Okay, heres the deal. My b/f & i have been dating for about 2 years now. He's in college & we have a long distance relationship. We have only gotten to see eachother a few times since we have been together. I would love to have a real relationship with him but, at the same time i don't want to make him feel like i'm telling him to either choose me or school. I want him to finish school if thats what he really wants but, i'm not sure how much longer i can go with only getting to see him on his breaks. When we started dating, i was under the impression that he only had a little bit more left in school. Come to find out that he doesn't want to end his education atleast until 2010. I believe he has enough education to get a great job so we can be together. What do i do? Please Help!!!!
2007-01-23 08:58:31 · 8 answers · asked by lilmisscountrygrl07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel you on this. I'm in a similiar situation. First is there anyway you can move to where he is since you are done with your education? This is something that is important to him so you need to let him finish this and try your best to be supportive no matter how hard it will be on you and your relationship. I can't believe people are calling you selfish. When you love someone you just want to be with them. Thoughs people must not know what love feels like or they wouldn't say that. There isn't anything wrong with that. You need to talk to him. Let him know how your feeling. Let him know you feel that he has enough education to get a great job so you would like to understand his thought on why he feels he needs more. Most important thing let him know you support what he is doing or he will feel hurt. Some guys feel like they need to be the main supporter for there family. And they should be, although at times we as women may hate the wait, but men need to feel that they are the bread winners in the family. Just think of it as more of a security for your future, your future family. Like I said I know this is hard and be patient isn't easy, trust me I'm having to be patient and I'm having the hardest time. But even though it's hard it really is better for the long run. Here are the words your going hate....Just be patient, but do talk to him. Let him know how you are feeling. Communication is the MOST important thing in a relationship and if he really cares about your relationship he will want to know how you feel even if he may not want to hear it. He should want to know because it is something that is bothering you.
2007-01-23 09:58:06 · answer #1 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its no longer --- in case you dont experience the opt to be with him --- in case you dont experience waiting then you definately not in any respect will ---- and in spite of in case you probably did flow mutually it does no longer very last ---- there is no spark no interest in spite of in case you disagree ---- neither of you're significant to at least one yet another --- to in uncomplicated words see one yet another some circumstances a week isn't passionate ---- to me --- properly i understand what i did and that change into to be with my woman on a daily basis each weekend as a lot as a threat and previously you say "study" we both worked finished time and that i change into interpreting besides ---- and that i made time and that i surpassed my tests and then went on to do a level ---- so that you're not to any extent further all that in touch in one yet another after 2 and a 1/2 years i might want to pick to be married
2016-10-17 02:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats tough. Well if you love him it doesnt matter how long it takes for him to get through school. Just be strong and hope that you will be able to make it through the time you two are apart and make evry moment you can spend together the BEST.
hope eveything works out
-Brittany
2007-01-23 09:05:11 · answer #3 · answered by britttany s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. If you love him, you'll let him better himself. Education is so important in today's society. If he's educated, it's a better future for you and him. If you stick it through, you'll reap his benefits. lol Even though that kinda sounds gold digger-ish
2007-01-23 09:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by baby_wrestler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are so selfish...y should he limit his education to be with you!!!! Can your love pay his bills and fatten his bank account and provide for his future!!!!
he's smart and goal oriented...go to school and get an education yourself...by the way when he finishes school with all that education do you think he is going to limit himself to someone without
2007-01-23 09:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by Mary S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get over yourself...the most important thing is his education....so let him do it...an ultimatum either you or school??? what is wrong with you? looks like maybe you could use a little education...you don't love him you are selfishly thinking about only you.....
2007-01-23 09:03:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i say u talk to him about it...dont tell him u want him 2 leave skoo becuz he will think dat ur not supporting him....if u guys r in luv 2gether den anything will work out fine.
2007-01-23 09:04:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no way U should interfere with his school...if u do not like him attending school...then it is time for u to move on...dump him
2007-01-23 09:02:43 · answer #8 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋