always plans dates...ahead and spontaneosly...he took me out to my very favorite restaurant for my birthday...hes making future plans for things we can do together...hes 33, im 25...we are both very successful...this weekend i went out for my birthday...i got drunk...(last birthday i was dealing with a divorce and rape)...i wanted to go out with friends this bday and have fun...he had to help me home, he was a little miffed, he also doesnt like that im sick a lot (ulcer), hes very into health, yesterday he sent this text message : - P and that was it...today he sent a text asking if i had plans for tonight...i texted back "yes" and then dinner with friends, you? he said gym and no plans. Then he calls me a few min later and im busy meeting my friends in the restaurant...i dont answer....i call him back when im finished...his phone is turned off...i leave a message and then call back when i get home...he doesnt answer...this is not like him...is he just playing games? does he think i
2007-01-23 12:48:35 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you two really want this kind of relationship, if it can be called that? Sounds like you are both sparring with each other,playing "one upsmanship games"-immature
2007-01-23 12:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by marlynembrindle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given this little bit of information, I'll do my very best to answer this.
It seems that at first, he was interested in you. And this has tapered off quite a bit. I have mixed feelings as to his motives for this, and I also have mixed feelings as to some of the things you are doing.
First of all, if you have a peptic or duodenal ulcer, physicians can basically clear that up within 6-8 weeks with antibiotics, unlike the old days when it sometimes became necessary to do surgery. Times have changed. Go to a competent physician and see if you can get your ulcers under control. As for your boyfriend "not liking' that you're sick all the time, I think he could be more supportive of you in that respect. Relationships have hard times as well as good times, if he were mature, he would see that.
At this party, you said you got drunk. You know, some men do not respect a woman who acts this way. Can you not control the amount of alcohol you take in? Do you have to get so bad off that you need to be carried home? I think a little restraint on your part is needed. I know a drunk date is quite a turn-off for me. Maybe it was for him too, do you think?
If your correspondence and phone calls are slacking off, it might be an indicator that this man may be becoming disinterested in you. I'm not saying that IS the answer, I'm saying that it is a possibility. If this man does not return phone messages, then you may be getting a subtle hint.
It sounds to me like the both of you need to improve on some things in your relationship, respect one another, and ditch some bad habits. If not, then this one is not likely to work out. Think it over.
Peace
2007-01-23 20:00:29 · answer #2 · answered by C J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop obsessing. He may be doing something. My goodness....just be friends to him. Don't get drunk around him (ick)and put him first occasionally. That is all he needs.
Be legitimate and honest and he will too. And stop obsessing. Why text message? Just call and leave one message, then go to bed.
Make plans in a couple of days. That is it. Drama is not appealing. So don't do it...and all will be good.
2007-01-23 12:54:58 · answer #3 · answered by kishoti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both playing games.
You ignored him, blew him off, and apparently didn't offer to include him in your plans with your 'friends'... hey, we all understand when it is 'girls night', but at this delicate stage of your relationship, the stuff is sensitive, and now it is starting to hit the fan...
The both of you probably have only 1 chance to straighten this out, otherwise just call it quick and stop it before it gets out of hand.
Good luck.
2007-01-23 12:54:51 · answer #4 · answered by Been there 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the way you responded to his txts it sounded as if you were blowing him off... and then not answering the phone... men will take that as "ok so she just txtd me but now she cant pick up her phone? whats up with that." He turned his phone off to be defensive and make you suffer as well. He's not playing games....he actually may think that you are. Go see him.... tell him your worried and see what he has to say. goodluck. all will work out.
2007-01-23 12:58:27 · answer #5 · answered by john e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id give him some time. if he did all of that for you, then he obviously loves you, so i dont think hed just start to shune you from his life because you have other plans. if you dont hear from him in another day or so, then id drive over to his house to check it out, and while your there then try making some plans with im sometime.
i really hope everything works out for you
2007-01-23 13:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by freddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's probably just upset that you didnt go out with him that other night/ just reassure him that u love him (thats if you do) and plan a night for u 2 tgo out! Good Luck!
2007-01-23 12:55:19 · answer #7 · answered by Ana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he went out or went to sleep. Give it more then 24hrs anyway
2007-01-23 12:53:10 · answer #8 · answered by ronnie82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋