i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. Its never been the easiest of relationships, but we've always pulled through our problems..after taking a gap yr last yr, i went to university to become a nurse. The first term went fine between each other, and he has been so supportive of me going, even though there is an hour flight between us.
However when i came back for christmas it had been 2 months since i had seen him, and i was expecting him to be so excited about seeing me, wanting to get me on my own asap wanting to be together that evening but instead i got a one arm hug and then things went straight to normal. All holiday, it was like he carried on with life and i fitted into him and his friends plans, he also started flirting with girls whilst we were out which he hasnever done infront of me b4 and i just felt like we have now become routine.
There is no spark for me anymore...i have tried talking to him about it but he says i am just moaning that he does feel the same
2007-01-23 12:01:28 · 4 answers · asked by H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he just can't be bothered to talk about it at the moment and to just chat away to each other like there are no problems. I have tried doing that but am finding it very difficult, i love him to bits but our conversation is just the same over and over...i have tried spicing things up between us sexually and nothing seems to work....now at uni, this guy has been flirting with me and even though i would NEVER cheat, it has made me realise that my boyfriend doesn't say or do anything to make me feel hot or that i mean everything to him. I know he loves me, but i also feel like i just exist in his life and its just got far too comfortable and he doesnt feel the need to make any effort. Now ive been seriously thinking about breaking up with him, but its tearing my heart apart...im not sure what else i can do......
2007-01-23 12:05:25 · update #1
its time that this relationship comes to an end...
fun is key in a relationship
2007-01-23 12:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by answer! this 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did that same thing. Then thinking that it would change, I held on and married him. There was no spark, no passion. I realized that i loved him to pieces but, I wasn't "in love" with him. It was really hard to end the relationship because I didn't know anything else (I met him when I was 18, a month after high school, married him at 22, and divorced him at 23). It was a lot of heartbreak that could have been avoided. Decide for yourself if you are really "in love" because if there is no spark and other people catch your eye, you probably aren't.
2007-01-23 20:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by emmlie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually when you feel the spark has gone, then the spark has gone, instinct i find are almost always correct and if you have doubts that flame has gone then you can only try to re light it.
if you try hard to bring that spark back, and he doesnt respond then i would seriously advise you to consider whether hes happy with the relationship.
try doing things you used to do when you first started dating, try spicing up your sex life
if he isnt showing any improvement in a few months then hes really not worth it
2007-01-23 20:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by jemma c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that he has life with out you thats all thats okay to if you feel thats its an end than take it like that and move on peacefully its not the end of the world.
2007-01-31 17:46:39 · answer #4 · answered by sweetsss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋