I don't talk to myself as a second person. I just say things like, I should do this and that. I've started doing that two or three years ago. The habit started when I was under pressure from school exams, and I think because I didn't have someone to talk to deeply about my emotions.
By the way, I lived with my family until last year, when I moved away to study; so I don't think being away from my family is the reason, and also because I used to talk with myself out loud back home.
Most of the time when I do this habit, I feel that I'm relaxing myself. I try to say things like, everything will be ok, don't worry because you are this and that.
When I stop doing it, I feel really stressed.
I'm 20 years old, Male, freshman in college.
Thanks 4 helping me
2007-01-23 12:35:01 · 9 answers · asked by john f 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sorry about the mistake in my question.
*Is that unusual?
2007-01-23 13:39:33 · update #1
antisocial personality disorder thats what it sounds like, you may want to do some research on it so you get to know more about it.
2007-01-23 15:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Embrace the time you have in solitude. It is a very special place to be and nowadays people think it's crazy to not hang out when asked and to not be around people. The great thing about being alone is it provides you the knowledge of loneliness. People are often scared of being alone but you and i both have a way with it. So don't fear it, but instead embrace it and use it for your own good. I too, am in solitude. I love it.
Just let yourself relax with a couple of friends once in a while and and enjoy your time alone as well. That way you can face the unfortunate events of loneliness if it comes your way.
2007-01-23 21:10:49 · answer #2 · answered by Alchemist 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If talking to yourself makes you less anxious, do it and don't be concerned. Everyone talks to themselves, some just do it silently. I do not believe talking to yourself is anything to be worried about. We all have "mind chatter." You just verbalize it. In fact, when you tell yourself "don't worry, everything will be ok" etc. you are using a psychological technique called "disputation." In other words, when your mind tells you that you're not "good enough" or you can't do something, you're just disputing the negative messages your mind is sending you. If you went to a counselor, they would tell you to use the technique of disputation. Another helpful technique is transference. If you can't sleep or are worried, mentally schedule a time to consider the issue later. If you're worrying about something, make an appointment with yourself to consider the issue at 10 am on Friday, for example. Also, college is hard! You have many reasons to worry about your performance. You are in a stressful situation. Your behavior is not unusual.
2007-01-23 20:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by David M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to any of the novels that take place in the late nineteenth century like... oh say a Dickens novel. The characters he always uses to fill in the background are such as you. Yes there are many like this. Seldom do authors explain how life is divided into two groups .The winner-players and the loner-givers. You are accepting your group. Now find others in it. Then learn the second vocabulary of the winners and your life will be a terrifying experience everyday as you see yourself rejected by the other group in their language. No wonder you avoid them. I do too.
2007-01-23 21:38:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it's unusual. i'm the same way. in the summer i go 4 bike rides and i will start talking 2 myself just 2 calm down or relax. there's really nobody that i would want 2 talk 2 about my feelings or anything like that so talking 2 myself is the only way i can do that. a lot of my friends have told me that they do it 2 so i guess 4 a lot of people it's normal.
2007-01-23 20:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by the idiot down the road 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't think it's unusual, especially for someone that is isolated. I am speaking from experience as I talk to my cats and spend most of my time alone and I am not very social either.
If it's becoming a concern for you, talk to a psychologist or therapist about it. They might be able to help you better understand why you do it and why you feel stressed when you don't do it.
That's my $0.02CDN.
I hope you find answers that will help you. :)
2007-01-23 20:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by mandynadeau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I talk to myself like that all the time. "I need to do this, and that, and the other thing..." or "everything's going to be fine, sarah, stop freaking out." I mostly do it when i'm stressed, but it happens other times too- when i'm doing something artistic/crafty like scrapbooking or something. So I certainly wouldn't say you're crazy, and I would bet not that unusual in this situation either.
2007-01-23 20:44:50 · answer #7 · answered by sarai_kristi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty normal dude. Just relax and just let life happen. You'll make plenty of friends over the next 4 years of college.
Good luck!
2007-01-23 20:43:39 · answer #8 · answered by KERMIT M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think so that u r abnormal... u are absolutely normal...
enjoy ur life...
2007-01-23 20:43:09 · answer #9 · answered by n032639 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋