do you ever have problems having confidence in your relationship? as in having trouble believing that the person you're with definitely wants to be with you even though you know it's true?
2007-01-23 09:55:54 · 11 answers · asked by *KiM* 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay...so how do you deal with it? just try to have faith in the relationship and just deal with it?
2007-01-23 10:02:25 · update #1
Sometimes. It's human nature to doubt ourselves but don't become obsessed with it. If you keep questioning why this person is with you, they'll start to wonder that themselves and might change their mind. You don't have to change yourself to be with someone else. Hopefully, they like you for you and anyone worth a damn isn't going to ask you to change. Cheaters don't cheat because the other person is bad, they cheat because they're bad. Period. Don't believe any other bs and you'll be fine.
Just remind yourself that they fell in love with you for you. Not for who you might be one day or for what they can get from you. Be positive and know that it's normal to doubt yourself but keep it in check. Don't allow those thoughts on a daily basis or you'll go bonkers!
2007-01-23 10:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I know exactly what u mean...For some reason we as women need constant reassurance that our partner has undying love for us and when we focus so much on that aspect we tend to overlook the important smaller things they do that prove they want to be with us. When u overlook the smaller things that makes for a big problem. It's like there is no trust or something and u have to trust who you're with in order for a relationship to work so whatever your mate does that makes u feel good and lets u know they care even its the tiniest thing then build your confidence around that and quit wondering. When u wonder u make these little stories and scenarios up in your head then u start to believe them yourself...
2007-01-23 18:04:17 · answer #2 · answered by JAY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is truely for you and he is for you then there should be NO doubt in your mind or his. I know when I met my bf, I just knew he was the one for me. No doubt in my mind. We may things differently but yet this is what makes us unique. If you are questioning if he wants to be with you then I would have to take a good look at the relationship and look at why I'm feeling like that. Is he doing or saying something or not doing or saying something to make me feel that he isn't into me as much as I think he is.
2007-01-23 18:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This problem is one of my worst. I am happy with my boyfriend but everyday I wonder if he really likes me even though he tells me so...I think maybe it's a normal thing...I wish I could give you advice, but I need some myself. It's kind of relieving to know someone else has the same problem though...hope I relieved you a bit
2007-01-23 18:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by strawberry_sunset520 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, but if you've been hurt before I think that's normal. Of coarse it doesn't help that society is the way it is with marriages failing and people cheating. It's easy to question.
2007-01-23 18:01:08 · answer #5 · answered by Ydua R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I think it's because it is so difficult to find someone to love and whom you are compatible with that we almost feel it's too good to be true, then worry we might lose it.
2007-01-23 17:58:58 · answer #6 · answered by schweetums 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yea i get that some time to but then just think about the good times dont be sad
2007-01-23 18:01:17 · answer #7 · answered by kkkk53564367 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do. It's a whirl wind pattern that most couples go through.
2007-01-23 17:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by heatherlc02 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah i think it happens to everyone ..well at least to people who have been hurt before
2007-01-23 17:58:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Must be a CHICK THING!
For a Guy it's easy..., you get laid, it's cool!
You DONT get Laid, somethings wrong!
Don't worry! Put out as much as you are HUMANLY ABLE and your BF sticks around!
Trust me!
2007-01-23 18:00:30 · answer #10 · answered by Rembrandt 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋