I have a boyfriend I have been with for about 3 years now,but I do not love him in the way he loves me. I want to tell him really bad how I feel but just cant come to do it. We have talked about getting married, well he has talked about getting married and in the begining I was for it but not now, there has just been too many thngs that have happend that I am not in love with him any more, and mainly because of my kids, they dont like him and they dont get along all that well. I just dont want to hurt his feelings but I can't keep going on like this! I have been very deprest over this now for a long time
2007-01-23 09:02:34 · 20 answers · asked by suz1773 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How old are your kids? Kids can sense things that adults cant or don't want too Know. If YOU don't love him... Leave him. If YOU are unsure if you love him then talk to him. Maybe he can help you work through it. If YOU just don't love him any more Break it off as soon as you can. If your kids are adults they may just want you to them selves or they may have a valid reason for not liking him, ask them why? If your living with him make sure you have an out. If he's living with you make sure he has one so he can't play on your sympathies of no where to go.
2007-01-23 09:15:47 · answer #1 · answered by littlejewel34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Def leave...no one is worth being with if you don't love them and you feel depressed. Tell him you want out you are sorry but you do not want to be in the relationship anymore and you want to do what is right for your kids and yourself. Tell him that it has been bothering you for a while now and obviously he knows the kids don't like him so that shouldn't be a surprise to him. Tell him not to tey and make you stay youhave made up your mind and you have wanted to for a while but you just can't stand to hurt him. Then leave and stick to it...he will make it hard and tell you everything you want to hear...blah, blah, blah all guys do this when they don't want you to leave but just stay strong and remember that you are depressed over this situation so don't fall back into it. Good luck I hope it works out.
2007-01-23 17:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be happy. Although you may hurt his feelings, if you or your kids aren't happy at all, then do not press foward. Break up with him, move on, and find the real person of your life.
Divorce rate is so high because many people plunge on anyway despite doubts.
2007-01-23 17:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be very honest with him. It really isn't fair to be in a dead relationship. For everyday you are in this relationship, you are hurting him...and yourself. Just sit and talk, get things out in the open and let it go. Your health and heart depend on this. Good luck with everything.
2007-01-23 17:08:26 · answer #4 · answered by momofatsc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard as it may be, the honorable thing to do is to tell him and end it. He's wasting his time with you. The longer it goes on for, the more you're going to hurt him. He could already be recovering from your loss and moving on with his life by now if you had left him already.
2007-01-23 17:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by tfmemnoch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unless you plan to marry this man against your own wishes, you better gather the courage and speak up, my dear! I know it is easy to give advice and no one is in your shoes but right now the best thing you can do for everyone concerned here is be honest. To the man who says he loves you and to yourself. Good luck.
2007-01-23 17:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by green_baby_dragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi doll, you have to tell your boyfriend how you feel, even try a trial seperation, that will give you time to think and also him time to think. if you get back for a chat and see how both of you feel after the break and see where it goes from there... good luck
2007-01-23 17:09:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tough but I think you have to do what's best for you and your kids. Yes it will hurt his feelings but it's better to end it sooner rather than later so you can both move on in your lives.
Good Luck
2007-01-23 17:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by C T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are hurting him more in the long run by stringing him along. Let him move on with his life while he still can.
2007-01-23 17:05:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out honey, go and make yourself happy. Don't worry about anyone else's feelings.
2007-01-23 17:07:56 · answer #10 · answered by melody g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋