So I am engauged to this girl. Every few weeks she goes nuts and gets all mad and starts throwing stuff around and breaking things and yelling and stuff then the silent treatment for like three or four dayz. Happens almost like clockwork and their is never any reason for it. Just gets mad about randam things , sometimes over nothing at all. Then one day everything is back to ok like nothing ever happened.
With her for awhile, like years, but I don't think I can continue to deal with someone so vicious like this.
What can i do to change this, I wnat it to work out. Aleways pissed off at me and i have no idea why?
Anyone else have issues like this? What did you do about it. Long way to throw it away and braek up at this point.
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2007-01-23 12:26:36 · 23 answers · asked by ohno w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try asking her to go to the Dr. Maybe it's some type of personality disorder.
2007-01-23 12:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by mandapandaz80 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, perhaps you are right.
There is nothing wrong with dating this person if you want too, but do you want to be married to IT for the rest of your LIFE!
Could be premenstral syndrome, could be some sort of mental disorder. I would suggest mentioning it to her...but if she flies off the handle and starts throwing things...just remember that it is a real hint of what life will be if you marry her.
I had a friend who dearly loved his girlfriend. She kept attacking him, yelling, embarrassing him. After 4 years it only got worse.And he was a doctor. He suggested medication. He knew what the problem was...but he couldn't fix it. She had too. And she didn't want too. I suggested moving on. He did. Took a while to recover but he did. And now he married a real treasure.
Start with normal and your chances of a happy life are much better. A little pain now is worth saving years of misery later.
I hate to say it...but CUT the cord...or be ready to be really unhappy for a long time.
2007-01-23 20:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by kishoti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be frank! Tell her, sit her down and let her know her behaviour is ruining your relationship. Let her know that she is doing a very good job of pushing you out the door. Communication is very important. Its the lest you can do since you have been together for a few years plus the fact that you two are engaged. If she persists after your talk, then you let go. Noone wants to be in a stressful relationship.Noone wants drama with no reason as you say it. So go ahead sit her down when she is in a great mood and have this talk with her.
2007-01-23 20:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with her and have a serious talk. Ask her why shes doing what shes doing. More than likely she'll get mad for just talking about it, but you wont ever know what really is going on unless you speak with her about the issue. Talk to her when she is in one of her better moods. It could just be something thats going on in her life that she doesnt know how to handle and the only thing she does know how to do is vent her frustration on you. Let her know how you feel and that you dont plan on leaving her for this. I hope you get things figured out. I wish ya the best!
2007-01-23 20:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a number of things, including her menstrual cycle. If it is hard to deal with you may want to consider breaking up with her. Toy with the idea, at least. Accept it as a possibility. Consider living the rest of your life that way. Seeking counseling is OK but that might imply trying to change her, which is something you cannot do.
2007-01-23 20:38:22 · answer #5 · answered by hrld_sleeper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not a doctor, but i do have a little knowledge about some mental disorders, there is a possibility that she could have a touch of bipolar or aggravated depression, or something of that sort, the best thing to do would porbably be to get her to see someone, like your local mental health agency, alot of them will base costs on a sliding scale so it isnt necesarily going to be that expensive, they can prescribe medications an also have programs to assist on the cost of those.... i would advise you to sit with her when she isnt in one of her rages and talk with her and maybe suggest something like that, try not to come off as bieng judgemental about it, and make sure you let her know that you are concerned for her, maybe you could even offer to go with her so she wouldnt have to go through it by herself. Good luck
2007-01-23 20:36:18 · answer #6 · answered by abzillamonster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the medical suggestions mentioned and that you should put off, probably forever the engagement. She can be fixed but even if it's purely physical she may have emotional issues now that can last for a very long time. Do you really want to leave her home with your kids? Run.
2007-01-23 20:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say if it is happening once a month, she needs some hormone therapy.
Seriously could it be related to her menstrual cycle? You need to keep track of when she is turning into a raving lunatic and figure it out and maybe talk to her when she is having a sane moment. At the very least surely you can talk her into some couples therapy.
2007-01-23 20:28:56 · answer #8 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get some counselling or at least go see a doctor. Sounds like some sort of mental health issue, maybe some sort of chemical imbalance or hormonal problem. Whatever it is, its not healthy for her or you. Definately get some help.
2007-01-23 20:31:16 · answer #9 · answered by AussieHel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that. That is along time to be togehter. I have the same problem, except my fiancee is a man, no a woman. We took him to the Drs. to find out was wrong and come to find out he has a hormnal imbalance that is genetic. He now takes medication daily, and is perfect. Just a thought...
2007-01-23 20:30:46 · answer #10 · answered by looking_4_0drama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋