I am the oldest girl in the family, a college student with overprotective parents - in some ways, they'll "baby" me and expect me to depend on them...i've had my license for a loong time now but dont' have a card. Instead of just waiting for them to get me one, i was just thinking it of getting it myself. I am an "adult" in the government's eyes, i can work, etc...If i do get a car, will a get more of their respect? It's not like they can tell me what to do as much, right?
2007-01-23 08:39:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do you live in their house at any time? If so, to a certain extent they can tell you what to do. Also, if they are paying for your college education, they can put in their two cents, too. You did not say if you are just starting college, or near the end of your college career. If you are just starting college, they could be very nervous about you being away from home, and getting into things that some people seem to get into away from home--- boys, drugs, alcohol.
I don't know if you feel comfortable about talking to them about everything. You can tell them how you want a car, and you want to pay for it. But, with a car comes car insurance. I'm not sure where you live, but that adds up. They may expect you to pay for it! If you are remaining "good" in college, let them know. For example, if you are not getting into drugs, tell them that.
It's great you are becoming more independent. My parents were a little overprotective with me, and I did not learn to become independent until I got married.
2007-01-23 08:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by Bird Breath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that is what you need to do then go get the car. Having a payment and the responsibility of a car is a good beginning to adulthood and your parents may see it as such. On the other hand they may see it as an irrisponsible act. Maybe discuss it with them and see what they say. Tell them you feel it is time to start being an adult and that this would be a good way to start. Just make sure you can show them that you can make the payments and pay the insurance etc. with money left over. If you are 18 legally they cant stop you from getting the car, however if you live in their house they do have a right to have an opinion.
2007-01-23 08:48:38 · answer #2 · answered by 2littleiggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt buying your own car would suddenly make your parents show you more respect and stop "babying" you. But it could be a step in the right direction. Focus on your studies, first of all, but also take steps to get a part-time job and pay for some of your own bills. Prove to your parents - and yourself - that you can handle money responsibly. Then both you and your parents will both have a solid source of respect for you.
2007-01-23 08:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most parents love to see their children make decisions for themselves. However, it will take more than just getting a car to win their respect. You will also need to maintain it, pay your own care note and insurance (preferably without their help) as well. They need to see a pattern of responsible behavior from you, not just one event. You already have their love, but respect takes time. I hope this helps and if you need me I am here.
2007-01-23 08:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by Drew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you want to buy your own car you should your parent's should let you that can learn you to be responsable and learn you to be independent they should respect you trying to do something nice for yourself and if your 18 or older your an adult
2007-01-23 08:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you have that chat with them to start treating you like an adult - it ain't gonna happen.
2007-01-23 08:42:46 · answer #6 · answered by Michael K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HI THERE ITS SOUNDS LIKE YOU HAVE A GOOD HEAD ON YOUR SHOULDERS, YEAH IT SOUNDS LIKE TIME FOR YOU TO DO THINGS ON YOUR OWN AND I THINK IT IS WONDERFUL THAT YOU WANT TO BUY A CAR BY YOURSELF, THIS MIGHT SHOW YOUR PARENTS HOW RESPONSIBLE YOU ARE AND THEY MIGHT LET YOU GO A LITTLE,....... GOOD LUCK DOLL...
2007-01-23 08:46:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they should already respect you but yea.. i think they would respect you evn more if you bought your own car and paid the bill your slef
2007-01-23 08:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by datz_wuz_up 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think they will you will be showing responsibility and it sounds like you already are so go ahead they cannot baby you forever
2007-01-23 08:43:21 · answer #9 · answered by ken j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you show independence to them....not sure of respect...
2007-01-23 09:31:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋