If you've been single for a long time, shouldn't you be insulted ?

Question

I'm forty -- five years old, and I've never been married . I feel insulted and offended that not one of the women I've known has wanted me to be her husband . Am I wrong for feeling this way ? If I shouldn't feel this way, why not ? Why is it wrong ?

Answer 1

It is not a right or wrong question. It is how you feel. I do understand you want to be with someone, but do you know how many people felt that way and married the wrong one. Don't be so hard on yourself, because in that state on mind, it becomes even harder to find someone. Even if you need to wait a few more years, believe me if it is the right person, it will be worth the wait.

Answer 2

Your feelings are never wrong, but you're asking a difficult question. Have you had many long-term relationships? Do you have relationship patterns that end up repeating and failing?

There's nothing wrong with being single. I'm single right now and I love it. I don't want a boyfriend and am happy to be independent and do whatever I want, whenever I want.

Wouldn't you rather be single than in a bad marriage or with someone who treats you poorly or cheats on you? There are many worse things than being alone.

Only you can know the mistakes you've made in past relationships and if you don't like being single, then ask someone out on a date and get working on not being single. It really is just that easy.

Answer 3

I'm 32 and single, and I don't feel insulted about not finding the right person yet. It just means that YOU haven't found the person YOU want to spend the rest of your life with. I'd rather have a full, exciting life as a single person than to settle on someone just so I could get married. When the right person comes along, it will be right for both of you.
Sometimes it's a bummer to not have a spouse, but I try to focus on the positives in my life and making myself a better person. That way, when the right person does come along, I'll be ready for them by being the best person I can possibly be.

Answer 4

I am 33 and have been single going on 7 years now. I don’t feel insulted, look around you and see how many people are getting divorced, cheating on their partners, unhappy and then ask yourself why have you chosen to be alone?

I think people settle too easily and take the next available option. It takes strength to be alone, and if the right person never comes along will you feel incomplete? As i your life has lost its meaning? You can never live for someone else, only for yourself. Find something that gives your purpose, that makes you happy and you’ll see just how attractive that is. Besides what’s the rush?

Answer 5

Can't make people marry you. No need to feel insulted. You might be miserably married. Enjoy your freedom, the grass is not always greener on the other side. If you are intent on finding a mate for life, there is no reason to give up at 45. You're in a great position to skip the whole child rearing thing.

Answer 6

I do not think you should feel insulted. It is not a matter of how many women wanted to marry you, or not wanted to marry you. Only you know if there was one special lady in love with you enough to want to marry you and why you did not ask her as that is how it goes. Most women wait for the man to ask them to marry them.. You have no idea if there was one woman out there that wanted to marry you but was not brave enough to ask you to marry her. Women today are still not as liberated as people think. So my advice to you is this> if you meet a lovely single lady and you are attracted to her and want to know her better do so, and if you feel that she would be right for you as a permanent companion in life, than ask her to be your wife. That is how it has always been and will continue to be for many, many more years. So be not insulted but reassured and get going... Good Luck

Answer 7

Insulted??!!

Are you kidding? Don't you imagine that they did you a favor?

Come on, how many happily married people do you know?
That have been married longer than 3 yrs?

If you are eager to get raked over the coals in divorce court jump to marrying anyone that will have you.

How many did you propose to? Would you really make a good husband?

Harboring ill feelings is a waste of precious time. Cut it out!

Answer 8

look dude...there's nothing wrong being single...
but if thats what u feel...i must say that u lack self esteem
n its big turn off for women...
also...in such cases..u tend to NOT be urslf..which again earns u a minus pt...i think u should live ur life to the fullest..not gettin bothered by ur single status...n u'll c women lining up...im not sympathizing u...i've been with a 40yrs old guy just becoz of his joyous n energetic nature ...U should create that confidence in u that kills every woman who gets to know u...MOST IMP. BE URSLF

Answer 9

Think back to your exes. Would you want to have married them?

Maybe you need to meet a better kind of woman. Date more. That's what I'm trying to do now. I ask a lot of women out anyway. 3 out of 10 show up. Hoping to meet one that I can let catch me.

Heaven knows if I'll ever get married. It would take a very special woman.

Answer 10

I don't know if your waiting for someone to throw themselves at you?? How hard have "you" tried??? Do you even try???? If you can "honestly" answer these questions, then you should have your answer. I don't mean to sound like a jack@ss, but you make it sound like they (women) are suppose to do all the asking, thinking and planning, and your just suppose to sit there and wait. If this is your mentality (which is hope is not the case), then you have wasted at least 25 years of your life. Good Luck dude.