My 15yr old girl has had sex and has also had an abortion. do I allow her to continue to see boys. We have moved from the state we use to live so she is no longer in contact with the young man. I want to trust her she is not a bad kid. At the same time I want to put a tight hold on her without smothering her.
2007-01-23 12:25:21 · 11 answers · asked by spyse2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand what you are going through. When my daughter was that young, I found condoms in her bedroom and the boys wallet. And I can tell you that smothering her is not the answer. I tried that. It only made it worse, and now I am raising her kids. I do agree with the supervised dating. At least that way she knows that you are trying to trust her again. Hopefully she has learned from her mistakes and wants to be a better person for it now. The only thing I think can be suggested at this time, is to play it by ear. See how things go at her new school and the type of friends she falls in with. Then take it from there.
2007-01-23 12:43:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is going on birth control at 13. That is not an ok to be sexually active but a preventitve incase she is. I have taught her right from wrong, but am smart enough to know things happen in the heat of the moment. First of all you can't stop her from having sex no matter what you do. Try to be open with her instead of controlling she may respond better. Ask her if she feels she should be able to date since she was not responsable and got pregnant. The conversation should flow from there. Ask her questons and let her answer them. She needs to prove herself responsable.
2007-01-23 12:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 16, and I've found that I tend to do the opposite of what my parents tell me to do if they're trying to impose something on me. My best friend's parents, on the other hand, let him do what he wants to do, go out when he wants to go out, trust that he does his home work, etc., and they have a much better relationship because of this. By letting him do what he wants, he still respects them for letting him learn his own lessons, which will help him out later on in life. As in your case, I would allow her to go out, and I would not try to lecture her about not having sex. She's made the mistake, she's seen what happened, and now she can learn from it. Since you've already moved to another state and she's had an abortion, that's definetely punishment enough, and she should be able to learn by this for the future.
2007-01-23 12:33:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So I guess that you are ok with that. That she disrespects you. The girl wouldn't see daylight til first she could follow the house rules. Second She would not be allowed to date till she was 18 and on her own. If you think it ok for her to do all that she is doing then why are you asking for our opinion
2007-01-23 12:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by cowboybronco01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it happened to her onve are u waiting for a second time. Keep that girl on check because you might go through it again. you might not see what she does, but others will and she is not going to be looked upon as a good girl as you want. she is far to young anyways.
2007-01-23 12:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by WonderWoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you crazy? no she needs to worry about school and being a young woman not about who she is going to sleep with next boys should be the last thing on her mind she is so young to be having sex
2007-01-23 12:31:49 · answer #6 · answered by rednsweet4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must be a terrific kid: Sex before the age of 15 + abortion.
I wouldn't worry about dating, since more serious matters already go about (sex, unprotected sex).
Help is not warranted for "dating", but for sex ed, self-respect, and responsibility.
2007-01-23 12:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by sweetwat3rmelon 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
hmm it sounds like you need to get ur daughter more under control. maybe you shouldnt allow her to date until shes about 16-17. well I guess going out for coffee wouldnt be taht bad
2007-01-23 12:33:21 · answer #8 · answered by kyah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she would be allowed to date only supervised, at least until you knew she wouldnt be having unprotected sex again
2007-01-23 12:33:35 · answer #9 · answered by cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is wayyy too young to be sexually active! she should stop seeing guys until she can be more mature and trustworthy.
2007-01-23 12:31:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋