Is it ok to spank our children when then dont listen?

Question

Or should parents just let children do what they want.Know we can get arrested for just hitting our own kids.

Answer 1

Spanking isn't the only alternative. All these pro-spankers are in a big panic about this new law in California. Why not educate yourselves on positive, effective ways of discipline? It is possibe to raise well behaved, confident children without spanking, it just requires work which alot of lazy parents don't want to do. Spanking is easy for them. There are big reasons why it isn't okay to spank. Some experts believe that spanking is abuse. Children need greater protection against assault and battery than any other class of citizen. They are the class of people who are most vulnerable to physical and psychological damage when battered and we need to protect them. Children are human beings not property or cattle that we can just take over and smack around. Spanking under age 3 is too easy to injure a child and pointless. It is about time someone brings out this big controversy on spanking. Back in the old days, parents used belts, wooden spoons etc and all thought it was fine and the best way to discipline. Now research is showing that it is abuse and alot of adults today are affected emotionally and psychologically. So you want your child to come up to you one day as an adult and be angry at you for hitting them? Children will blame and the parents pay the price. Because when they are adults, spanking will be the thing of the past and looked upon as disgusting and demoralizing. We today can't believe that teachers were allowed to smack children with sticks and belts. The reason some kids are criminals and defiant isn't because they aren't allowed to be hit, there are many factors that contribute to violent, out of control kids. It is those kids that have parents who use no form of discipline at all. Times are changing and the more we get educated on child development, the better the outcome. You want what is best for your child right? Spanking does alot of psychological damage. It lowers IQ, teaches how to be sneaky, agressive and insecure. All research shows it is ineffective long term. Parents who spank are less educated.

Answer 2

I think it is perfectly ok to spank your children when they misbehave, however, you should not spank them really hard so that it leaves a mark or causes excessive pain. And just a couple firm taps on the behind.

I think it is a great way to make a child see that what they are doing is wrong. They will learn very quickly to stop doing it.

I cannot stand parents who give into misbehaving children. I have worked several years in retail, and it drove me nuts when a child was misbehaving about say a toy, and the parents just gave into them and bought them the toy. That does not teach your child anything except that they get rewarded for causing a scene.

Answer 3

In the state that I live in - you can not get arrested for spanking your children - unless you are doing it in excess and leaving marks. I believe that every child responds differently to different kinds of discipline. For example - I only spank my son when he does something REALLY serious - like run into the street in front of a car, or (yes it's serious to me) when he lies. This way he understands the severity of the situation. I tried spanking my 6 year old son as a primary form of discipline - but it shut him down. He wouldn't talk to me about what he had done - his brain only focused on the fact that he got spanked - again. So I switched to time-outs and he understands that a lot better & we communicate better this way. I don't think spanking is wrong - I just think it's the wrong form of discipline for every situation.

Answer 4

I was spanked as a child and I spank mine when it's called for. You cannot be arrested for spanking unless you are clearly over the line (beating the tar out of them), and if you are arrested the charges will be dropped. Every US state allows reasonable spanking on the bottom.

Answer 5

yah its ok but as long as your not hitting them with belts or any thing than its not all bad, but please dont let your kids just do what ever thay want then thay will start to think that thay are in charge of you. and its not like spanking is the only way to punish your kide how about a time out?

Answer 6

You cannot be arrested for spanking your children. The general rule is that they have to be clothed and it has to be the area of the bottom. You can't just go nuts and hit them anywhere. I'm sure you know that anyway.

There are many other ways to discpiline children. CPS IS making it harder and harder to punish children for misbehaviour. Maybe if you took a parenting class you could learn the other ways. I'm not saying your a bad parent at all.

Answer 7

spanking is NOT hitting, it IS discipline. and it is the best way to deal with kids who don't listen, of any age. if you do not leave marks then it is not abuse in any way. I do not agree with beating kids, but spanking is NOT beating.

ever look at the crime rate? it is going up up and away. ever notice that fewer people are spanking their kids? a coincidence? I don't think so.

Answer 8

I got spanked as a child and my son will get his little behind spanked when he gets in trouble. Their is a difference between spanking your kids and abusing them. At a certain age though it is much more effective to start taking things away from them.

Answer 9

For the love of Odin. Time outs don't work for all children. Yes some kids respond to that sort of thing. However if your child isn't one of those and you feel spanking them will deter behavior that will do more harm then good then by all means spank them, your not your kids friend your their parent so tell society to shove it up their *** and raise then how you think it should be done, because believe me if all my parents did when i was growing up was put me in time out if be one bad guy today.

Answer 10

You can discipline without spanking. I don't spank and my child doesn't "do whatever they want".

SPANKING DOESN'T WORK
Many studies show the futility of spanking as a disciplinary technique, but none show its usefulness. In the past thirty years in pediatric practice, we have observed thousands of families who have tried spanking and found it doesn't work. Our general impression is that parents spank less as their experience increases. Spanking doesn't work for the child, for the parents, or for society. Spanking does not promote good behavior, it creates a distance between parent and child, and it contributes to a violent society. Parents who rely on punishment as their primary mode of discipline don't grow in their knowledge of their child. It keeps them from creating better alternatives, which would help them to know their child and build a better relationship. In the process of raising our own eight children, we have also concluded that spanking doesn't work. We found ourselves spanking less and less as our experience and the number of children increased. In our home, we have programmed ourselves against spanking and are committed to creating an attitude within our children, and an atmosphere within our home, that renders spanking unnecessary. Since spanking is not an option, we have been forced to come up with better alternatives. This has not only made us better parents, but in the long run we believe it has created more sensitive and well-behaved children.