My bf ( if u answered the question "is he 2 violent for me" or "is it his falut or WAY My fault" then i need ur advice again-along w/ other ppl!!)-im sry ppl but as soon as i finished the other question-he saw wat i typed and went like a mad-man on me. He hurt me alot. He pulls my hair-beats me up(sometimes-make it sound positive!) and he did other things to me that i didnt like. Hes bin doing this for like 3 wks. dont get me wrong-i try to stop it(i slaped him-like sum1 sed to do) but that made him come and yell at me. I argue w/ my parents bout him and i lost sum of my frends cuz of his act, and i cry alot now. My question is should i let him do this and just c if it gets better or get help(till where he gets arrested 4 it)
additonal info: hes 19 and just doesnt have a rly good life. hes in a gang wich dont help matters-wat do i do?
2007-01-23 10:15:11 · 13 answers · asked by Boingo&Fuzzy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
more info-we've bin goin out for almost a year, and hes bin doing this off and on-every time he does it-he'll say hes sry bout it-so i get so confused and my head hurts-along w/ me
2007-01-23 11:26:51 · update #1
Sweetie, its me again!! Email me right now so I can call the cops on his stup!d A##!! Really this dude is F***ed in the head and is a control freak... seriously girl email me and I will call them anonymously for you!
2007-01-23 13:57:58 · answer #1 · answered by jmilil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People in gangs are usually weak and pathetic -that's why they are in a gang -they cannot defend themselves and thus they join a gang thinking it makes them strong but , it really does just the opposite-you should leave and call the police -he will not stop and it WILL get worse!! You sound kind of young -I'm guessing 16 or 17 yrs-you still have a chance to make a life for yourself-if you want to!! Why would you hang out w/ losers??? Gang members really do not have a future until they realize that the gang life is not worth it and break away!! Ask yourself what kind of a man would hit a woman--If he hits you then he isn't a man!!!!
2007-01-23 18:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by I'm laughing WITH you 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in that type of relationship for along time he will never change it only gets worse. He will tell you things like im sorry after it is all over with and cry or say I love you and I wont ever do it again. As you forgive him and move on it happenes all over again. Get your things and go our get all his things and put them out when he comes home have the cops there waiting with you so they will not be any problems for you. If you make this step sweetheart you have to stick with it dont let him back in cuz if you do it will never stop and you may not get the help you need cuz u may not be alive to get the help. Ill pray for you.
2007-01-23 18:32:50 · answer #3 · answered by cutesexy24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds awful!!! It would all depend on how long you've been with him and if ur in love with him.. cuz my ex that i was in love with is with my ex best friend and he beats her but she has a baby with him (she's 16 and he's 19) and she just stays and takes it...... If you are constantly upset and on the verge of a breakdown i would say u should leave him and that he is not worth all that he is putting you through i mean he could do worse to you next time!!! and u could find better and pain is not worth losing your friends over
2007-01-23 18:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by Kinz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a name for that: domestic violence. And, yes, it's illegal! Call the cops if he does that again to you and start packing your bags right now. It can get worse, and it will if you put up with it. Just turn around and go, and make sure your brother, father, etc. are around you all the time so he can't get back at you. Good luck!
2007-01-23 18:32:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its pretty clear, you've been dating him for only 3 weeks so hopefully ur not really in to him. YOu need to get out and call the cops on him. A bad life for him is no excuse and shouldn't be putting you through hell for it. Take my advice and dump him and get him out of your life, hes not worth your time
2007-01-23 18:55:39 · answer #6 · answered by BlondeboarderBabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave now and forever. Make a decision to not look back even if he beggs you.
If you don't do it right now, you'll hate yourself for letting him do it to you, you'll hate him for what he's done to you, and you'll have loads of psychological baggage to deal with, and problems with future men, even good men.
You deserve so much better. Just leave, it might be the most courageous thing you've ever done.
2007-01-23 18:22:37 · answer #7 · answered by girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this how you wish to be treated? you are a child of God and deserve to be treated in a decent manner- some people choose this type of person because they do not believe that they deserve better or they feel that they can help or save the person-- you can't! this fellow needs help- and if he is willing to get it then if you love him- give it a go-- but I find it hard to believe that he will- unless you want to be a mother on the run or in fear of her life and her children's- get out now-- but again- the choice is yours.
2007-01-23 18:32:34 · answer #8 · answered by drox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, Pack Up your stuff while hes at work and go to the police. Explain to them what is going on and then go stay with a family member or friend you can trust.
Hang in there !!
2007-01-23 18:19:54 · answer #9 · answered by «♦ßяíttαηÿ♦» ☆ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out while u are still breathing and yes call the cops
2007-01-23 18:18:23 · answer #10 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋