I drive to my boyfriends house EVERYTIME we see eachother, unless it's a holiday...then he comes over. He doesnt have any good reason not to come over...he just...doesnt. My parents wonder if he even likes them! And they wonder why he's never around? And why I have to drive to his house everyday. What would you think or do about that situation?
2007-01-23 12:34:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-01-23 12:39:40 · answer #1 · answered by Rutroh 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like this relationship is a one way street. And you are doing all of the driving!
A relationship is a partnership, a team effort. You cannot personally be the glue that holds it all together. Neither can you be the one who makes all of the effort.
To me, there is a reason why he does not want to be at your home. Perhaps it's because your parents are there and he feels restricted in some way. The question is, restricted from doing what? Is he more at liberty to do what he pleases in his own home?
Regardless, I think seriously, that this man is showing quite a bit of selfishness. Neither is he respecting you as a person, or showing respect to your home and your family.
If I were you, I would consider this relationship and determine if this is really where you need to be. Time and time again, it's been proven that if someone is being selfish and self-centered in a relationship in certain areas, they will be the same in other areas. It's not all about him, there is another person in this relationship who is not being considered.
Best wishes to you.
2007-01-23 21:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by C J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 03:06:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would get OLD real quick... I think it's partially your fault to because he knows it really doesn't bother you that much if your ALWAYS doing it. So if he can get away with never making an effort then don't expect him to. I can understand why your parents feel the way they do. Your going to have to stop going over there all the time and catering to his needs. He's showing to you how much effort he's willing to put into the relationship which isn't alot...
2007-01-23 12:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by xcura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a boyfriend like that and all he did was take advantage of me and treat me like crap. If he really cared a lot about you he would make an effort to go and see you as well. My relationship got really bad with him becoming very controlling to the point it really messed things up adn i ended up dropping out of college adn then he started messing around on me. I would get out of the relationship before you become too attached.
2007-01-23 12:42:44 · answer #5 · answered by little bit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he hates your house, maybe you're poorer than him. Or he thinks it's dirty or smells.
It could be that he doesn't like your family.
Now, the more realistic answers:
He does not feel comfortable having intimacy with your family in the house, and he's not gonna come just to chat.
He feels you are not worth the drive or the gas money.
2007-01-23 12:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by sweetwat3rmelon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He absolutely needs to come see you at least 50% of the time. It may be that he is most comfortable at his place, but we all are. He needs to make the effort as you are.
2007-01-23 12:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by Van 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to start having that car head in another direction its a 50/50 thing dont put it more than u are getting out
2007-01-23 12:37:31 · answer #8 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's uncomfortable around your parents. Or does he like to make out all the time? n
2007-01-23 13:07:36 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husbands daughter just was dumped after putting up with this behavior for 6 years....he never came to her family....never went to her place....never took her on vacations....never took her to his family....but she was good to go to his place on the week-ends...hmmmm....sound familiar?....This is someone that has no intention of becoming committed....doesn't want to get involved with your family because he has no intention of it being permanent....but if you are giving him bootie....that works for someone that wants to keep it loose....I just don't understand why women don't value themselves more....Do you value yourself?....or do you want to give years of your life chasing something that you are never going to catch....and you will never be able to retrieve the time that you are investing. Good luck.
2007-01-23 12:44:48 · answer #10 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your boyfriend isn't that loyal to you because a true boyfriend would try to visit their girlfriend as often as possible...
2007-01-23 12:37:20 · answer #11 · answered by Hideaki Takizawa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋