My mom and I have been wanting a dog since 2 months after the death of my one dog. We looked all over and wanted to save up. Asking a neighboring shelter helping lady she came up with this dog. He lived in Ohio, but we thought since it would be saving a life that it was worth it. While waiting (3 months actually) we found other dogs we'd rather have but said 'no, we said we'd take Bud.' and then one saturday morning he came. And was twice as big as he looked in the photo. And very stuborn and almost like he has ADD, he also tries to go after our cats since they had a bad meeting.
After all this, we still are trying to give him a chance, but we don't feel like he's 'our dog' what should we do? keep him and just keep giving him a chance? or find him a new home? would it be mean to send him off to another house after all this time?
2007-01-23 09:52:36 · 18 answers · asked by cheesypandas 2 in Pets ➔ Dogs
My mom and I have been wanting a dog since 2 months after the death of my one dog. We looked all over and wanted to save up. Asking a neighboring shelter helping lady she came up with this dog. He lived in Ohio, but we thought since it would be saving a life that it was worth it. While waiting (3 months actually) we found other dogs we'd rather have but said 'no, we said we'd take Bud.' and then one saturday morning he came. And was twice as big as he looked in the photo. And very stuborn and almost like he has ADD, he also tries to go after our cats since they had a bad meeting.
After all this, we still are trying to give him a chance, but we don't feel like he's 'our dog' what should we do? keep him and just keep giving him a chance? or find him a new home? would it be mean to send him off to another house after all this time?
*we are PLANNING on giving him a chance*
We live in NY the dog is from ohio.
2007-01-23 11:48:31 · update #1
*we are PLANNING on giving him a chance*
We live in NY the dog is from ohio.
We care for the dog, and have been trying our very best to like him, but we feel like he doesn't belong to us. It's like we're watching someone elses dog.
2007-01-23 11:50:10 · update #2
Try giving him to a friend or call the humane society in your area. They take in animals without killing them.
2007-01-23 09:57:11 · answer #1 · answered by 14 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, yes it would be mean. I rescued a six year old english bulldog after his owner passed away. We rescued him right after our three year old bulldog who was the love of our lives got cancer and passed away very suddenly. The new bulldog is very set in his ways, he is not affectionate, he humps, he does not like our dogs, he will mark his territory in our house and has ripped open our couch. Through all this we continued to love him and try to understand his behavior. It has been almost two years and it is still a rocky road with him. With a lot of time and patience things have improved though and now he is a part of our family. Dogs that are rescued from shelters have been through a lot and deserve a permanent home. Why dont you talk to a dog trainer who might be able to help you with the problem of him going after your cats. You could put ads up to see if someone who will give him a better home may contact you but i wouldnt put him back into a shelter. You never know, with some time and love he just may become your dog. Good luck
2007-01-23 10:04:29 · answer #2 · answered by italian_trouble 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely try some dog training/obedience classes for him. Also, if he is still in puppy stage, he may calm down after a little time with him. Unfortunately, coming from a shelter, you are never totally sure of the life he had before so it may just take a little time for him to settle in with your family. I would l give him a little more time, especially if you could work on training him. If it still is not working out, talk to people you know, see if anyone who be willing to give him a home that is maybe a better fit. Please do not take him back to a shelter, he doesn't deserve that a second time.
2007-01-23 12:29:38 · answer #3 · answered by alapinklady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sign Bud up for obedience classes. I am guessing his problems are caused by the things he has been through before he came to you. Give him some time, give him the benefit of the doubt, and get him into classes. If, after that, you decide you still do not want him, it will be easier to find him a suitable home since he will have been trained well. He's a living, breathing creature. He deserves a chance.
2007-01-23 09:58:18 · answer #4 · answered by kelly24592 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
This dog needs obedience classes. Ask your vet for a reference for an obedience trainer and contact them. It's going to take a lot of work with your entire family working with him. How long have you have the dog now? What breed or breeds is your dog? These two answers have a lot to do with how the dog is behaving. Getting to your questions, I'm worried about the fact that you haven't bonded with the dog, this may have a lot to do with his behavior. Sounds like you might contact the place you got him from and let them know he's not working out for you. Perhaps they'd be willing to take him back and refund your money or let you choose another dog if it hasn't been too long. If it's been too long or their not willing to give your money back, take him to your local shelter and see about finding another dog. See if they'll let you take home one on a trial to see how it works with your family and your cat. It's never mean to let him get another home where he will have a family to bond with. Like I said above, your family hasn't been able to bond with him, so finding him another home would be doing right by him. I adopted a female dog several years ago, she got along with my older female for 9 months, then she turned and horrbily attacked my other female using a death grip on her neck. Nothing was done to warrant the attack and it wasn't the first time. Each attack was worse then the last. It was all I could do to break up the pair. I was scared she'd attact one of my children next. We all loved her and it broke our hearts to decide to send her back, but safelt was the deciding factor. I called the shelter I got her from and told them to come get her right away. My older female is a wolf hybrid and the adoptee was chow/retriever mix. Our shelter in the adoption papers states you must return to adopted animal to the shelter in the event you can't keep the animal for any reason. You can't give the animal away to anyoone else. This is why I sad to contact the place you got your dog through, they may have such rules too. Good luck, you have a tough decision to make, but I think you already know what you you're going to do.
2007-01-23 10:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by wolfinator25840 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd contact the original rescue group that brought him to you. Most shelters and rescue groups want to find the best homes that they can for the pets that they take in, and sometimes this doesn't work out. Be very specific about your needs next time - if you don't want a big dog, you must say so. If you feel that the rescue group is not listening to you, there are plenty of other groups to support - don't be discouraged! This was a learning experience for you - and be more specific next time.
2007-01-23 11:47:02 · answer #6 · answered by Misa M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest calling your local humane society or SPCA and signing him over to them, they will understand, I'm sorry that getting a rescue dog from a far away animal rescue organization didn't work our, maybe if you have a no-kill vacility in your area, you can work out a swap with them this one for one that is better suited for you and your family. Good luck
2007-01-23 11:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with maneta2. Give him a chance. If you truly don't feel the fit after a month, find a new home for him. He IS your responsibility now.
2007-01-23 10:00:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
what kind of dog is he? Have you taken him to any obedience training classes. with the cats i am not sure. If you can find the DVDs of Cesar the dog whisper. they would help you a lot with the cats and dog.
2007-01-23 10:00:11 · answer #9 · answered by Skyhoss 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should find a local Obedience club and sign up for a class. It is a good way to get to know the dog and connect with him, Please give him a chance......he deserves it. If is doesn't work out for you then it's your responsibility to find him a good home.P
2007-01-23 09:57:44 · answer #10 · answered by manetna2 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋