What do you think is best? Or do you think it is a woman's personal decision to see what works the best in their own home without being critized for either choice.
2007-01-23 08:33:12 · 13 answers · asked by Ms. Chick 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am at stay at home mom. That is what is best for me. And let me just say that whatever you pick, someone will criticize you. Please do your part to support other women's choices whatever you decide. Women already put enough pressure on themselves as mothers. we need to stick together, not judge each others' choices.
Verdict: staying at home is right for me. you need to decide for yourself what is right for you.
2007-01-23 08:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by mystery_me 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-22 03:58:50 · answer #2 · answered by Maryann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To some degree, other moms may be a little jealous! Not everyone can afford to be a stay at home mom, and as in your case, afford to be a working mom! The argument is a long standing one, and you'll find rude people that don't have the ability to respect your decision. If it feels right to you, don't worry about other's opinions. Doing the best by your child is the most important. I'm due in November, and am struggling with the same decision. I'm considering part-time to satisfy both needs. You can always make money, but you can't always make up for lost time!
2016-05-24 01:46:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a stay at home mom. It works for our family. I have no issues with working mothers at all.
If I worked, I would not be the Mom I am. There are some people who are marvelous mothers BECAUSE they work and bring that to the family table.
My husband is the best man. He treats me with love and respect and tenderness. He's smart, holds a Master's Degree and has a wonderful balance between work/homelife.
And he was raised by a WORKING MOTHER!
One of the reasons we decided that I would stay home is this: We have 3 children. If one of the kids is sick, one of us would have to cut work to stay home. And most likely, we'd trade off. And both our careers wouldn't advance. We also like to be very involved in the school. To do so, we'd also have to trade taking off. Which doesn't spell "advancement" in most career circles. I'm able to spend a LOT of time in the school and for OUR family, that's a big deal.
I also know that I would NEVER draw the salary my husband does. I would work for daycare/clothes/commuting costs.
I know that a lot of women are completely fulfilled and are the wonderful woman/mother/wife they are because of the satisfaction they get from their career. I'm not that type of woman. I'm not lazy, by any means...I'm just not driven by a career.
I think we set ourselves up by putting it as a "versus" deal. How about - we are all mothers doing what we can do at the very best of our abilities?
2007-01-23 09:25:33 · answer #4 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think either is fine. As long as the family dynamic is working, why should it matter if the mom is working or not? I think it is up the mom to decide whether to work or not, but a key factor is if the family can afford the mom to stay at home or not.
Verdict: Mom's decision.
2007-01-23 08:40:43 · answer #5 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's the woman's own darn business. She knows what is best for her family and herself. I have been both and now I am somewhere in between. I operate a business out of my home, so I'm always home, I just have a nanny for my son so I can work. No one should be made to feel guilty, lower, etc. for her decisions.
2007-01-23 08:43:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is the women's/familys choice. In my case I am a stay at home mom because we really wanted our child to grow up with mom at home and it wouldn't have been a finacial benefit for me work (after you include my car, gas, day care, clothes etc.). I don't think one is better than another both can be the perfect mothers.
2007-01-23 08:41:25 · answer #7 · answered by mdoud01 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If at all possible it is best for a Mom to stay home with her children. It is not likely that any one will love and care for a child the way their own Mom will, no matter what any one says.
There is so much craziness in the world today, if you can afford to stay home with you kids and give that consistent love and attention, you will both reap the benefits.
2007-01-23 08:43:04 · answer #8 · answered by redeemed 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It has to be the woman's personal decision. What ever works best for her family and she shouldn't be criticized for either choice.
2007-01-23 08:40:48 · answer #9 · answered by TRUE PATRIOT 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's up to each mom. Each family has things they believe in. One isn't wrong for staying home and the other isn't wrong for going to work.
2007-01-23 08:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋