I'm a 33 year old male. Is it wrong to pursue a female at work who is only 25?

Answer 1

nothing wrong

Answer 2

Depends on what you mean by "pursue". If she isn't interested in your attentions, you could get in trouble at work. Her age wouldn't be the problem. But there really isn't anything wrong with a 33 year old and a 25 year old getting together, if that's what they both want.

Answer 3

My boyfriend is 36 and I am 24. We met at work a little over 2 and half years ago.

The only issue was the work thing. It made things complicated with our co-workers and sometimes we saw each other too much which is not healthy for a relationship to be with someone 24 hours a day.

But your age difference is completely fine...

Answer 4

No ,I don't see that being such a drastic age difference.Just try and feel her out as far as interests and how she is emotionally.Sometimes girls around that age can still be a little immature and still be big into hanging with friends constantly and partying with them all the time.Not bad if you are still that way too but if not it could nd up feeling like you are not only dating her, but all her clingy friends as well.
Just check her habits out real well to see how compatible you guys will be together and go from there.

Answer 5

first be sure your advances towards her is welcomed, you don't want a sexual harassment suit on your hands. if she welcomes your advances then no, it's not wrong. many people marry those who are much younger. i dated a woman who was 15 years younger for about 18 months. we broke up but it didn't have anything to do with age. if the chemistry is right age doesn't matter that much. every one is different though. when i finally married, i married a woman 7 years younger. we have been married now for almost 15 years. a friend of mine has been married 10 years and he is 10 years older than his wife. but of course we live in Tennessee and our wives are our 2nd cousins ........ just kidding about the cousin part. ha ha

Answer 6

Hi there, i dont see anything wrong with it but just be careful you dont come on to strong, i was 18 when i met my hisband and he was 33 , the same age as you are, we will be married 21 years this may.... so see it can work.... good luck doll....

Answer 7

Nah. 8 years is nothing. You have to consider what future you would have together though. You would be at the time of your life where you might want to settle down and have a family, at 25 she probably isn't thinking along those lines.

If its just physical then go for it, if you want a relationship, then consider the results.

Answer 8

The age difference isn't a problem. However, pursuing someone at work can lead to heartache in LOTS of ways, big and small.

First of all, if your company has a sexual-harassment policy in place, you may actually be subject to discipline up to and including termination -- translation: they can FIRE you -- for "pursuing" her. If your HR department has a Web site, check it out. And if not, see the Sources field for the EEOC's Web page on Federal sexual harassment policy.

Second, never underestimate the power and nastiness of the office gossip-mill. It's all well and good to say "oh, I'm above paying attention to office gossip," but depending on your company's culture, this can make your working life hell, whether you pay attention or not. And sadly, the gossip-mill may go into action whether you end up dating her or not; you could become known as "that guy who hits on all the girls," based on a perceived relationship with one person. (And no... you won't be able to keep it private forever. In fact, I'm of the opinion that trying to keep it private makes it look WORSE than just coming out and telling your supervisor, "I've had a couple dates with Julie in Accounting, any problem with that?")

Third, you may end up in a relationship with her. This is going to make some people at your work uncomfortable, and they may well be in a position to make YOU uncomfortable. Fair? No. The way it is? Yes. Life stops being fair about the time Santa doesn't bring you the genuine official Red Ryder 200-shot carbine action range model air rifle you asked him for (but at least you won't shoot your eye out). But people will get uncomfortable because they wish THEY could hit on the cute 25-year-old in Accounting, or they wish someone would hit on THEM, or they're AFRAID someone will hit on them.

Fourth, this relationship may develop. Which means more people at work know about it, which means more people may get uncomfortable with it. If you work in an open, mature environment where people are accepting, this could be the best possible outcome, because eventually people will just learn that Bob and Sue are a couple, and treat you the way mature people treat couples. And I am resisting the temptation to say "And monkeys will fly out of my butt."

Fifth, the relationship may end. In which case you're going to be running into Jane every time your departments have a staff meeting, and you're going to know that she's seen you in your Spiderman boxer shorts, and that you like to eat Cheez-its with peanut butter... in bed... while watching interior design shows. (Hey, don't worry -- I watch "Design Remix," but that's because I think Karen McAloon is hot... :-)

So, how do I know all this? I've been there myself, 25+ years ago. In my case, I had pretty much all the "bad" results, though I think a lot of those were because the woman I dated wanted to keep it low-key, which is why I believe that trying to keep it a secret only makes it worse. (Repeat after me: "Ah did NOT have impropah sexual relations with that woman, Ms. Lewinsky." Have I made myself perfectly clear?) And a lot of our problems were due to the corporate culture where we were working; I've had jobs since at other places where dating, if you could even call it that, was completely acceptable. (Employees with benefits? :-)

So... if you decide to pursue this, go in with your eyes open, and think about the whole process. Yeah, I know, that's a sucky way to approach a possible romance, but it's better than finding yourself unemployed, disliked and mistrusted by most of your co-workers, or stuck going to meetings with a woman who dated you for a while and then broke up messily, and who now knows any number of intimate and possibly embarrassing details about you.

On the plus side, it's really, really great to sit in a boring team meeting looking at your sweetie and thinking, I know what she looks like naked...

Answer 9

No way go for it it is different if she is 14 and your 21 but your both adults

Answer 10

If she seems interested tehn there is no reason for you to hold off. However you may want to check with your office policies to see if you are even allowed to date co-workers.

Answer 11

I would be careful about the work thing; the age is not an issue.