a guy broke up with me aftere dating for 10 months because he was cheating and gotten another woman pregnant. He told me he was in love with her, and he wasn't in love with me anymore. We had a cell phone plan together and he still decides to keep me on his plan and continue to pay my cell phone bill. I asked him to come and get his things from my house and he comes and we end up having sex. He told me after he felt guilty because he didn't want to hurt me again. He came by the next day totalk and it ended up happening again, but he still tells me he loves me and care about me. What am i suppose to think when he tells me he is happy with his pregnant girlfriend? but still tells me things like this? Is he really happy or he just saying that? What am i suppose to do?
2007-01-23 12:47:39 · 30 answers · asked by carey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop letting him have his cake and eat it too. What the hell is up with all you women lately who let guys treat them this way. Why don't you have enough self respect to not allow people to treat you this way. No woman deserves to be treated like that including you!!! You're better than that. It's time you let him know that!
2007-01-23 12:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by The Pig! 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being a neutral observer here, I'm going to give it to you straight, ok?
First of all, I don't see a whole lot of love going on here, just alot of lust. This whole thing is entirely in the blender and it's all mixed up!
Let me lay this all out to you, this is what you're looking at:
1. This man is not only cheating on you, but this other lady. So that tells me alot about his fidelity. Do you honestly love a man who consistantly lies to you just so he can get into your bed?
2. This man is also lying to this other lady. Relationships are built on trust, not lies.
3. This other lady is pregnant and there is an innocent child involved here. Why should the child suffer because three adults cannot act like adults?
This man is not feeling "guilty", he is playing up to your sympathy to get you to give him what he wants. It would not suprise me that he is laying the same talk on the other woman.
What should you do? Kick this man to the curb, cancel your cellphone plan, and detach him from your life. You do not need someone in your life who consistantly lies to you. That is a scenario destined for doom. If you do not stop it now, you are asking for a world of hurt. Do you want that? I would hope not. Find someone who respects you, and is honest with you.
2007-01-24 04:13:09 · answer #2 · answered by C J 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kick him in the taco and move on.
He's playing games with you and being dishonest to his new mate. I hate to be the one to tell you this, but you are effectively nothing more than a booty call to him now.
You may have had a decent relationship with him at some point, but the fact that he has cheated on you, and is now cheating on her says that hes not a dependable guy and you need to move on without him. He will continue to use you to fulfil his physical needs until you cut him off or things go very badly for all of you.
Guys will tell girls anything. Most of them don't do it intentionally, but when sex comes into the picture we will say some of the most outrageous things in the world to seal the deal.
With his integrity in question, I would not believe a word he says. Regardless of your final decision, don't allow him to continue to use you to fulfil his physical needs until you get some sort of resolution and a redefinition of your relationship with him.
2007-01-23 20:58:36 · answer #3 · answered by bmblack34 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see, he cheated on you, and he got another woman pregnant. That right there is enough for you to end it once and for all.
Not to mention that you are putting yourself at risk for catching a sexually transmitted disease from him, even if he uses a condom because they can break.
You may still have feelings for him, but the sooner you stop having sex with him and let him go for good, the sooner you will be able to move on with your life.
Have a good cry. Grieve if you must. Move on. Enjoy life.
One day you will be with someone who really loves you, and you will be in a happy healthy relationship.
2007-01-23 21:01:30 · answer #4 · answered by Seldom Seen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's telling you these things so he can still sleep with you on the side. This guy cheated on you and is now cheating on his pregnant girlfriend. Does that sound like someone you can trust? Someone you want to be with? He is showing a complete lack of respect for you, his current gf and his child. Run! Run far far away!!
2007-01-23 20:53:48 · answer #5 · answered by gg_6225 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear gal... its kinda obvious to me that he is jst using u... and after he have done "it" with u every single time.. he simply finds it empty leaving u like this, that y he ends the day by saying i still LOVE U!!
Jst for a moment u think k... if he can still have sex with u while having another women who is pregnant at home waitin, how long is it gona take for him to do this to any other women and ending up with the sentence > "i love u"
2007-01-23 20:59:39 · answer #6 · answered by sUnseT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl,
He's a man having his cake and eating it too!!
make him lay in the bed he made it's called the grapevine effect he will hold on to you in case the fire gets too hot there with all the responsibilities he is going to have.
He should Only break your heart once {if at all} don't let him keep doing this feelings are not good or bad its what you do with them and these are guaranteed going to be hurt-full no matter what He will always be that babies daddy and she will always be in his life one way or another move on... {{{HUGS}}} MELISSA 36 f ohio
2007-01-23 20:56:26 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you need to stop having sex with him. Secondly, if he has anything else at your house, mail it back to him. Thirdly, get yourself a new phone and pay for the plan yourself. Finally, respect yourself enough to move on as much as this may hurt and find someone who will truly love you and only you! Best wishes
2007-01-23 20:53:10 · answer #8 · answered by awoman8559 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pay your own cell phone bill. Why rely on someone else to do that??
You have to move on, girl. He cheated, got someone else pregnant, now wants to keep you both hanging on while HE makes up his mind. ... What the???
While you allow yourself to be treated like this...you will be.
If your best friend were in the same situation... what would you be telling her to do?
2007-01-23 20:54:12 · answer #9 · answered by belmyst 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My impression...I think would be just saying that, but there's really no way for me to tell. He is still paying your phone bill and seems to indicate he cares for you still...but maybe not more than his new girlfriend? I'm not sure any of us can really help you much on this one, sorry to say.
2007-01-23 20:51:58 · answer #10 · answered by sarai_kristi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋