he basically ignored me. we hung out on our break at work and were in a car together but other than that it was almost as if i wasn't there. he usually comes right up to me and starts talking but today he stood by me but didn't talk to me but talked to the person next to me.

i've noticed that he is EXTRA friendly to me when his ex is around too.

i like him a lot but i'm getting mixed signals from him. what's going on?? what should i do???

Answer 1

I hate to say this but you really should consider backing off. I can speak from experience it sounds like he's using you as a kind of trophy to get back at his ex. I was in a similar situation when I was 18. I was seeing a thirty year old who was using me as a trophy girlfriend. He just wanted me around for show. When no one else was around it felt like I didn't even exist to him.
Be a teen, enjoy yourself, and date guys around your own age, in the end you will appreciate it.

Answer 2

There is a HUGE difference in your place in life when you're 26 and 17. Think about it, this guy is old enough for college, to drink alcohol, and to rent an apartment. You on the other hand, have only recently been able to see an R-rated movie by yourself. Look, I work in a high school and I'm 23-- 17 year olds are children in my eyes. I know you don't want to hear it, but it's true. What are your major concerns? A biology test? What jeans you're going to wear? Parents? Do you know some of the concerns of a 26 year old? For my older friends, it's marriage, bills, rent, and tuition. You're body isn't even done growing yet. If this guy is attracted to you, he is sick, and you need to GET OUT. There are plenty of guys your own age, focus on them. This guy is probably giving you mixed signals because he knows he could be ARRESTED and considered a PEDOPHILE for being with you. If you care about yourself and this guy, you will GET OUT!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

Wow!!! This was me 10 years ago. I was 16, almost 17 and I worked with this guy. He flirted with me all the time, told me things that a young women would just love to hear. So what did I do? I fell for him. It was the worst thing I could do. Anyways I got pregnant. I found out he had been cheating on me. I ended up having to hide my relationship with him because of our age difference. I couldn't do anything with him and if we did we had to go out of our city. But when I got pregnant everyone knew of course. Anyways he later became my husband after 3 yrs. We really had nothing in common. It was a HUGE age gap. Nothing!!! I am now divorced with 2 kids from him. But now looking back since I am 26 I ask myself "what the hell did he find attractive about a 16 yr old?" We had nothing in common. Just attraction. I was married for 5 yrs. 5 yrs I will never get back. Being that young you don't know what love is. It's just lust. You learn love when you get older and more mature. Hun just stay away from him. Your jail bait to begin with that is probally why is acting the way he is.

Answer 4

The age difference isn't the issue here because you sound like you've got good control of the situation (haven't kissed or initiated anything else).

It does sound like he is using you as a tool to make his ex jealous though, and that should signal to you that a relationship with him would not be wise. I think you've both been having fun flirting and there's nothing wrong with that. I don't think you should hang out with him away from work though because it doesn't sound healthy for you unless it's a group setting. Maybe he's sending mixed signals because you are underage and he doesn't want to cross the line and end up in jail, or maybe he's just screwed up.

Either way, I think you should let your eyes wander and consider dating someone else, perhaps closer to your age.

Answer 5

Wait until you're 18, first of all.

Extra friendly when his ex is around? Perhaps he's trying to make her jealous.

But hey, I wouldn't have a problem dating someone 9 or 10 years older than myself.

Answer 6

i think any guy that is extra friendly around his ex has not gotten over her. i dont think he is ready so i think you need to keep your guard up and not let this go to far. maybe he is pulling away for the same reason, because he knows he is not yet ready to move on emotionally. dont be a booty call or a rebound.

Answer 7

RUN!!! NOW!!!

This guy is a sicko if he is going for a 17 year old and he is 26. He only wants to take advantage of you and your naivety. Get away fromhim before you get hurt badly!

Answer 8

he could probably be using you since your so young, especially around his ex. although you might have an attraction to him its better to get some one on the same level as you, its less stress. men his age sometimes tend to fool around with girls your age because they find them gullable and easy to fool. not saying that he is one. ask him bout his change of mood, and be careful not to fall into any foolish traps like him trying to bewitch you by saying he loves you. dont stress yourself about him, your young, there will be plenty more men your gonna be attracted to. enjoy your youth!

Answer 9

I would be carefull, it sounds like there is something not quite right here. I am just getting that feeling. You need to back off. This guy is not any good for you.

Answer 10

He look a little bit old for you.
And I think you answered your question yourself. If you have doubt, that means your mind try to tell you something about him. Listen to your signal.