hi, my nick name is jay jay...im about to turn 16 in april. im 16 and i have problems most ppl go through wen they are older.
well...see i broke up with my boyfriend of six months a while back...i still love him and he still loves me...and i really wana move on but i cant and i dont know how! he wants to get back together, but i dont kno...i broke up with him cuz i found out i was two months pregnant but i lost the baby...and im afraid that if i do get back with him, everytime i look at him i'll think of how i never got to see my daughter, play with her, or watch her grow up...please help me...i want to move on but something is pulling me back...i wana find someone who wants to be with me, and makes me feel like i can eventually love again.
2007-01-23 11:34:06 · 4 answers · asked by jay jay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Jay Jay,
Sorry about your loss. I know it's hard to believe, but you will eventually learn to live with it and learn to be happy and love again. You say you broke up because you were pregnant, the way I see it, that's no reason to break up. nstaed, that's a reason to get far more serious. Not that I think you should be that serious at 16 you know. Yes, you do know it, you even say so yourself in your first sentence.
You need to put relationships on hold for a little while and learn to handle what's inside first. Find someone you can talk to about your problems and try to get some new insights. A councellor or possibly a pastor at a local church. Even if your not religious, they are good at listening and have great advice. Not to mention they can keep personal information private :)
Take your time, talk it out with adults you can trust and get to know yourself and live with yourself a bit better before trying a relationship again and you will be much, much happier.
Best of luck to you
2007-01-23 11:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by magicman116 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both of u are young for starters. you were pregnant once and unfortunately miscarried. it is common in your first pregnancy. i'm sure u hear alot of don't get pregnant, but it's true. if u broke up with him cause u lost the baby and emotionally looking at him and remembering your loss is hard..then u need to take your time to think and feel like your old self again. there's no rush to commiting again to a serious relationship. if he really cares about u then he will understand and just be there when u need him. what u need is not a boyfriend new or old. u need to do things that interest u like hobbies or friends. be friends with him, just take time to think about your future and the good things you look forward to. don't rush, rediscover you and love your life and yourself. take a break you need and deserve it. all the other stuff will fall into place on it's own.
2007-01-23 19:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by gracy808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need emotional support to deal with the lost baby and he is probably the best person to give you such support. I don't understand why you broke up and why you're not back together already. Listen to your instincts. If there is something pulling you back and you don't have a good reason to not be with this guy, get back together. If you blame him for the pregnancy, that's not fair, the responsibility lies with both of you.
2007-01-23 19:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by the_Czech 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, if he knocked you up and your under 16, stay the hell away from the guy, dn't ruin your life.
2007-01-23 19:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by destructive_llama@rogers.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋