It seems men always have to do the asking out. Why don't women ask out -- afraid of rejection? Say for example, the woman likes a guy, but he's unaware of it --and he never really pays much attention because he's focused on his school/work. Does it make sense for the woman just sit there hoping a miracle will happen and he asks her out? Or is it too much to ask for her to simply walk up to him, and at least strike up a convo? Do women think making the first move is "below her" and goes against her pride/integrity? Some women will sit and wait forever, and then wonder why they hit their 30's and 40's lonely and without a man. And then they become man-haters and blame all men for their problems.
Men, chime in here as well -- are you okay with a woman asking you out?
Women, have you ever asked a man out?
2007-01-23 09:36:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Me personally, as a young man, loves when a woman asks me out. I don't know why some women think a man won't like it. Only an insecure or chauvinist man will feel threatened by a woman asking him out. And no, it doesn't make you look desperate. If that's the case, is every man that has made the first move desperate?
That said, I feel men should do most of the asking out. I just don't think. It seems like 98% of the time men initiate, and 2% of the time women initiate? I think it should be around 70% men initiating, and 30% women initiating.
Women wanted equal rights, right? Well that also includes taking out the trash and handling some of the responsibilities that come along with it. You can't be an "independant woman" while at the same time trying to be the old-fashioned woman that lets the man do everything for her.
The point is, men, like women, want to feel desired too. And I think it's only fair that women initiate moves towards the man and not just let him do everything.
2007-01-23 10:33:17 · update #1
i do and i noticed that more and more woman have been taken more control over the years thats how i got my husband i took control first. theres still hope
2007-01-31 09:41:30 · answer #1 · answered by sweetsss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this happened to me a lot when I was living in a Middle Eastern country. Mostly in rural areas, where people are more conservative and they find it inappropriate for a man to talk directly to a woman, if she is with a man. Men would also rather stand on the bus instead of sitting next to a woman. It's a different culture. In the US, I've had few experiences like this. I can think of some examples but I think I was treated that way because I looked young, not because of my gender. I used to commute to Manhattan everyday, and there were a lot of Orthodox Jews on the bus I took... the men avoid sitting by women, they avoid eye contact, and they avoid talking to women, too.
2016-05-24 01:55:37 · answer #2 · answered by Regina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love to initiate the first move. I have no problem with asking a man out or woman in my case. *smiling* I believe if you want something go for it. If not you’ll go through life living in the “what if” scenarios forever. We have one life to live and I want to enjoy it. I learned a saying long ago that goes like this
“ If *if* was a fifth we would all be drunk”
2007-01-23 09:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by lovejoy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have asked a guy out (indirectly). i did, because i was on my band trip, and it was our second to the last day there. it's nice when men ask the women out because it feels formal, and it makes the man a gentleman. i guess most women don't ask out men is because they wait for the guy to do things. everything, in fact. i know where you're coming from. just remember that not all women who end up lonely in their 30's - 50's are man-haters.
2007-01-30 18:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by music_lover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but i kissed my present man to get his attention so dont tell me that guys always make the move. women are just as afraid if not more of being rejected then men.
2007-01-24 17:55:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't ask you don't get. Not an issue with me. If I'm not sure I'll throw out something general like, "Have you ever been to XXX restaurant?" and see what the response and interest level is.
2007-01-23 09:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never asked a guy out...because guys ask me out..it's simply how i think about it..but yes I've initiated a conversation, and showed to a guy that i cared, i also admitted to my best friend(guy) that i like him....!I rest my case..i can do anything more!=0)
2007-01-23 09:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋