I'm really good friends with some people at my high school, but we never hang out after school. Is it socially acceptable for me to ask to hang out with them while they're talking about their weekend plans (in other words inviting myself) or would it be better if I asked them if they wanted to hang out straight up?
2007-01-23 09:27:49 · 13 answers · asked by wildwildmars 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Ask them to hang out with you instead of "can I go with you guys/you to the movies" say "you guys wana check out a movie.And also unless your real good friends or very laid back
you shouldn't ask.
2007-01-23 09:44:09 · answer #1 · answered by fred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try making plans for the weekend and asking them if they'd like to join you.
You can either make plans with someone you already hang out with and invite your school friends to come with you. Or just ask them if they want to hang out on the weekend straight up... just make sure you have something to do or somewhere to go.
2007-01-23 09:59:16 · answer #2 · answered by JackLyN___ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're really good friends with them, how is it you're not already hanging out with them? I wouldn't recommend asking them directly if you can hang out with them in case they don't want to. That would be really awkward and embarrassing all round. The best thing is to think of something you'd like to do anyway, like a movie you want to see, or a concert, and try and casually bring it into a conversation, like 'Hey, do any of you want to ..... whatever, at the weekend? I've heard it's really good'. If they're all busy, take the hint and don't ask again. Maybe they'll get around to including you in time.
Best of luck
2007-01-23 10:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by Molly F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not ask them directly, what you can do is while you are at school with them you can steer the conversation to the subject with phrases like:
- umm, the weekend is coming up what are you doing guys?
- man, I am kind a of bored, there is absolutely nothing to do in this town?
- Man, there is this great concert coming up....
Just drop a hint that you might want to hang with them, if they want you as part of the group they will invite you in, if they do not they will not. It is better this way because if you do it up front, and they say NO WE DO NOT WANT YOU TO HANG WITH US, you will feel rejected and they might feel weird...
Besides, asking straight up might seem needy
2007-01-23 09:37:06 · answer #4 · answered by Freck 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's not socially inappropriate to ask to be included in a casual social setting.
If it were an organized party then yea it's pretty tacky.
I you are confident that asking to join in will be well received than do it.
The only thing I'm trying to figure out is, if you're really good friend why aren't you hanging out after school?
2007-01-23 09:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by edoubleyou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask them to hang out after school. Then, maybe they would start asking you to do stuff ith them on the weekends. Maybe they haven't said anything because they think you're not interested in hanging out outside of school....
2007-01-23 12:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by justme75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. I tried the following method for the same situation and it worked like a charm...
While they are talking about plans, stand about 10 feet away, or any distance so long as you can hear them. Then, after about 30 seconds, walk up to them and say, "Count me in, you know my number." Then walk away. I swear it sounds crazy but it works every time.
2007-01-23 12:20:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite them to do something with you over the weekend, that way you're not inviting yourself into their plans. Perhaps, if they already have plans, and don't want to do what you suggest, they'll at least invite you to join them in return.
2007-01-23 10:17:18 · answer #8 · answered by JenV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication always works. If they say "no" at least you have an answer instead of wondering if they are really your friends or not. I think this is part of, "Peer Pressure"
2007-01-23 09:42:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are talking about their plans they may already be including you .Just ask when, where, how long,and how much money to bring...JUST DO IT......
2007-01-24 11:17:44 · answer #10 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋