When attending a funeral service is it polite to give the family a present?

Answer 1

when attending a funeral service a card or a card with money in it is fine to give to the family. at least if you do that they will know that at least you care & have respect for them.

Answer 2

No, it is not. Go before or after the service, to the house, or send the package. Unless the gift is funeral related, like a scrapbook, or stationary and stamps, or a remembrance of the departed, . skip the present, and take a card with money, or send flowers, or take a nice covered dish to the wake.
It would be sad to have to open a gift at the funeral, there really is not a place to do so, and no place to keep it after it is open. It is not a joyful time, not one for unwrapping presents, however special they are.

Answer 3

I have been through many many funeral's lost my best friend,dad,brother....Most of the people brought flowers depends on how well u know the family or the person who passed away. Some people brought pictures and gave them to us. Mainly showing up does more than u can know. Cards really aren't the thing for funerals, Maybe send them in the mail after the funeral.

Answer 4

No. Not during the service. The norm is either to have flowers sent to the funeral home or, after it's over, to visit the funeral home & ask for "donation cards." You can donate $ of any amount to, for example, a cancer fund or the like. They will, in turn, send a card to the family regarding your donation, but leaving out the dollar amount.

Answer 5

It is traditional to give the family a condolence card or to send flowers to the home or to the funeral. The best present to give is to prepare a meal for the grieving family and bring it over to their home.

Answer 6

I would never say to someone that they could or could not do something, but to give a present in the context of flowers, donations to a charity, or medical institution would be fair and also, to give food stuffs for the remaining family, or gift certificates to restaurants would be a very considerate thing to do...or certificates that would come in handy during the burial days or in the few days following when they are not inclined to be as agressive with cooking, cleaning, etc.

Answer 7

It is not appropriate at all. Some religions allow flowers. And, some people have asked in place of flowers, to send a contribution to a charity in the decease's name.

I did hear of someone who mentioned giving money to the family to help pay for the funeral-------but, I had never heard of this before----------in all my 50 years.

Answer 8

It all depends on the relationship between the both of you. Although I would say for most cases wait tell after all the commotion is done with. It just a little bit weird carrying a package around with all the sobs in the air or even giving a present out.

Answer 9

If there is a wake or if you support the family at home afterwards, bring a homemade food dish like a casserole. This is supposed to be helpful because the family is grieving and 'mom doesn't want to cook at a time like this'. Otherwise, is varies based on culture. You can always offer to help and be available to be called on if they need something. However, don't offer help if you can't follow through after it is offered. You may ask a mutual friend if they are bringing a gift.

Answer 10

What do you mean by a present? sending flowers to the funeral home is nice or giving a donation to a hospice or something they may have requested in the notice. But a present-- could a gift replace your loved one C'mon. that's very inappropriate, grieving people have enough to deal with.

Answer 11

Not a present, per se, but sending flowers to the funeral parlor, church, or family's home is traditional. It's not customary to bring the flowers yourself and hand them over. That's tacky. Condolence cards are perfectly ok. So are donations to a charity in the deceased honor, if the family has indicated that's their wish.