3 weeks ago my ex-bf called me & asked me to see a movie with him. The weird thing is that HE was the one who dumped me, we only dated for one month AND this call came after one year. I said yes, he picked me up then as soon as the movie was done he drove me home. It felt kinda rushed, on the drive home when I asked him why he wanted to see he said "I wanna see you every once in awhile". We never had sex xuz he knew that I wanna save myself for marriage. During this year although he never asked me to se him, he did talk to him on msn. Is he stringing me along" what does he want?
2007-01-23 11:44:04 · 16 answers · asked by Hottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He probably realised he likes you too much to not see you, even if it took him a year (us guys are slow;-). So maybe he just wants to be friends who share a history. The main question is; do you feel happy about it? If this makes you feel weird, talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. Be honest, tell him his behaviour is confusing you and make sure he gives you an answer that doesn't leave you wondering...
Good luck
2007-01-23 11:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by Mikewave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh yes. It is difficult to say if he is stringing you along. However, I will say that what you have experienced is quite typical.
More than likely, he likes you somewhere in his subconcious, he knows that the two of you are too different. But he comes back every once in a while to see how you are doing, because he cares. He's probally also trying to sort things out in his own head. It's probally confusing for him to notice that he cares about you, but doesn't want to be "with" you at the present time. He knows you want something serious and lasting, and while he in time will want that too. . . he knows that he doesn't want something that serious now because he's too young. So, he keeps you in his mind and checks in with you periodically to see if he still has those confusing feelings.
Most likely, he will continue to do this for years to come. . . until he notices that you have outgrown him. (And you WILL) And then he will finally grow up, but you won't want him anymore.
I think in the end, you two will be good friends. The type that can live in different states and both have spouses and yet always have a connection where you can call at any moment and find comfort. But this doesn't mean that he's THE ONE.
The other option. . . which is what probally provoked him to call you and ask you out is that he probally was rejected by someone and it shocked him. And he wanted a little bit of reassurance. . . he wanted his friend.
2007-01-23 19:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by Ivy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know most the men are love to have sex, he may want to see you cause he wants to know that you still like him, during movie that he may found out that you are the same one that he met before, that mean you mind may set to save sex for marriage therefore he don't bother to ask and that could end up to loose your friendship... only way to keep good relationship with you is to take you home ASAP and leave you alone.... to me sex doesn't mean anything. It 's just a tool of love to get 2 persons together... and get bond to each other.... think about it... good luck.
2007-01-23 19:54:43 · answer #3 · answered by Duke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's not interested in a relationship but does care about you so he wants to stay in touch? Or he's contemplating whether he should try to get back together and contacts you once in a while to see how things feel between the two of you?
2007-01-23 19:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by the_Czech 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is suppose to be constant. It's not like you get together during Commercials. Get the Hell out of there. He's gonna string you along, until you say so. Get some respect. Get on with your Happiness.
2007-01-23 19:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wish I could tell you for sure.... I would imagine he is growing up and realizing that it isnt about getting a quick piece and wants to make sure he doesnt lose you... Sounds like he enjoys your company.... I would approach it as a friend and continue on with whatever you were doing before and if more comes out of it... so be it!
2007-01-23 19:51:08 · answer #6 · answered by Rutroh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to see u for many reasons. one is because it's impossible to not see a hott girl u went out with before every once in a while. He may even want to go back out with u. it all depends on his next move. if he takes u out more often then he probally wants to go back out with u, if not he justs wants to hang around.
2007-01-23 19:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he is sort of stringing you along so as to have a back up. I notice guys and girls do this when they know that they have control over someone.
2007-01-23 19:49:49 · answer #8 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your the "I can't find a date and want to go out" call. Sure you talk, enough so you don't forget him and are willing to see him on occasion. Do yourself a favor and move on.
2007-01-23 19:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by magicman116 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you this but It looks as tough he wants to be seen with you to impress someone else. Confront him or dump him permanently: your choice...
2007-01-23 19:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by Pedro ST 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋