i got really drunk one night and had sex with my (now) boyfriend. he was my first and i wasnt even there mentally to enjoy the experience. he thinks we should keep having sex since we already have and my friends do to, but i think that just because we did, we dont have to keep doing it. i'm kinda being swayed though as more and more of my friends think i should enjoy sex with him since i'm not a virgin anymore. what should i do?
2007-01-23 09:24:51 · 41 answers · asked by Nic Jones 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Physically you are not a virgin however mentally you are. So therefore let your boyfriend know that the sex in the relationship is over until you feel things are right with you mentally.
2007-01-23 09:29:45 · answer #1 · answered by lazy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen, you don't have to keep having sex because he wants to, that's where I messed up at. I kept having sex with my b-friend, who was my first at that time. I didn't like it but I kept doing it, then I continue to start becoming sexually active for real. I wish I would have stayed a virgin. I got pregnant when I was 17, so I'll tell you, don't do it. Try and hold on to all the innocence you have left. Not having sex keeps your mind free from alot of headaches, believe me.
2007-01-23 09:31:16 · answer #2 · answered by Nish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see where your friends are coming from...Especially since u were not able to really "experience" your first time they may think u need to go through it again but if that is not something that u want to do then i dont think that u should do it...It doesnt matter if u have done 1 million and 1 times if u decide u dont want to keep doing it, that is your choice
2007-01-23 09:30:27 · answer #3 · answered by JAY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well NiC...
What's between your legs still belongs to you, right?
Then don't let people pressure you. I can't imagine being that drunk during the first time I had sex..and now that I think about it you were a drunk virgin. Humph!
Well...I can honestly say as Prince did in "Raspberry Beret"...."They say the first time ain't the greatest.....unless ya...had the chance to do it all again."
So consider it if you care for him, but this should happen naturally.
Good Luck!!
2007-01-23 09:32:04 · answer #4 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to keep doing it. You were drunk, not making the decision as a rational adult, you can say it was a mistake if that's what you believe. And who cares what your friends do? It's your body, not theirs. You obviously aren't ready for a sexual relationship, or you wouldn't have had to ask this question. Tell him you aren't comfortable with that. If that's a dealbreaker for him, then he's a sleaze and isn't worth it and you'll be happy you didn't do it anymore. And if he's a decent guy, he'll wait until you're ready.
2007-01-23 09:31:42 · answer #5 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont let anyone preasure u into doing omething if u dont want to but if u wanna enjoy having sex then go for it or just let nature take its corse and if u have sex have it dont plan it out if u get me and i dunno how old u r but im still a virgin and im dying for a shag but im only 14 but if it happened it happened u no what a meen but i wud neva get that drunk and then in like 20 yers time say omg i lost my verginity wen i was drunk i didnt even getbto enjoy it your first time has top b special so pretend it didnt happend and do it agen lolo
2007-01-23 09:30:08 · answer #6 · answered by :)Talli Tastik(: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask us, you already know the answer- you are not comfortable. If your bf is pressuring him tell him that he either has to respect you and your wishes or that is it. No one, NO ONE should ever do anything that they are doubting, even if only a little. If you choose to abstain, even if you already had sex, that is your choice and should be respected. It takes a lot of confidence to say no and you can do it!!
2007-01-23 09:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by kodiackgazer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is that are you ready for that kind of commitment - there are other things to enjoy besides just sex - maybe start off with other things besides this and work back up to it - most guys are going to go for this (if not he is not worth your time anyways) - I mean you really dont even know if this relationship is going to last
2007-01-23 09:30:35 · answer #8 · answered by Daniel M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do what ever fits you best if you don't feel comfortable having sex then don't do it just because you are not a virgin doesnt mean that you loose the right to say no. i think that you should dump him if he doesn't understand and well if you didn't feel anything i will say that he is probably not the guy for you
2007-01-23 09:31:20 · answer #9 · answered by cosita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stand your ground and do what you feel is right. If you don't feel like you should continue having sex, don't. Don't let other people pressure you into it either. It should be something you're mentally prepared for. Be careful when drinking next time.
2007-01-23 09:30:08 · answer #10 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋