For stay at home mothers....?

Question

I am having a hard time being a stay at home mother now that I have 2 little ones.....How do you (stay at home mom's) prioritize your day to make the most of your time? (Playing with the kids, cooking all the meals, cleaning up the daily messes as well as dusting, vacuuming, laundry, etc....as well as trying to make time for my husband and personal time for myself? Serious answers only.

Answer 1

Here's the thing-when your kids grow up, they aren't going to remember how clean the house was or how great the yard looked. They are going to remember the time you invested in them, playing, coloring, snuggling. I know a dirty house is stressful, but when they are teenagers & don't want you around, you will have plenty of time to clean!

You have the most important job on the planet. You are an army of one-you are a Mommy! I am proud of you for having the strength to do it and the courage to ask for advice rather than just trudge along without direction!

Go girl!

Answer 2

Being a stay at home mom can get very stressful-I think more than my job ever made me. Try to relax and trust that everything will get done. Now think of your day. I give myself about a half hour to tidy up the normal stuff each morning-make the beds, clean up the towels and the clothes on the bathroom floor. Next, ppick one chore to do each day. One day may be vaccuming. Mine was to vacuum downstairs and dust(I was lucky today-long naps) Spend some time playing with your kids and remember that's the most importnat thing-they won't be little forever. As of husband time-put the kids to sleep and relax with him. My hubby and I play games together after the kids are asleep. Then pick a night of the week and thats your night to go out. Without the kids or hubby. And go and do what ever you want-shop by yourself, go to the library and read, visit with friends, etc. And keep to the night each week. Mine is Wednesdays and I've taken classes at Michael's, joined a Bible study at Chruch, hung out at Starbucks, you name it. And I always feel so much better afterwards. Good luck

Answer 3

I'm a stay at home mom to a 6 mo. old girl and this is how I do my day.

I wake up at 6am with my hubby and make him breakfast and we have some time together while he eats.

Then I go back to bed for an hour or so. Not really to sleep but to read a book watch the news in my robe. Whatever just to keep my sanity. My little one wakes up at 8-9 and we take our shower and she has her bath. Then we have tummy time and breakfast. After breakfast I put her in her exersaucer and I do one cleaning chore for the week (ex. laundry, vacuum, dusting, or just tidying up). It's eleven by then and we go for a walk or play group just something fun. Then we eat lunch and she goes down for her nap. This is when I do some more cleaning and get all the prep work done for dinner. She wakes up around 2 and we play on the big bed for a while and then daddy gets home around 4. He showers and then takes the baby so I can get dinner going. Once it's in the oven we spend sometime together as a family. Eat dinner and then watch TV until 7. Then we all go play together until she goes to bed at 9. Me and hubby spend time together until he goes to bed at 10 30.

That's my day.

Answer 4

First off... don't try to do it all every day. You will just drive yourself insane. I take my cues from my girls. They both like some alone time, which I use to take care of some small stuff around the house that doesn't take a lot of attention. I use nap times to do the more involved work. I take a break every once in a while, too. Crock pots are amazing for the meals, because you don't have to invest a lot of time. You can prepare everything ahead when you have two pairs of eyes. I also stop all work when my husband gets home, so we can all spend some time together before bed. Just go with what feels right.

Answer 5

I am 21 "N" have 3 kids and Im currently 8months pregnet. I don't have a routine, I just do what I need to do.

My partner works and I stay at home. With my kids I love my time with them "N" I have play time with them every day.

With the cooking "N" cleaning, well the house isn't always up to "white glove" standards, kids will always be kids.

Look what Im trying to say is don't concentrate on being super mum!!! Just do your best. Not everything has to be a routine. Sit down, take a deep breath and just do what needs to be done!!!

I'll let you in on a little secret of mine. If you make your home life FUN you will find it more easy to do things. I blast my music and for that moment in time I can be a famous super star not just a house wife, "N" I tell you what, MY KIDZ LOVE IT.

So don't stress out,take it one step at a time because all you can do is try your best.

Peace out. take care "N" God Bless
One love!!!!

Answer 6

You just need to do whatever is most important to you. For instance, the dusting can go one more day if you don't have time that day. I have set days I do laundry, dusting and mopping and cleaning the bathroom. As for everything else, it gets done every day.

As for time with your husband is there someone who can babysit once or twice a month? What time do your children go to bed? You can always work in some time there.

Answer 7

I also have two Young kids and a husband who works all day and comes home tired so I get no help from him. I'm not blaming him though he keeps us clothed and all that jazz. I just get up shower and bathe all 3 of us then I will feed the baby and she goes to sleep then I feed my son and start cleaning as much as I can before my son wakes up my daughter. It is hectic but I didnt think I cold get a job and miss out on all the important stuff. I am very tired all the time but its not anybodies fault so try not to take it out on them.Me and my husband go out on the weekends and that is our quality time together it is only once a week but that's fine with me and him. as Long as I get a little time away from my kids I can usually last the week being around them 24/7.

Answer 8

i am also a stay at home mom. my husband works all day.

what i usuaslly do is set the kids up for breakfast and try to sneak a load of laundry while they are eating. with cleaning the house, depending how old they are, they can help with little things like helping pick up the laundry and put it in the basket like a game, help wipe the table, play with them while they are up and try to do some cleaning or bills, or whatever else you need to do while they are napping. switch of on different day on what your goals are. try not to do everything in one day. when the kids are in bed for the night take a bubble bath, enjoy time with your husband. have family time the same way--trade off playing and cleaning

Answer 9

It takes some getting used to. I always prioritized my children first. I had fun with them.

Laundry was always last on my list, but that is a personal preference (that has stuck!)

I also was on the phone often, and it is esp. helpful if it is someone in a similar situation.

The mess will always come back. I always loved this poem:
"Cleaning and scrubbing can wait 'til tomorrow
For babies grow up we've learned to our sorrow.
So quiet down cobwebs, dust go to sleep
I'm rocking my baby, and babies don't keep!"

Also, I really enjoyed going to flylady.com for some awesome tips and tricks.

Personal time usually came for us after the kiddos were asleep, and weekends at grammas house.

Answer 10

If you can make more money work part-time outside the home, and paying someone to come in and clean for less, that seems to work well. You get adult time, I think moms really need. I think this topic might be on Oprah right now.