Should I be mad that my maid of honor is getting married 4 months after me and wants me to be her maid of honor? Also, she is getting married to my fiance' brother, so that would make her my soon to be sister-in-law. I feel like I am going to be so overwhelmed with my own wedding that I can not play a big part (maid of honor) in hers.
2007-01-23 09:47:15 · 29 answers · asked by MOLLY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Not at all. You should be happy for her, regardless of who she is marrying. I'm sure things will be hectic around the time it gets closer, but remember to take it in stride. Its not like you have to deal with wedding planning forever! :)
If you both are really close, perhaps you can talk to her about setting her date a little later. You could even entertain the idea of sharing your wedding day, it would be less cost too.
Congrats on your engagement and upcoming wedding!
2007-01-23 09:57:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem, my maid of honor/cousin did kind of the same thing to me...
We went to pick out my wedding dress and she found the one she wanted (she didn't tell me until the next day, that my mom and aunt and her went to buy it). She wasn't even engaged yet, I had been engaged for one year prior. I was not happy and then on top of everything she decided to get married a month BEFORE mine and asked me to be her maid of honor and my daughter to be the flowergirl(she was mine also) I was really mad.
I think you should talk to her about it...let her know what you can handle...if you express your feeling it will keep the bond that you have less stressed. Ask her to do something for you...not to plan any of her stuff before your wedding(showers and parties) ask her to keep the cost of dresses down and to be able to use your wedding shoes. I am sure she will understand how you feel. If you do feel too over whelmed than tell her that you can be her maid of honor.
Good Luck! Hope your wedding is beautiful, and your friendship is strong!
2007-01-27 09:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be mad! You should be estatic! If you are close enough to be each other's maid of honor what more could you want than to be sisters. Besides, when your wedding is over you will have four months before her wedding. you don't have to do a lot until about 2 months(or even less) before her wedding. Use this time to bond and become even closer. Shop for venders, decorations, and dresses together. Its a lot more fun when you have some one to go with anyway. if you work it right it could turn out to be a lot of fun, low stress and actually less work for the both of you. Good Luck and Congrats.
2007-01-23 09:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by Crys L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see that there is a reason to be mad, it's not like she's trying to steal your moment by getting married the next day or week after you. Be happy for her, and feel honored that she asked you to be something so special in her wedding. If you don't feel that you can live up to the "expectations" respectfully decline and be honest with her and tell her your reasons. I'm sure she would understand.
2007-01-23 10:09:43 · answer #4 · answered by the future mrs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see any reason for you to be upset. Planning a wedding is overwhelming, but she is managing to plan her wedding and be in yours too. Don't concentrate too much on her wedding until your own is over. You'll probably be so happy with married life that you'll forget the petty things that seem so important to you now. Be glad that you're getting a new family member (one that you apparently actually like). Maybe you two should go out one night. You could discuss your concerns with her. She may share similar concerns. Talking almost always helps.
2007-01-23 09:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by orangeflameninja 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be happy for her.... i guess it was somewhat unsonsiderate that she made her wedding so close to yours... but 4 months is a really long time..... and if she is your maid of honor, why shouldn't you be hers?! i think being one its an honor itself, and think about it ... your wedding is first, and if you chose her to be your maid of honor it was because she's really special to you and means something to you right??? ... that's something so special that later on you guys could share with your kids!!!
2007-01-23 10:13:34 · answer #6 · answered by Esbeidy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why be mad? what is there to be mad about? she isn't stealing your thunder. your wedding is over and done with and old news after 4 weeks, let alone 4 months.
something else is going on here....your maid of honor is supposedly someone important in your life and you are being awfully pi$$y about someone you supposedly care about.
grow up. let her enjoy her wedding as much as you want to enjoy yours.
2007-01-23 15:30:02 · answer #7 · answered by tess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it will probably be hard to take part in helping to plan her wedding while you are planning/having yours, I don't think it's something to be upset about.
My sister was just married this June, and was a bridesmaid in her friends wedding three weeks previously. That bride was then a bridesmaid in my sister's wedding. They used the close times between weddings to work together and help each other out. For example, they gave it other tips on picking out vendors and shopped for bridesmaid dresses together. I think their weddings actually brought them closer together. If you work on planning details of your weddings together you'll probably help each other out a lot.
2007-01-23 10:04:28 · answer #8 · answered by vrc84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you be mad? Isnt she your best friend shouldnt you be happy? Stop being so selfish.. I never understood why brides make such a big deal out of weddings. Just relax, its just a big party noone will remember any of it except the fact that you are now married. So chill out, help her like she has helped you!
Its just a wedding if you cant handle this how will you handle married life, work, kids, self preservation??
---I just dont get if bridezilla?
2007-01-23 09:57:14 · answer #9 · answered by Mystic Bell 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I sort of know how you're feeling. And the people on here who say to get real or grow up have not had this done to them so they shouldn't comment! My sis had an idea that my boyf (of 6yrs) was planning on proposing to me & she was quiet with me until I got a text saying her boyf (of 3months) had just proposed to her (5 days before I got proposed). I felt gutted & still do, unfortunate I confided with my mum about this & my mum told my sis & my sis was upset & sent a not very nice text & now we don't speak! (V sad). Anyway so my advice would be to try & concentrate on your big day & look at the bigger picture of a happy marriage & being with the person that makes you happy. Forget about the people who aren't considerate, at special or tragic times in your life you get to know which people are true to you. Hope this helps x congratulations by the way
2016-05-24 01:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by Regina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋