My girls are 6 and 9, and I'm scared at how they will react when they find out there is a new baby on the way. Any suggestions?
2007-01-23 12:01:35 · 18 answers · asked by whiteygirl79 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
just sit down and tell them the truth, be ready to reassure that you have more than enough love for all of them. if you are not opposed have them help pick the first and middle names for the new baby. when the time comes see if you can arrange for them to see the ultra sound, or maybe go to one of your OB visits so they can hear the baby's heartbeat. I'm pretty sure you can get books for their age group that are geared to helping them understand that Mommy's having a baby at Barnes and Nobel. Good luck
2007-01-23 12:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by irish eyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had to deal with the same thing last week I just came right out and told him. " we're having a Baby" I didn't really ask him if he wanted it or not ( I know that sound mean) but really thank about it if your happy and have been wanting this for a while like we have your not just gonna give it up. We just made sure or at least tried to let him know that he was just as importation as the new baby, and our love for him will never change He really happy but still upset because he will not longer be the baby. Its just going to take time
2007-01-25 08:43:23 · answer #2 · answered by victoria c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, why are you thinking negative. My daughter is also 9, and everyday she ask me for a brother or sister, and she already has a sister on her fathers side. I think that telling them, will not be a problem. They will be very happy, knowing they might have a little sister, or brother lol. Tell them that mammy has great news for them. Tell them that soon there will be a new member to the family, and they could even be able to take care of him or her. hey they will be delighted to know that they could help with the feeding and diaper changing. So relax its going to be OK!
2007-01-23 20:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by empress29 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's what I did... my kids were the same age as yours when our surprise came along! We were at dinner one night and I said (SMILING), "So, you guys... remember how we've always said we're a family of four and we like it that way? Well, we're gonna be a family of FIVE! Isn't that great?"
They will absolutely take their cues from you... from this, through sibling rivalry (I didn't act like it was something we would allow, so they didn't go there!).. through the rest of their lives... they'll follow your lead. Be HAPPY about it... and they will be too.
Oh.. and at their ages? My guess is, they'll love it... They'll get to help decorate the nursery, pick out clothing and such... include them in those things as much as possible... That should help, too!
2007-01-23 21:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by Amy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit them down while playing a game and ask them if they would like a new baby in the house...and then tell them well good luck!!
2007-01-23 20:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them if they would like another brother or sister.
if they say yes tell them it will be a while.
if they say no which some kids will. ask them why not.
then through out the pregnancy work on them say things like "do you think the baby would like to be in this room" or "do you think the baby would like that.." "The baby loves you"
2007-01-23 20:09:03 · answer #6 · answered by shush_that 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them they are going to have a new baby Sister or brother they will be so happy! My kids were
2007-01-23 20:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by d41516 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When we found out we were pregnant again we just asked the kids what names they loved. Then when they asked why, which they will, you say "so you can help us name your new little brother or sister". My kids were sooo excited. Also.. make sure they are a part of it. That way it is EVERY ONES baby. That helps. Good luck and congrats
2007-01-23 20:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
kids at those ages usually are very happy about a new baby, tell them gently in a quiet moment without pressure from you about their reaction , then take your cues from them about how much detail to go into.
2007-01-23 20:09:47 · answer #9 · answered by deborah c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was 9 when my mom told me i was getting a baby brother....I remeber saying " are you kidding, another baby" then something like "aww man!!" Im 19 now and my mom told me she almost cried when i said that....lol
Just tell them...it will be fun to see their reaction
2007-01-23 23:59:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋