Alright I love this girl more then ever, and i was with her for 3 years but inbetween guys always get in the way, she's left me for 2-3 guys before and recently she says She loves me but she likes this other guy.. and she wont be with me, I have begged and begged and did everything romanticly possible the sad thing is she choose this guy.. thats just on the net over reality.. she means the world to me and I'll never get over her, im currently trying to make her come back She knows i't upsets me to the point where i Cry but she dosent seem to care she use to what should i do?
2007-01-23 10:41:27 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
damn it...that sucks man! try to move on
2007-01-23 10:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if she truly does like you now, it sounds like the two of you just don't have the right connection. If you did she never would have left you in the first place. Therefore, use this to your advantage and find someone who you have an amazing connection with. And then there are the girls who sometimes, no matter how amazing a guy is, will be unsatisfied because they just love the feeling of being liked by other guys.
Don't waste your time on something that eventually (if not now, sometime later) will fall apart.
Also, if you do break up... it is not the end of the world. You might cry and be upset beyond reason. But you will eventually get over her. You might still always love her, but over time that love will be pushed further back into your mind, and while you will always remember, you'll be able to move on.
2007-01-23 10:50:10 · answer #2 · answered by just add a pinch of drama! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had a magical answer for you. You just cannot help the way people feel. That is what I had to realize when my first husband and I parted....he for another woman. You have to tell yourself that, and believe it. You wouldn't want to be with someone who did not have mutual feelings? That's not the way love works. You need to receive love in return for what you give. If you think about it...you are most likely holding on to the feelings of the past....the good times...etc. Let those feelings go, and what do you feel? I am just trying you make you think outside the box (so to speak) Time takes care of everything....that's my motto, and I truly believe it. Good luck!
2007-01-23 10:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by LARGE MARGE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ryan,
Love blinds us all, it opens our hearts and makes us caring and forgiving at all times... In any relationships, there's always one who loves the other more... and yes, you are the one who has the greater love.
It's not easy to see the one you love with another person, it seems impossible to let go the one you love and most times it feels like the world is going to end and there is nothing you can do about it... It hurts, it miserable and it's frustrating!
Know this Ryan, the world doesn't stop turning, you'll still have to eat and sleep and do your day to day chores, it seems she has stopped you from living, but the truth is, it has made you learn to live!
Tell your friends, go out with your friends, get your mind off things, and only... only come back to this when your mind has settled, when your mind is clear.
It's hard bro and I tell you right now, it's not easy, but know that you've given her the chance, so give yourself the chance to clear up.
Time heals the living pain, time also shows us what we want.
Good luck bro.
2007-01-23 10:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by calv83luc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all it sounds like her mind is already made up. There is nothing you can do or say to make her like you and only you. It sounds like she isn't ready to settle down with one guy. Not talking about marriage but just settling to the point where other people don't matter just each other. You need to back off. If she really loves you back like she says then she will came back to you and you need to give her an ultimatum. You sound like a really nice guy and you can find a really nice girl.
2007-01-23 10:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. She will never committ. She might not be able to committ to anyone for a long time or possible ever. Trust me, you will eventually move on, even if you have to do it against your own will. Life is too short to be wrapped up in someone who doesn't feel the same way for you. Meanwhile, there is a woman out there who will love you for who you are and will treat you like a treasure, but you will never find her while you are obsessed with someone who doesn't know how.
2007-01-23 10:47:17 · answer #6 · answered by Yomi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go ......infact MAKE her go ..
why ? because do you really want her to stay with you when her heart really isn't into making the relationship work .....
Maybe you are best friends and do not really make the ideal lovers. Isn't Friendship also a special relationship ..
Begging her to stay will not endear you to her... and you WILL get over her IF YOU ALLOW yourself to.
If it is possible to make a judgement on a person's character from reading one post..I would say that you are a caring person .. but a very needy one with a fairly low self esteme ... YOU don't want to be somebody else's charity case ... you DESERVE better that that
2007-01-23 10:50:47 · answer #7 · answered by ll_jenny_ll here AND I'M BAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not going to be what you want to hear, but move on. At this point in your life the you and her is not going to work. Go and find something else to do and get on with your life. She sounds like she is stringing you along, and you are acting like a little dog running after her.
Never beg, that is humiliating, and by the way never works. Get over this girl, she is not wanting you. She is giving you so many different indications, but women do also not act on the same level that we do. By her saying she loves you, does not mean that she wants to be with you. It is just a supporting statement like, "please don't kill yourself because you appear unstable...", but she is trying to be nice to you. Buck up and get on with life.
2007-01-23 10:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ACT like you don't care! Stop trying to make her come back to you. Carry on with your life, do whatever else makes YOU happy. If she comes back to you. Then YOU decide if she has blown her chance or not. If you back off and let her do the running it will be the best thing you could do for YOURSELF! This way you continue with your life and stop it revolving around her. Without your emotional support she may realise what she is doing. It will also stop you being so emotionally drained.
2007-01-23 10:52:32 · answer #9 · answered by itgirl23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK Ryan, I'm sorry but As a girl you need to get over her. I'm sorry to break your heart but if she won't come back and she has left you before you don't want her back. You're kind of like a side item. SHe might take you back but I don't know. I think it's time to move on. An again, I'm not trying to be rude.
2007-01-23 10:46:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey man.. here's what to do. give her a last chance (just to not feel guilty after doin the next).. n lets face it, she'll chose the other guy coz she did that over n over, then all u do is ignore her, pretend she doesnt exist.. she's into u or not.. she'll get mad..
n hey, find yourself a nice woman, there's alot of cutties out there bro..
if u could manage to get over her n got yoself another gurl (even if she doesnt look better).. that will b what ppl call.. PAY BACK!
n hey.. wipe yo tears, we've all been there.. big boys dont cry!
take care bro.
2007-01-23 10:58:33 · answer #11 · answered by biogator84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋