ok I live in VA and this dude and i are in love but m parents dont like him and his parents do really care about him (foster kid) and he has anger issues.. and my parents doesnt want him and i to talk ever or see eachother.....how do we make this work??
2007-01-23 10:05:27 · 9 answers · asked by priscilla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think it is going to work out. Sorry.
You should focus on your school and maybe find a nice boy closer to where you live.
Good luck!
2007-01-23 10:08:56 · answer #1 · answered by Great Dane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships take a HUGE and NEVER ending amount of maturity and trust. Give this poorly and you will get burned... I had my Jeep stolen and $1000's of dollars borrowed, now lost, in a past long distance relationship, because he was not the person I saw when we were together over a weekend. Live and learned. From the way this question was written I would guess that the 2 of you are under 30 possible even under 20 years old... The need to love oneself is a very big factor in any relationship and is many times doubled when there is a distance factor. How far is the distance? Any anger issue is a big issue waiting to explode and will only get better if the person with the anger issue seeks professional/qualified help. Are you yourself without issues? Is anyone in this relationship capable of giving without any expectations? You will never know what this person is really about until you have spent time together. That is spending days, weeks 24/7, or close to it together. I have an on going long distance relationship in progress now. It will be 1 year on 25th of March 2007. It's only 3 hour drive but! And the travel alone can be very draining. We both have our lives as individuals and as a couple, without any jealousy or mistrusting one another. We both know to have a life together, 24/7, will involve relocation for one of us. We have set plans and actions to obtain this. IE selling house and unneeded items even if the item is wanted but not needed.(giving in) Changing jobs which possible means a different area of work completely. (giving up) Both persons must be willing to give up, give in, or give to one another unconditionally. Does he make your heart flutter every time you see him Will it still flutter after spending the next 20 years with this person?? All very good questions to ask yourself before you create an unconfortable relationship between you and your parents. They are the only parents you have correct? Any relationship of qualllity requires work in many areas. Are you willing to WORK towards quality in loving this dude?
2007-01-23 18:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by gotsweetpea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I'm sorry to break it to you but this relationship probably wont last. The fact is, its not just the distance, its also the fact that your parents dont like him, this will make it impossible for you guys. But if you dont want to let go of your guy, just talk to your parents and explain to them how much he means to you.
Good luck!
2007-01-23 18:09:17 · answer #3 · answered by <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the end the decision of talking to him or not is going to be yours and yours alone. Just keep in mind that your parents have your best interests at heart. They may not always be right, but they may have seen something in him that sent up red flags or something. If I were you I would seriously consider if I wanted the relationship, if I trusted him to be faithful when I wasn't there, and why your parents don't like him.
2007-01-23 18:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by wonderer152 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that your parents are the only problems here. You're going to have to talk it over with them if you want you and your boyfriend to work out. I know, I know, it sounds clichéed, but it's what you need to do. Otherwise, you'll have two options:
a) Ditch the guy you love (you probably don't want to do that, do you?)
b) Sneak around behind your units' backs, putting yourself at risk of a whole lot of trouble.
Whatever you decide, I hope it works out.
2007-01-23 18:10:58 · answer #5 · answered by hillystargirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem my parents wont let me date a guy and i like him so much and they wont let me even talk to him but i do anyway and i just talk to him on my free time and am dating him without them knowing
2007-01-23 18:08:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know what to tell you because long distance relationships don't last very long. you have to show your parents that there's more to this guy and that you've never felt anything more than this.
2007-01-23 18:15:43 · answer #7 · answered by Nocturne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't make it work. Find somebody that your parents love, if you don't it just causes problems.
2007-01-23 18:08:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents cant controll who you love... let them know it
2007-01-23 18:08:46 · answer #9 · answered by Harlee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋