In class, for exams, we are having a pizza party. We have to get with a partner and eat pay $2.50 for our half of the pizza. The money was due today and yesterday I reminded her atleast 10 times to bring the money (she is always forgetful). She walks in the classroom today and I asked if she had the money and she gets an attitude with me. I was being nice and just asking and she got mean with me. I said, "well how are we going to pay if you don't have your money?" And she was careless and mean and said she didn't know. So, I said that I would pay for her today, but if she didn't bring her money tomorrow, I would take the whole pizza home with me because I paid for it. (I would suffer if I didn't pay for her) Only makes sense though, right? She got mad at me, even though I was nice and said, "OMG, I'm going to bring it tomorrow, I'm not going to forget." I ignored this annoying girl that no one likes.
2007-01-23 10:26:29 · 43 answers · asked by *~*~*~* 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If she does not have her money, I will eat the pizza infront of her with everyone else. She can't expect me to pay for her...plus, I won't see her any other time because we are switching classes tomorrow.
2007-01-23 10:27:29 · update #1
I think you are absolutely right. If she just didn't have the money to bring in then it's understandable. But she didn't have to get nasty with you. Enjoy the pizza and if she doesn't pay you back then she doesn't eat the pizza.
2007-01-23 10:31:04 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
How do you know that she has the money to bring? Try not to be too quick to judge, as it may not be her fault. When I was in school, there were many times that we were supposed to bring money for things we needed or for parties. Rather than being embarrassed, I would say that I forgot the money and when that didn't work, I would be absent the day it was due. It would make more sense for the teacher or another adult to collect the money. That way, if someone doesn't have the money, the adult would be able to deal with the situation in the proper way ( finding out the reason why, and having a back up plan for those who can't pay, for whatever reason). Often, children will act forgetful or in many cases like they don't care because they are embarrassed to say they don't have the money to pay. This kind of pressure should never be placed on a child or teen as it can cause much stress and very low self-esteem. Many poor children quit school at an early age, because they don't feel they belong, this type of situation only intensifies those feelings. Why won't some adults step forward in these situations and avoid this type of embarrassment for a student? You don't always know why a person doesn't pay, but remember, it is always better to give than to receive. I can assure you that your kindness will never be forgotten, no matter what the reason for the money issue. It is better to be known as the generous one than the cruel one. Keep that in mind when you sit down to eat your pizza in front of this girl. You never know, she may not have eaten at home because there was nothing to eat. So, I think that you will be blessed by showing this girl some kindness, rather than being one of those who treat her badly..
2007-01-23 10:58:15 · answer #2 · answered by georgiapeach 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you overdid it a bit asking her so often but apparently she just doesn't care enough to bring the money.... Btw, what teenager doesn't even have $2.50 on them nowadays??? I always had a few bucks on me to buy a drink or in case I wanted to stop by a store after school... not huge amounts of money of course but still some. Could it be she's from a poor family and can't afford the $2.50? It's not that much is it?
About your additional comments, don't get petty and rub it in. No money=no pizza sounds like a good decision, if people keep helping her out she'll never learn, but after that take the mature road, don't go reminding her of it all the time eating it in front of her or saying how good it was. Just enjoy the pizza with your friends, and let her be.
2007-01-24 08:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I empathise with you, I have a freeloader at my house now, but I know her circumstances and she just doesn't care. Is it just possible that your 'friend' can't afford 2.50 everyday for pizza, and is too ashamed to say so, besides the fact that there are many more healthier choices for exam days, do you think the school should be encouraging healthier choices? Just an observation, asking someone ten times to bring money is not what anyone would call nice, and you state that the only reason you paid for her was because you would have suffered, perhaps because no one likes her, you are being influenced by 'the crowd'. I would ask her, very privately, if she can't afford the pizza, to let you know in advance, it must be difficult for her not having friends. Sorry if you don't like the answer, but, putting yourself out for someone less fortunate than yourself always makes you a better person. Good Luck on your exams.
2007-01-23 10:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reminding her 10 times the day before probably made her resentful. Maybe she doesn't have $2.50, believe it or not, some people don't, even if you think they do. Eating the pizza in front of her would be a childish and spiteful thing to do. If I were you I would just pay for the whole pizza(unless you don't have the money) and let her have some, but that is just me. You have to do what you think is right.
2007-01-23 10:40:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It is rude for you to ask someone 10 times to bring money for pizza. Then plan on eating it in front of her if she doesn't bring the money.
I think she "forgot" the money because she didn't like the way that you constantly reminded her. No matter how politely you do it, it would get annoying by the 10th time.
2007-01-23 10:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by sgryzko 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
do you really hate her that much? i mean if u will pay for it and i know this is not what you WANT to hear, and not say anything about it it will just drive her crazy! i am serious she might not say anything but i hope you get the point.... and plus is a pizza party! have fun. how old you anyway ? u sound verry young. probably not more than 13-14.
2007-01-23 10:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by Christian 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well it looks like you just picked a bad pizza partner. i agree with you for the most part, she shouldn't have gotten an attitude with you just for asking. if she knew that she couldn't pay her half then she shouldn't have found a partner in the first place.
you didn't do anything wrong to this girl so don't let her break you down. even if she starts to cry. tell her that is the way life goes.
2007-01-23 10:33:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, it sounds like you are both being quite petulant and rude.
You only had to remind her once that no money = no pizza. By harping on it, you are trying to drive the knife point in ever further. By "eating it in her face" you are being spiteful as well.
Why not try to get along with your partner for a change? And if she forgets her money, and you get the whole pizza, then she will have learned a lesson. And then you didn't have to do anything rude, did you?
Good luck!
2007-01-23 10:30:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
No, I don't think it would be rude of you to claim the whole pizza.
I do suggest that you try to look at it from her point of view, however--being reminded 10 times in a day about something doesn't create good feelings between two people and might have even set her up to be subconsciously rebellious. In addition, if nobody likes her, she probably does do things to continue to tick people off--it's a revenge thing to help her feel better. Of course, it's something on your part to feel sorry about.
2007-01-23 10:37:58 · answer #10 · answered by glurpy 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋