my boyfriend and i are in love and we want to get married what is the earlist age yo can get married in kansas because we wnat to be togeather but we can't what am i supose to do
2007-01-23 08:52:28 · 10 answers · asked by Logan E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am also young and engaged, but I am in college. Before proposing, you both need to be out of high school. I was with my boyfriend my junior and senior year, always talked about getting married, but he did wait almost 4 years beforing proposing to me. I want to warn you that from the ages of 16-21 you WILL and she WILL change so much. Those are the years that you find your self identity (you need to look that up and under stand it). Right now y'all are just high school kids in love (which you probably are...I don't doubt you).
I want to ask why you think it is so necessary to get married right away? Are you afraid to be alone? Afraid y'all will split apart? If you truly ARE meant to be together....why not wait until you both are at least 21. Marriage is just a contract....keep what you have now and wait it out. Please though...wait a while because it is CRUCIAL that you both figure out who you truly are WITHOUT the presence of one another.
Go to about.com and type in young marriage and read some stuff. Really do it....I read it and learned a lot. There is WAYYYYY more to marriage than just love. You both must agree how to handle financial situations, sex, you both need to agree on a parenting philosophy, you also both need to decide who is going to work and who will do certain household chores like cook, clean, mow the lawn and stuff.
Do you really want to be married and have the shame of living with parents??? You both need to go to college...even away to college and live in seperate dorms in seperate cities. After that, if y'all can keep a long distance relationship strong, then get married. Not now.
I do hope you listened to me because I am only 20 and I will be 21 or 22 before I get married. I know that marriage sounds so good to you now, but if y'all are in love...wait a couple years...what will it hurt? It will hurt nothing, no one, and you won't have shame if anything goes wrong.
2007-01-23 08:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you're in luck! I'm pretty sure the lowest age in kansas to get married is 12, which has the lowest age of being able to get married in all of the US, i think. im not sure if you were over or under 12, from the way you were typing but, hell i think you could make it
2007-01-23 08:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not date for a while & be together as a couple before hurrying off to get married. Your relationship will be stronger the longer you are together & therefore you'll have a more successful marriage.
2007-01-23 09:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by ~M~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 19 years old. My hubby was 23. When the time is right and you can support yourselves, and not contribute to the 52% divorce rate.
2007-01-24 00:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by J*A*K*C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In Kansas, you have to pass a spelling test to get a marriage license... You will fail! Go to school first.
2007-01-23 09:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
18 in england, 16 with parents permission. In scotland its 16
2016-03-28 23:11:26 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm hoping you are seriously joking! Live life and enjoy it, then decide if you truely want to get married!
2007-01-23 09:20:34 · answer #7 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know it will last, wait. There's no need to rush it. Love doesn't go away, and if you are this rushed, it may not be love....
2007-01-23 09:07:29 · answer #8 · answered by Jase 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you can support yourselves.
2007-01-23 09:06:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋