Should I tell a potential girl friend the whole truth or the more convenient half-truth?

Question

I'm currently beginning a very promising and enjoyable career as a legislative assistant and legal attaché in the Institute for Legislative Action [ILA], the legal and political wing of the NRA. I believe that the actions of the NRA/ILA, and to a small degree my personal actions, help to ensure the protection of the Second Amendment Civil Rights of all Americans.

However, I have found that if a girl I am attempting to ask on a date inquires into what I do for a living, and I answer her honestly, she will usually loose interest.

I was wondering if should either continue to be honest and hope to find someone is not bothered by the fact that I fight for the civil rights of all Americans, a strategy which has yet to work, or if I should be less then perfectly honest about my career, possibly mentioning only that I work for a lobbying/legal defense firm, and then reveal the truth after a girl has gotten to know me???

Thank you in advance for any advice.

By the way, I only went into the degree of detail to describe my position because I wasn't sure that the individuals on this board would be familiar with the ILA or its mission.

Where I live and appropriately socialize, namely Washington, DC, there is no such confusion.

Answer 1

I would absolutely be honest. If the girl is so close-minded that she can't accept what you do or what you believe in, she's not worth it. At least then you will know what kind of person she is. Besides, wouldn't you want the girl to be honest and up front with you about things? When you don't present someone with the whole picture, I think it opens up the potential for distrust and conflict later on.

Believe it or not, there are some girls (maybe not in DC!) who think what you do is awesome. :)

Answer 2

absolutely tell the whole truth about what you do! it's your choice, your career, and you sound like you really enjoy it - something not everyone can say about their job.

so if a girl can't agree with you, that's her problem. don't ever leave out a part of yourself just for some girl - if she's really worth a relationship, she won't care about your job but about YOU.

i would suggest against only mentioning a little, then revealing the whole truth later - I feel like that could easily backfire. The girl would be fairly hurt if she finds out about your real self later...that's just unfair to her.

that's not to say you HAVE to tell a girl. but if she asks what you do, tell her. and make sure you don't go out of your way to avoid telling her - for the same reasons as above.

good luck!! =]

Answer 3

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Answer 4

How excting will it be when the woman of your dreams asks you what you do for a living, you tell her the whole truth, and she is completely fascinated by what you do, and admires you for it?
I think it's best to begin a relationship being totally honest.

Answer 5

I feel that honesty is the best policy. What happens if she finds out later. Then she might feel that if you lied to her about that then you have probably lied about other things. So it is best to start out on the right foot.

Answer 6

Honesty is always the best policy....why would you want to hide what you do? If she cares about you, it won't matter...that's part of being in a relationship, she may have her opinion, you have yours, but you support each other and encourage.

Answer 7

There is a very simple answer.... Always tell the truth. Then you have nothing to answer for later.

Answer 8

be honest because if you lie it may come back to bite you. if i was with a guy and even if i loved him and i found out he did something i did not care for i would leave him. you don't win love with lies find a girl who likes you for you.

Answer 9

Well, you don't need to be dating Democrats anyway. Go ahead,tell the truth and weed them out.

Answer 10

Ok, this is going to be harsh.

TELL HER AND IF SHE DONT LIKE IT U CAN HANDLE IT BUT THE HELL WITH HER IF SHE LOSES INTEREST, but be nice about everything of course.