i broke up with my boyfriend sad right but w/e but the reason is why..... we were in a long distance relationship for like 2 years and then he just started acting strange since we used messenger for communication ,when i singed on he would sign off.and when i called him he wouldnt answer or when i did he sounded cold also he would give me all these exuses after we broke up,"o im going to be busy till next month" which he couldve told me while i was crying over our relationship wondering what i should do.then i told him we might as well stop the relationship enough was enough and now im shocked because i said we can still be friends and hes acting all cold like those 2 years went to waste .now a part of me is wondering if i shouldve stayed and work it out and another part is saying that it was good that i left when i did before i got hurt anymore.what do u think about i just want another persons perspective to look atthis situation differently thanxs:]]
2007-01-23 11:52:05 · 11 answers · asked by baby_tiffy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im in a long distance relationship myself and I know how frustrating it can be. Its hard when most of your communication is just through email. You didnt do the wrong thing by breaking it off with him. More than likely he was seeing someone else and just tried to avoid you as much as possible. Its hard to get over someone, but its something you need to do. Hes not worth it.
2007-01-23 12:02:00 · answer #1 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, I think that the way for this sudden change in his attitude, is maybe the long distance relationship was not working out for him, and he doesn't know how to tell you, fearing he might hurt your feelings. But he seems very immature though if you ask me. I think u did the right thing by ending it. If he is not mature enough to tell you why he's avoiding you, then he's not mature enough to have a good relationship. You did the right thing. Let him come around!
2007-01-23 20:01:18 · answer #2 · answered by empress29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A long distance relationship is not a "real" relationship - face it. What is the point of it? You are right to not be wasting any more time with this guy - just go out and find someone real. There's no need to even pretend and "be friends" - just move on; if he doesn't want to have anything to do with you, more power to him, just forget it and get on with your life.
2007-01-23 19:58:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hurt, not hurt, pain, no pain... it's all about the feelings of emotions.
If it didn't hurt, then there wasn't something, so be glad that there was something.
Did you learnt anything? Did you gained anything?
If you learnt something, therefore you gained something, so don't look deep down, but instead, feel deep down... see what your emotions are trying to say.
You have your heart and your mind arguing at the moment, that is why you have one part that says a) and one part that says b)...
But know that, you have taken a step back to review this whole process, so let your mind and your heart fight for a bit... they will come with a solution soon...
:) Time shows us all...
2007-01-23 20:06:22 · answer #4 · answered by calv83luc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definatly shouldnt be blaming yourself, u shouldve known from the start that long distance relationships dont work out, and that was probably why he was acting awkward and cold, he started to lose his affection because he hasnt seen u for so long and it was right to end the relationship. i know its hard now because he doesnt really act liek he wants to be friends, he acts liek he doesnt care. but u shouldnt be blaming this on urself, if he doesnt want to be ur friend then thats his loss and it was good that u left him, because ur relationship wasnt going anywhere from where it was heading. u did the right thign dont beat urself up over that! good luck hope this helps!
2007-01-23 20:10:37 · answer #5 · answered by Daisy! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy has hooked up with someone else and wasn't man enough to tell you straight out. you are better off without the guy,
go out and find someone who you can actually have a normal relationship with, instead of this long distance nonsense.
2007-01-23 19:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by mark_grvr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a real tuff situation, he sounds like a bit of a d**k tho...id just forget him.long distant stuff can jus screw things up.Find sum1 whos gonna treat u rite and just enjoy ur youth....cud u really c urself spending ur whole life with this guy? if not uv dun the rite thing.
hope this helpsx
2007-01-23 20:25:29 · answer #7 · answered by * *sUnShINe GiRl* * 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you did what was best for you. Leave before you got hurt any worse. You are #1. Look out for yourself.
2007-01-23 20:00:00 · answer #8 · answered by Dorrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wat a boyfriend and girlfriend should do is to talk about wat is happening... just like my friend they had alot of problems she thought that he was cheating on her with her friend but instead he wasn't her friend wrote that note saying i want to be with u so he was never cheatin on her... know she is heart broken cause she broke up with him i think she should have talk to him about it firt in stead of breakin up.... that is wat u should have done with ur boyfriend in stead of breakin up wit him first.... i have been in alot of relationships that have gone bad and some good... but now i know i should have talkin to them first.... i am in a relationship right know and we just had a fight i thought we where goin to break up but we talked about it first.....
2007-01-23 20:06:07 · answer #9 · answered by shannon2rocks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are doing the right thing. trust me.
2007-01-23 19:56:05 · answer #10 · answered by ursula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋