a dating question for guys?

Question

ok i have a question fo rmen about relationships. I've been w/ my hubby for 8 yrs. since i was 18. moved in right away. not that i'm looking to break up w/ him. but i was wondering this; we've had 4 kids one was adopted out and someday i will try for custody, i'm pregnant right now and am due next month. now if we did break up how many men out there would go out/marry if they were interested; even w/ all the kids and be a good dad. My hubby is only my second real relationship in life and i've always wondered.

Answer 1

Military strikes me as an odd place to put a relationship question...

Answer 2

Let's call a spade, a spade! Many guys buy with their eyes.

At twenty six years old , you have squeezed a lot of living into a few short years. Women tend to age earlier when this is the case, unless you routinely work out to keep yourself in top, notch shape.

For the normal guy who can think beyond the end of his penis, he will quickly realize that you carry a lot of baggage. This is never very practical when your looking for a hot, spontaneous relationship.

Statistically, you have an uphill battle in finding Mr. Right who will love your kids like a dad and be Sir Galahad to you. Your relative youth works in your favor, provided you don't look more than your age, and you continue to keep your body in shape.

Soon, you will again have four kids to worry about. Breaking up a family just because you're getting the seven year itch, doesn't always work out well! Fifty one percent of women in the US live without a husband. I would have to believe that a lot of them would prefer to share their lives with a related significant other.

Answer 3

First of all, if I were your husband and I found out you put this in a public forum, it would undermine my trust in you, and I'd consider divorcing you on the spot.

After I got over that, I'd realize you were pregnant and confused by the surging hormones and insecurities, and I'd think about excusing your behavior. Then I'd look at the three remaining kids and hold my tongue.

Personally, I have no problem dating women with kids because having a family is one of my top priorities, and it doesn't bother me that the kids belong to someone else. I'd prefer that the other dad just go on with his life and let the kids decide whether they want to contact him.

As for the girl, she's mine. Kids get second dibs, not first.

Okay, I'll share.

(IMHO, I think my view of this is extremely rare. Many guys who say this are only saying it in theory. I've already dated women with kids and tested my own motives. I had to. She was pretty hot.)

Answer 4

Lets be honest. Not many would buy into a ready made family with as many a 5 kids, that's if you get custody of the one you adopted out. I really doubt you'd get anyone to go out with you let alone marry you. Stay where you are.

Answer 5

I don't think I would be wired to take on a woman that had 4 kids already. That's a huge amount of responsibility to take on.

Honestly, if you look, the grass always looks greener in other places. But it is cosmetic only.

As the old addage goes, Dance with who brought ya to the prom!

Answer 6

I've got 6 of my own. I've been married to their mother almost 27 years. To be honest, you don't sound too responsible.

Answer 7

I think it will be tough. Most single guys are not looking to date a woman with just one kid (they call it baggage), so I think it would be very tough to find one open to dating a woman with multiple kids.

Answer 8

Move to a military base, they will take you on. See it happen all the time.

Answer 9

I personally wouldn't marry into having four children, but that's just me.

Answer 10

ru kidding? 8 years? pregnant?!? man i'ld be running out the door... you can keep the cat....