The step-daughter is planning her wedding for that particular timeframe. Is this selfish of her, or should I see it as one day and bite the bullet to please my husband and child and place my feelings aside for that one day?
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2007-01-23 11:34:33 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, when planning a wedding you can't please everyone. She might have her reasons for selecting this particular time. I don't see it as a big deal to adjust your travel plans to accomodate your step-daughter's wedding - you can still take the trip, just move it a few days or weeks; it doesn't have to be RIGHT smack dab on your anniversary date to be special. Hopefully, you will have many more anniversaries to come, but daughters don't get married every day. Good luck.
2007-01-23 11:54:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As her stepmother, you should really take the opportunity to support her and show your interest in her life. This is the most important day of her life as she knows it and the rift you would cause by trying to take a vacation at that moment would not be worth it! Not to mention, how you would make your husband feel having to choose between you and her (and he will choose HER! if he has any sense as a father). Don't put him in that predicament. It's not like it's your 5th or 10th or some other big anniversary. Plan something great for one of those years and take a smaller, or off-date vacation this year to celebrate your 4th anniversary.
I'm sure it's difficult to have to place someone else's needs before yours when you aren't directly related to her but really that's what you need to do here. You remember your wedding day...and how important it was to you that everyone be there supporting you and your decision. She will want you there! And you will only look like the wicked stepmom if you try to take her dad away from her on that day. Maybe you can just gently ask her to settle on a date soon so that you and your husband can make your travel plans around it. good luck!
2007-01-23 11:44:17 · answer #2 · answered by Monique D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in the grand scheme of things you should bite the bullet, see if you can go to the wedding and beat feet the day after for your trip, even if you pack everything and leave from the airport closest to the wedding site.
2007-01-23 11:40:53 · answer #3 · answered by irish eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋