This is for the ladies how did/do you feel about this topic??

Question

Bachelor parties?? My fiancee' is going to ask his brother to be his best man in the wedding, and I know it is the duty of the best man to plan out the bachelor party which for him means he is going to want to take him to a strip club. I am a little uneasy with this because when my friends husband went to one for his bachelor party he came back with scratches and red marks and lipstick and what not all over him and she was beyond mad at him for this. I trust my fiancee' very much but don't feel comfortable with him going to a strip club, he says it is up to me that if I don't want him to go then he won't. LADIES HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT THIS TOPIC. HOW WOULD YOU FEEL ABOUT THIS??

Answer 1

I think of a strip club as kind of a rite of passage for men. Secretly thay all want to go and the bachelor party is the perfect way to get it out of their system. It becomes a joke because they all go to egg each other on and its never taken seriously.
My husband went to his first strip club the night before my best friends wedding (we have been married over 8 years) the guys knew this and kept giving him dollars and kind of put him in the seat where he would get the most attention. The other guys sat bac and laughed and laughed. Its so much more for the fun of picking on one guy than going to look at girls (thats a perk though).

I wouldnt worry about it, a bunch of guys going out is just a fun time. Its when they go alone you need to worry.

BTW when he got back and I asked him the first thing out of his mouth was "those girls are disgustingly ugly" Ithink its only on TV and the really "high class" clubs that the girls are pretty.

Answer 2

I feel that if a guy even had an inclination to go to a strip club in connection with his getting married - he is not ready to get married, period. It went without saying both times I was getting married that a "bachelor party" was not in the plans. I have nothing against guys who like partying and strip clubs - but I would not want not be marrying one. By the time we're talking marriage, I expect him to be over all this juvenile stuff. If you're uncomfortable with the idea, talk to your fiancé; I'm sure he will listen. If he doesn't respect your concerns now - it's a good indication of how he is planning to proceed with marriage in general. Strip clubs is not the only way to celebrate, and the bachelor party itself is not in any way a "mandatory" part of getting married.

Answer 3

I am getting married in June and I think that strippers are disgusting and I ever find out that my fiance went to a strip club it would be over in a heartbeat. My fiance knows how I feel and supposedly he feels the same way but I have made it clear to him, his best man, and all of his close guy friends that their is to be no strippers at his bachelor party. I told him that if I find out that night, it's over. If I find out the day of the wedding, it is over. And if I happen to find out a year later, DIVORCE. I hate divorce even more than nasty strippers but if my man can't respect my wishes then he can't find somebody else to play around with. I completely agree with you especially if the friend has already showed signs of going out to a strip club. If you don't want him to go don't feel bad about it, he shouldn't want to in the first place. If he says he won't then hopefully he really respects your wishes and doesn't. You have every right to feel the way you do. But Good Luck with it!
Oh yeah and I understand that the media makes strip clubs look like their alot more crazy than they really are. But I think that their are other ways to get money than to strip and dance for it. No offense to anybody. My personal opinion.

Answer 4

I hate strip clubs in general, so going the night before the wedding is a sure fire way to cancel that wedding in my book. I hate strip clubs that much. But hey, that's just me & he has known before we started dating how I felt about that topic (we were friends for 4 years before we became a couple). We both agreed, no parties before the wedding. The night before our wedding we are both spending working on last minute wedding stuff together.

Answer 5

I hope you trust him, if not you shouldn't marry him. One thing to remember is that customers are not allowed to touch the dancers. I am not sure how your friends husband ended up in that condition but it wasnt from any dancers at a strip club. Dancers also dont want your man, they are there to make money because it pays the bills, not for a one night stand. Give some credit to your fiance and to dancers. Just because they work at a strip club doesn't mean they have no self-respect or integrity.

Answer 6

yup. thats true. the strip club action u see on tv is NOT what usually happens in real life. the guys act like it is a rite of passage and the most go to pick fun at the groom as was done to them , their brother, bf, etc. its not really abour tghe girls they are just background. its tetosterone and b/s. there is always one crrep though who wants to challenge the groom to some taboo activity he knows the partner would not approve of but if u have a level headed man he will only go as far as he has been allowed to during his relationship. even though they have heard of all the antics that go along with the parties they also have heard the horror stories of how that nite can have a wedding called off also.

so trust him. give him ground rules and send him off to the ugly girls :)

Answer 7

You could dodge the bullet by back handed getting someone you trust to throw one for him. No one would expect your Best man to do it if it really meant a lot to good old Uncle Bob to do it or if they did say no make sure its known that good old Uncle Bob who did offer to throw it would be devastated if he wasn't invited. Uncle Bob should fear Aunt Gertie enough to make sure things are ok. You could convince him it is bad etiqutte to have his brother throw it as he is directly related (like why your sis shouldn't throw your shower) and suggest someone else.
My husband didn't have a bachelor party I was a little upset about that because I wanted him to have one. My Aunts husband did a men only baseball tourney with BBq that was ok.
I think if my hubby came home with red marks and lipstick he would have been waiting a long time for me on the wedding day.

Answer 8

All I know is my boyfriend went to a bachelor party on my birthday (so I was a little more mad at him for this, but I assume its slightly similar to how mad you'd be close to your wedding) and he got a lap dance. I also know that all of the other men egg everyone else on. They did this disgusting thing called a "beer bush" where the stripper gets naked, pours a beer down her chest, and the guy lays underneath and drinks it as it runs off of her crotch. Just be careful because although all of the girl's friends knbow, she doesnt.

Answer 9

I have very strong feelings about this topic and have discussed at length with noe husband. I am very against the whole stripper thing. I think it is not only degrading to women I believe that if my significant other goes to a strip club it degrades our relationship. I have told him if you love me and wnat only to be with my why would you want to see another woman naked. I understand she mean nothing to him but that is all the more reason not to want to go. In a way I would feel cheated on. I respect our relationship and him enough to never want to look at another man naked and i just hope he would feel the same way. I am not the type of women to control my man, so i have told him he can do as he pleases, but for every action there is a consequence.

Answer 10

I feel uncomfortable about my husband going or my fiancee'....I wouldn't want him to go. I think to take my head off of him going to a strip club, I would go out with all of my girlfriends.....I think I would let him go and try not to get jealous. He is marrying you after all, so that must mean he truly loves you. Maybe if he decides to go, you and him can talk alone and set some rules down? Congrats on your marriage.