why dose my 2 year old nephew has these fits when his angry?

Question

he has these fits when his angry, its like he is having a spasm attacks, and his whole body especially his legs and arms go stiff his mouth even turns to one side. He goses all blue and he stops breathing for a few seconds. He then goes quite for ages, hes ok after holding him. he has 2 or 3 a day, it only happens when his angry. what could it be we have been to the docters. docter says its anger fits,eg breath holding attacks. but it seems more than that. we have no history in the family regarding these seziures.

Answer 1

One of mine did this, it is pure temper, mine even used to pass out and pee herself. We got as far as having an EEG which was all clear. She grew out of it after a while. If you are really concerned then go to your doctor and ask for a referral to a paediatrician. Good luck

Answer 2

If it were my child, I would like to be able to rule out epilespy. But if the doctor can categorically confirm that it is purely an anger fit, then he needs to be made to realise that he will not be allowed to get away with this. He is NOT being a typical two year old, as stated by vkewl182...yes there is a thing that has become known as the 'terrible twos' but that is only describing what a child goes through when they are learning about emotional issues. Most children will kick up a fuss when they cant have what they want, but this behaviour he is displaying is extreme. All the time he is being 'allowed' to get away with it, he will continue to do so. Even if he grows out of the breath holding and going blue, he could carry it on with something else as he gets older. Start as you mean to go on while he is young, or you could be heading for an even worse teenager!
When he has these episodes, obviously make sure that he is safe and not harming himself; but when he calms down and comes out of them, tell him that he is being naughty and issue some sort of punishment, ie: no sweets for that day and tomorrow. Calm and consistent discipline is what is required here!!! You need to get him out of this habit very quickly! Imagine if he has a fit in a supermarket when you say no to sweets or a toy. Or even on a visit to a friends house where there are other children. He could become very unpopular and end up with little or no friends. Stop him for his own sake and your sanity!

Answer 3

my son did that for the longest time.
he would just go into these rages- hold his breathe and then cry like no tommorrow.

i was quite worried about all this and i found out through much research that my worries made it worse.
HOW? well, when he would hold his breathe-out of anger- i would panic and thus the little two year old managed to get mommy's undivided attention.

your nephew is being a typical two year old. they dont know how to express their emotions or feelings so they naturally "fit."

they way that worked(when nothing else would) was to
1.IGNORE and walk away.
look at him out of the corner of your eye but dont let him now and act like you are going about your business.
2.try teaching him how to show emotions.
-with my son-until he could talk well -we used sign language and a book.
he would bring me the book or sign for angry or sad, etc...
3.we also used homemade refigerator magnets.
-craft section at walmart-
buy a roll of magnet with the sticky backs.
cut out magazines pictures of happy, sad, angry and even items of food.
attach it to the sticky part and put it on the refigerator.

the more my son learned that "fits" and breathe holding wasnt getting his way and that showing me by pointing to pictures or bringing me a magnet-it stopped more and more.


good luck and take slow breaths. i know what you are going through and it is frustrating for both of you.

Answer 4

This doesn't sound too good to me. Maybe it has something to do with sugar. It makes my little toddler a little naughty, but thank goodness its not that bad.

I hope its not some sort of medical condition. I think you should get him some sort of therapy or medical attention, really i mean. I don't know this doesn't sound right. No kid should this in a fit of anger. My son is a little pain in the neck at times but he has never done that. good luck with your nephew.by the way mine is three years old. My baby.

Answer 5

It's probably the only way he can express anger. When he gets like it say; are you feeling very angry? maybe you would like to go outside and stamp your feet. This will be a kind of outlet for him. Walking about in the fresh air will give him some kind of relief too.

Answer 6

Apparently a genetic problem, was it some thing you or one of his parents did when they were young? I mean once a brat always a brat.Never believe a Doctor they are just medical attorneys. Remember families often do not talk of thier negative personal history. Fits as well as your question are just cries for attention.

Answer 7

I am not a Doctor but my niece when she was little had the same episodes. It turns out she was having Petit Mall Seizures. If I was you call his Doctor, maybe they will do some test on his brain.

Answer 8

Maybe the little lad needs some discipline, but I am not so sure. There may be no family history of siezures, but that doesn't mean he's immune.

Answer 9

I had a cousin who used to try and do that.It's a temper tamtrum period.He's wanting attention,and getting it.I don't advise giving in to it.Ignore him when he starts.Sooner or later he'll get the point that it isn't going to help him anymore.

Answer 10

He's 2 years old.... and that IS his way of handling an emotion that even adults have trouble managing.